Accepting The Troll Underneath the Bridge: Overcoming Our Self-Doubts

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Just who is "the troll"? The troll is the disgruntled, negative voice within each of us that works tirelessly to remind us of our deepest fears of inadequacy. As we attempt to better ourselves or our lot in life—that is, to cross any bridge—it is the troll underneath that bridge that belittles and taunts us until, too battered to go on, we return to the "safe" side of the bridge. The troll is well equipped to do battle, employing a full arsenal of tricks to promote self-doubt and keep us as prisoners of low ...

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Overview

Just who is "the troll"? The troll is the disgruntled, negative voice within each of us that works tirelessly to remind us of our deepest fears of inadequacy. As we attempt to better ourselves or our lot in life—that is, to cross any bridge—it is the troll underneath that bridge that belittles and taunts us until, too battered to go on, we return to the "safe" side of the bridge. The troll is well equipped to do battle, employing a full arsenal of tricks to promote self-doubt and keep us as prisoners of low self-esteem. Rather than suggest that we wage war with the troll, however, Terry Cooper—through a sound blend of psychology and spirituality—encourages us to understand the ways of the troll, the ways we inadvertently aid and abet the work of the troll and the ways we can handle our conflict with the troll. Perhaps most importantly, Dr. Cooper helps us realize that it is our acceptance of the troll as part of ourselves that ultimately enables us to disarm the troll. With this realization, we no longer resist grace; we are on the way to healing our troll.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781608996728
  • Publisher: Wipf & Stock Publishers
  • Publication date: 5/1/2010
  • Pages: 76
  • Sales rank: 1,413,047
  • Product dimensions: 8.70 (w) x 6.80 (h) x 0.20 (d)

Meet the Author

Terry D. Cooper holds doctorates from both Vanderbilt University and St. Louis University . He is Professor of Psychology at St. Louis Community College and Adj. Professor of Religious Studies at Webster University . Terry is the author of 10 books.

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Table of Contents

Introduction 1

Who Has a Troll Problem? 1

Troll Battles and Self-Obsession 2

Hope for the Troll 4

1 Self-Esteem and the Troll's Tricks 5

Troll Beginnings 8

When the Troll Uses Religion 9

Shame-The Troll's Weapon 10

The Troll's "Dirty Dozen" 10

2 Approval Seeking: "Out-Pleasing" Our Troll 17

JoAnn's Story of Approval-Seeking 18

Some Helpful Hints for Approval-Seekers 20

3 Blaming and Judging: Projecting Our Troll 24

Judgmentalism in Action-Warren's Story 24

Becoming Less Judgmental 27

4 Aloofness and Detachment: Being "Too Cool" for Our Troll 32

Irene's False Sense of Security 33

Moving Beyond Our False Securities 36

5 Anger, the Troll, and Healthy Conflict 37

Anger Pattern No. 1-Troll-Denial 38

Anger Pattern No. 2-Troll-Explosion 39

Anger Pattern No. 3-Unexpected Exploder 39

Anger Pattern No. 4-Quiet Revenge 41

Suggestions for Healthy Conflict 41

Finding Balance 45

6 Accepting Our Troll (A Healing Paradox) 47

Getting in Our Own Way 48

The Problem with Troll-Killing 49

The Most Difficult Admission-"We Are Our Troll" 51

Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde-An Excellent Troll Story 52

Extending Grace to Mr. Hyde 53

Steps Toward Troll-Acceptance 54

7 Making It Across the Bridge 60

The Courage of Self-Commitment 61

Paying Attention Versus Self-Centeredness 61

Bridge-Crossing Signals 62

Grace That Leads Us Home 66

Notes 71

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