Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment

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Steve Harvey can’t count the number of impressive women he’s met over the years—women who can run a business, keep a household with three kids in tiptop shape, and chair a church group all at the same time. So when it comes to relationships, why can’t these women figure out what makes men tick? According to Steve it’s because they’re asking other women for advice when they should be going directly to the source. In Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, Steve lets women inside the male mindset; introduces concepts ...

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Overview

Steve Harvey can’t count the number of impressive women he’s met over the years—women who can run a business, keep a household with three kids in tiptop shape, and chair a church group all at the same time. So when it comes to relationships, why can’t these women figure out what makes men tick? According to Steve it’s because they’re asking other women for advice when they should be going directly to the source. In Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, Steve lets women inside the male mindset; introduces concepts such as the ninety-day rule; and reveals the five questions women should ask a potential partner to determine how serious he is.

Sometimes funny, sometimes direct, but always truthful, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man is a book you must read if you want to understand how men think when it comes to relationships, intimacy, and love.

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We all knew that entertaining Steve Harvey could reel off a very funny book about gender relationships; what we hadn't suspected is that he could write one that would also be read as a trustworthy guide. His 2009 Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man was first snatched up by fans of his comedy; then, word spread that the book wasn't just witty; it was wise. Two million copies later, the hardcover has become a paperback and NOOK Book and is slated to become a feature length film.

The Philadelphia Inquirer
“Harvey offers surprising insights into the male mentality and gives women strategies for taming that unruly beast.”
New York Beacon
“Filled with practical principles, rules and tips, and illustrated with humorous and warm-hearted anecdotes from Harvey’s life and friendships, ACT LIKE A LADY, THINK LIKE A MAN gives readers the real deal about the differences between the sexes and how to bridge them for a mutually rewarding partnership.”
Los Angeles Sentinel
“Harvey’s must-have guide to unlocking the male mind, understanding his game, anticipating his moves and countering with unstoppable offense and defense.”
Aretha Franklin
“Women should listen to Steve Harvey when it comes to what a good man is about. Steve Harvey dispenses a lot of fabulous information about men. It’s more than the average man will usually tell you. Steve Harvey will give it up.”
Publishers Weekly
As a popular comedian, radio host and red-blooded male, harvey doesn't have the bona fides typical to most women's relationship self-help, but he still manages a thorough, witty guide to the modern man. Harvey undertakes the task because "women are clueless about men," because "men get away with a whole lot of stuff" and because he has "some valuable information to change all of that." Harvey makes a game effort, taking a bold but familiar men-are-dogs approach: if you're "cutting back" on sex, "he will have another woman lined up and waiting to give him what he needs and wants-the cookie." several chapters later, however, he introduces the "ninety-day rule," asserting that, actually, he won't always have another woman lined up-and the only way to make sure is a three month vetting period. Harvey also tackles mama's boys, "independent-and lonely-women," and the matter of children in the dating world ("if he's meeting the kids after you decide he's the one, it's too late"). Feminists and the easily offended probably won't take to harvey's blanket statements and blunt advice, but harvey's fans and those in need of tough (but ticklish) love advice should check it out (especially the hysterical last-chapter q&a).
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780061728983
  • Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers
  • Publication date: 11/22/2011
  • Edition description: Reprint
  • Pages: 240
  • Sales rank: 712
  • Product dimensions: 5.30 (w) x 7.90 (h) x 0.90 (d)

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Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment


By Steve Harvey
Amistad
Copyright © 2009

Steve Harvey
All right reserved.



ISBN: 978-0-06-172897-6



Chapter One What Drives Men

There is no truer statement: men are simple. Get this into your head first, and everything you learn about us in this book will begin to fall into place. Once you get that down, you'll have to understand a few essential truths: men are driven by who they are, what they do, and how much they make. No matter if a man is a CEO, a CON, or both, everything he does is filtered through his title (who he is), how he gets that title (what he does), and the reward he gets for the effort (how much he makes). These three things make up the basic DNA of manhood-the three accomplishments every man must achieve before he feels like he's truly fulfilled his destiny as a man. And until he's achieved his goal in those three areas, the man you're dating, committed to, or married to will be too busy to focus on you.

Think about it: from the moment a boy is born, the first thing everyone around him starts doing is telling him what he must do to be a real man. He is taught to be tough-to wrestle, climb, get up without crying, not let anyone push him around. He is taught to work hard-to do chores around the house, get the groceries out of the car, take out the trash, shovel the snow, cut the grass, and, as soon as he's old enough, get a job. He is taught to protect-to watch out for his mother and his younger siblings, to watch over the house and the family's property. And he is especially encouraged to uphold his family name-make something of himself so that when he walks in a room, everybody is clear about who he is, what he does, and how much he makes. Each of these things is taught in preparation for one thing: manhood.

The pursuit of manhood doesn't change once a boy is grown. In fact, it's only magnified. His focus has always been on, and will remain on, who he is, what he does, and how much he makes until he feels like he's achieved his mission. And until a man does these things, women only fit into the cracks of his life. He's not thinking about settling down, having children, or building a home with anyone until he's got all three of those things in sync. I'm not saying that he has had to have made it, but at least he has to be on track to making it.

This is certainly how it worked for me. I'll never forget how disappointed, frustrated, and unhappy I was when, in my early twenties, I was laid off from the Ford Motor Company. I was already a college dropout, and now, without a job, I hardly had enough money to take care of myself, much less a family. This left me unsure of my future-what I was going to do, how much I was going to make, and what my title would be. The titles "college graduate" and "Ford inspector" were gone; having no job pretty much meant that my chances of bringing home a good paycheck were zero; and I hadn't a clue how I was going to make money. It took me a while to find my footing. I dabbled in various jobs: I owned a carpet cleaning business; I sold carpet; I sold Amway products, the Dick Gregory Bahamian Diet, and ALW Insurance and Commonwealth Insurance. It was madness what I was doing to try to get my life together. Finding someone serious to settle down with was the absolute last thing on my mind.

Then, one night a woman for whom I used to write jokes encouraged me to go to a local comedy club and sign up for amateur night. See, I knew I was funny, and I made a few dollars-very few dollars-writing material for up-and-coming local comedians who were trying to find their way into the industry. But I hadn't a clue, really, how to go about getting into the business for myself. Still, this woman saw something in me and told me to take the stage.

So I did. And I killed. I won $50-which today may not seem like a lot of money, but when I was broke at that time, it felt like $5,000-for telling jokes. I also was guaranteed another fifty dollars if, as the winner, I opened the following week's amateur night competition. The next day, I went to a printer and spent fifteen dollars of my winnings on business cards that, along with my phone number, read: Steve Harvey. Comedian. They were flat and flimsy and didn't have any raised lettering, but those business cards announced that I was Steve Harvey (who I am), and that I had a special talent in comedy (what I do). How much I was going to make remained to be seen, but at least I had the "who I am" and the "what I do" lined up.

If men aren't pursuing their dreams-if we're not chasing the "who we are," the "what we do," and the "how much we make," we're doomed. Dead. But the moment that we figure out the puzzle and feel like our dreams are taking shape, new life breathes into us-it makes us vibrant, enthuses, and animates us. From the moment I became a comedian, I stepped onto that stage ready to be the very best.

Even today, no matter how tired I am, no matter what is going on in my life, I am never late for work, and I've never once missed a gig. Why? Because when I wake up, my dream is in check; I'm living it out live and in color every day, whether it's on the radio during the Steve Harvey Morning Show, or on television with my various projects, or onstage, during my Steve Harvey Live shows. Who I am is certain-I'm Steve Harvey. What I do is certain: comedy. And how much I make is right in line with what I've always wanted for my family and me.

(Continues...)




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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 26, 2012

    I LOVE THIS BOOK

    ANY FEMALE WHO HAS BEEN BROKEN HEARTED MANY TIMES BEFORE. SHOULD READ THIS BOOK IT TRULY IS GOOD, AND GIVES EXCELLENT ADVICE. ITS LIKE LETTING WOMAN KNOW LOVE YOURSELF BEFORE YOU CAN LOVE ANY MAN. WHEN YOU ENTER A RELATIONSHIP YOU SHOULD ALWAYS LET A MAN KNOW WHAT YOUR EXPECT TO HAPPEN IN A RELATIONSHIP AND STAY WITH THOSE CAUSE IF YOU DONT THEN THE MAN IS IN CONTROL AND YOU END UP GETTING HURT.BASIC STUFF LIKE THAT. ITS JUST A ALL TIME BOOK FOR ME. I READ IT AND PUT IT TO USE. RIGHT NOW IM IN A WONDERFUL RELATIONSHIP WITH MY MAN FOR 3 YEARS. WHEN MY FRIEND WAS IN BAD RELATIONSHIP I GAVE IT TO HER NOW EVERYTHING IS A BREEZE FOR HER. SO FOR ME I BELIEVE ITS GOOD ESPECIALLY YOUNG GIRLS SHOULD READ.

    14 out of 14 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 24, 2013

    This is funny

    Ay this movie is so funny if yu havent seen it its a must see movie!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    5 out of 7 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 8, 2013

    Like it alot!

    To keep it short, I learned how simple men are to keep happy. And that woman are soo much more confusing!

    4 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 2, 2013

    Excellent Perspective to Consider

    I always look at books such as these as the author's opinion. This book is a very good opinion to consider as a woman in a relationship with a male, but I can say some of these ideas don't apply to some men. It is still a great perspective to think about. And Steve Harvey always has a sense of humor :)

    3 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 29, 2013

    Awesome book and movie

    Im lovin it!

    Like McLovin!

    3 out of 6 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 22, 2013

    I love this book

    I love the book and the movie so so much

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 11, 2013

    To A

    I all ready have a boyfriend and i am10 years old

    2 out of 11 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 17, 2013

    Enjoyable and informative.

    It always helps when a person writes from a man's perspective and keeps it in the realm of common sense.

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 5, 2012

    Not So Great!

    Guess I should have done some research before I bought a book on marriage from a 3 time divorcee! I did not agree with a lot of the ideas he has. BTW, Men are born with the spirit of self control!

    2 out of 5 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 29, 2013

    good but corny

    good but corny

    1 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 29, 2013

    I saw the movie

    I saw the movie so the book should ne good.Ireally like this movie and i cant wwait to read the book.LOVE THIS.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 21, 2013

    Interesting

    Interesting...

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 3, 2013

    Awesome

    Awesome

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 23, 2013

    Ok sooo..?

    Really...? Ok so Lets all ask for help on how to get a BF through a review. It will totally help us and would never show how desperate we are(: -.-

    1 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 16, 2013

    Informative

    Steve tells it honestly. You may not like everything that he says, but take it with a grain of salt. This book helped me understand what my boyfriend may be thinking and not saying. Your not gonna want to follow all of his advise because you will sacrifie too much of yourself but there are a few useful tidbits...

    1 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 7, 2013

    What a story!

    The book is so good,but,i liked the movie better sorry lol

    1 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 9, 2013

    1 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted February 8, 2013

    Great read Highly recommend this book before commiting to a relationship. I learned alot from this book !

    Awesome book !

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted February 8, 2013

    Lady's read this

    I found this book informative.

    1 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 3, 2013

    Act like a lady. Think like a man. Great must read!

    Waiting for the reversion......Act like a man, think like a lady.

    1 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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