The premature death of a parent can be devastating for young children- with the consequences far more profound when the parent dies by suicide. Amidst the resulting grief, turmoil and confusion, the surviving parent is faced with the monumental task of tending to the emotional lives of the children left behind. In this instructive and impassioned work, longtime children's bereavement counselor and ...
The premature death of a parent can be devastating for young children-
with the consequences far more profound when the parent dies by suicide.
Amidst the resulting grief, turmoil and confusion, the surviving parent is faced with the monumental task of tending to the emotional lives of the children left behind. In this instructive and impassioned work, longtime children's bereavement counselor and psychotherapist Margo Requarth, M.A., M.F.T.,
charts the complex emotional waters every family must navigate in the wake of a previously unimaginable suicide death. Starting with the haunting tale of her own mother's suicide, Requarth weaves together her experience counseling
"survivors," poignant interviews with children, teens and parents, and the latest research on suicide and its aftermath. What emerges is a groundbreaking
"how-to" guide for parent survivors: how to manage both the immediate and long-term implications of the suicide, how to talk to your children, how to see them through the heart-rending anguish to a place of acceptance, healing, and finally, a renewed and deepened capacity for joy.
For five years, Requarth (director, children's bereavement program, Sutter VNA/Hospice, Santa Rosa, CA) researched the effects of a parent's suicide, interviewing 200 children, teens, and adults. The fruits of her labor are apparent in this book, which is targeted to parents who have lost a partner to suicide. Besides sharing the poignant story of her mother's suicide and its impact on her, Requarth summarizes current research on suicide, explores the increased risk of mental health issues for child survivors, and explains some of the prevailing assumptions about suicide cases. At the book's heart, however, are the author's superb explanations of how to explain suicide to children and how children grieve, how grief impacts adolescents, the natural stages of grief, funeral rituals and religious and spiritual perspectives on suicide, and how to help children return to normalcy. Requarth's book offers more on supporting surviving children, teens, and spouses than Alfred Alvarez's The Savage God: A Study of Suicide or Kay Redfield Jamison's Night Falls Fast: Understanding Suicide and is a timely update to Edward J. Dunne and others' Suicide and Its Aftermath: Understanding and Counseling the Survivors. Highly recommended for university libraries supporting the helping professions and larger public libraries.-Dale Farris, Groves, TX Copyright 2006 Reed Business Information.
Margo Requarth was just under four years old when she lost her mother to suicide. Today, she is the child/teen bereavement services director at Sutter VNA & Hospice in Santa Rosa, California, where she leads grief support groups, trains volunteer facilitators, and provides crisis intervention to schools and community groups facing bereavement situations. Her more than thirty-five-year career in the mental health field also includes facilitating groups for adult survivors of suicide and private practice as a licensed marriage and family therapist. She serves on the board of directors for the Northern
California Chapter of the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention.