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Against My Better Judgement: An Intimate Memoir of an Eminent Gay Psycholgist

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Against My Better Judgment: An Intimate Memoir of an Eminent Gay Psychologist is an extraordinary and moving account of the life of a gay man in his late 60s after he loses his companion of 40 years to cancer. A leading professor of psychology at Harvard University, Roger Brown bravely comes forth with his compelling story of grief, loneliness, and a relentless search for intimacy, healing, and self-acceptance. Readers gain insight into a stage of life experienced by gay men of which little is written or spoken ...

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Overview

Against My Better Judgment: An Intimate Memoir of an Eminent Gay Psychologist is an extraordinary and moving account of the life of a gay man in his late 60s after he loses his companion of 40 years to cancer. A leading professor of psychology at Harvard University, Roger Brown bravely comes forth with his compelling story of grief, loneliness, and a relentless search for intimacy, healing, and self-acceptance. Readers gain insight into a stage of life experienced by gay men of which little is written or spoken due to the ageism that characterizes homosexual culture.

Against My Better Judgment reveals deeply personal truths that will prepare gay men for what to expect in the later stages of life. Universal in nature, these truths will speak to readers from various lifestyles and of all ages. Readers will recognize the book as a story of looking for love in all the wrong places, but will also see in it a process of discovery—both internal and external.

In the aftermath of his lover’s death, Brown turns to prostitutes for companionship, for relieving repressed sexual energy, and even for love. Through his unique relationships with three young men, he does not find the romantic love he so desperately seeks, but discovers that his idea of human nature has been formed by his particular life position and association with people who share his values, knowledge, and privileges. Once he goes outside his social and intellectual circle, he acquires a new perspective on life and realizes how far from universal truth his notions of humanity have been.

Readers of Against My Better Judgment will gain a different perspective on the complexities of love, relationships, fidelity, human nature, and the hardships of life inevitably faced by all humans—straight, gay, or bisexual. Gay men, lesbians, psychologists, widowers, therapists, and anthropologists, as well as sensitive readers of any background, will heighten their understanding of what it means to be human. This remarkable story makes a tremendous contribution to existing gay literature and the timeless struggle of art and literature to make sense of the universe and the place of humans within it. Echoing life, Against My Better Judgment, with its brutal honesty, intrigues and repels alternately, just as it elicits both sadness and laughter.

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Philip S. Holzman
A stirring personal memoir that will leave no reader unmoved… Told in graceful prose, the story mixes the tragic with the comic and absurd in such a way that produces art… An affecting human document that takes the reader, perhaps unwillingly, because it is an "in-your-face" story, beyond the shock of un-recognition of this renowned, erudite, and culture psychologist, to the understanding of the universal and complex nature of human attachments… Brown, in his self-exposure may have written his most penetrating psychological study in this depiction of the human condition in late life.
—(Philip S. Holzman, Ph.D., Professor of Psychology Emeritus, Harvard University)
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781560238881
  • Publisher: Taylor & Francis
  • Publication date: 10/28/1996
  • Series: Haworth Gay and Lesbian Studies
  • Edition description: Revised
  • Pages: 253
  • Product dimensions: 5.90 (w) x 8.30 (h) x 0.80 (d)

Table of Contents

Contents
Acknowledgments

  • Introduction
  • Prelude to the Afternoon of a Faun
  • Career Crisis
  • Dream Boys
  • Face-Lift
  • Skippy
  • Grant
  • Patrick
  • Lie Down With Panthers
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