Aging Parents, Aging Children: How to Stay Sane and Survive


Sandwiched between the escalating needs of their aging relatives and their own children, today?s adult children are caught in an intergenerational squeeze. This self-help book, highly readable and upbeat, with readily identifiable case examples, speaks clearly and directly to Boomers and other caregivers, addressing the feelings that come into play within themselves and their family system. Liberally sprinkled with readable, easy to identify clinical examples, Aging Parents, Aging Children helps the reader to ...

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Sandwiched between the escalating needs of their aging relatives and their own children, today’s adult children are caught in an intergenerational squeeze. This self-help book, highly readable and upbeat, with readily identifiable case examples, speaks clearly and directly to Boomers and other caregivers, addressing the feelings that come into play within themselves and their family system. Liberally sprinkled with readable, easy to identify clinical examples, Aging Parents, Aging Children helps the reader to gain a foothold on their own very personal situation by identifying and shoring up their own strengths. The authors help readers to understand the various contemporary family configurations with their intrapersonal and interpersonal dynamics. They explain how our respective belief systems shape our actions in interacting with aging parents. Completely up-to-date research findings in an action-oriented context support practical, easy-to-apply information to help families to cope better during this potentially stressful period of life.

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Editorial Reviews

The Family Psychologist
This book is the guide for professionals and laypersons alike, one you cannot do without if you are dealing with elder care on any level.
Independent Practitioner
This book is the handbook/guide for every professional, one you cannot do without. It is well researched, well documented and reads smoothly. Easy to use, it should be in your office bookcase and suggested to all who seek you out.
Educational Gerontology
Aging Parents, Aging Children, is an excellent resource for individuals facing the challenge of caring for their aging parents....This is an especially informative guide for caregivers and professionals working with caregivers....It deals with the emotional and financial aspect of caregiving from both perspectives....The book can be useful to anyone giving and receiving care.
Cathy Cress
Aging Parents, Aging Children: How to Stay Sane and Survive covers a too little researched national health care dilemma- caring for the caregiver of aging parents. This public health crisis is really similar to the era when the US had nation wide smallpox epidemics and no research or cure. Aronson and Weiner's book both identifies the problem boomers endure every day struggling to care for their a progressively disabled parents and offers an immunization of sorts -how to stay sane and survive. Family caregivers offer $200 billion dollars a year in unpaid care, yet unrecognized at the federal level. For this filial grace they reap a miserable toll in depression, stress, anxiety, divorce job loss and bodily illness. This book gives these heroic caregivers prescriptions to avoid this physical and mental toll, while offering their aging family members the care they so badly need. It is a win- win book and exactly at the right time.
Patricia Pitta
An extraordinary book that offers a one stop shop for all the information you need about the golden years for the elderly as well as the family members and caretakers. Outstanding information that will enable the readers to avoid many pitfalls of aging.
Nancy B. Emerson Lombardo
I enthusiastically recommend this book for both families and professionals. Aging Parents, Aging Children is a great read full of meaty examples, slices of real life from an array of family and caregiving situations, which are not only inherently interesting and fun to read but also help guide families and professionals alike who are grappling with challenging issues. Thanks to the authors' decades of experience, this book provides a painless way to gain insights to help with one's own life, as well as some detailed practical ideas for "what to do and how to do it".
Edwin C. Weiss
This age of rapid advancement in technology has afforded us an amazing improvement in our overall health. We have watched our lifespan improve from the average of 45 years of age in the 19th century to well over 76 in the 21st century. Most of us, in fact the majority of us, enjoy good health. With these miracle advances in health care, however, come the unforeseen byproducts; chronic disease and Dementia. Dementia, the decline in cognitive ability, while present since early recorded history confounds countless numbers of families today with this burden as the ranks of our seniors continue to increase. Chronic illness follows close behind.

This 'guidebook' by Drs. Aronson and Weiner is an invaluable resource to families who are under the yoke of these diseases. For it's not just the individual burdened with illness, but family members at all levels who find themselves in the role of caregivers who must deal 24/7 with incurable afflictions.

This edition walks you through the entire spectrum of these processes. From diagnosis to treatment, home care, and long term care facilities. It covers a spectrum of chronic diseases and provides information about some of the most common dilemmas. Specific resources for funding from government to private sources are discussed and a glossary of terms is provided to help you comprehend the complex issues that doctors, nurses, and social workers discuss with you. Specific cases are provided for you that almost invariably describe your situation and help you to develop an approach and find the resources to deal with it.

The psychosocial issues and complexity of family dynamics are also discussed at length. A self help guide discusses the emotional problems you have experienced while caring for your loved one and helps you to gain perspective and strength to continue to provide love and support.

As Thoreau said, 'It is the practical solutions to the problems of life that we need to find,' and this guide is the GPS navigation system for dementia and other chronic illnes

Lee Robbins Gardner
Aging Parents, Aging Children by Drs. Aronson and Weiner is unique in that although the primary perspective on the problems, solutions and dilemmas in caring for our elder family members is through the eyes of their middle-aged children, this is definitely a 'now' book for readers of every generation. Many in my profession concur that our society is weak in manifesting and modeling respect, compassion and empathy. Drawing on a wealth of experiences, the authors present example after example of challenging situations that are met with humor and creative coping skills. I unequivocally suggest that you read this book (regardless of your current family responsibilities and burdens) and then casually leave it out in the living room for the rest of your family to experience and learn from.
Library Journal
Nearly 44 million Americans now provide care for elderly relatives, often while raising children and holding down full-time jobs. The ranks of informal caregivers will increase dramatically, as will their demands for practical information on elder care, as the baby boomers age. This latest addition to the literature is a collaboration between Aronson (founding member, National Alzheimer's Assn.; Understanding Alzheimer's Disease: What It Is, How To Cope with It) and psychotherapist Weiner (Old People Are a Burden But Not My Parents). Their book is made up of scanty discussions of the usual caregiving subjects—care planning, managing finances, Alzheimer's disease, nursing home placement—often limited to just a few paragraphs. Most of the book is devoted to detailed, rambling stories of family histories and relationships of individual caregivers and their parents drawn from the authors' clinical experiences. Features are limited to a glossary; there is no bibliography, resource list, references, or web site recommendations. Far better choices are Susan Beerman and Judith Rappaport-Musson's Eldercare 911: The Caregiver's Complete Handbook for Making Decisions, Rachelle Zukerman's Eldercare For Dummies, and Hugh Delehanty and Elinor Ginzler's Caring for Your Parents: The Complete AARP Guide. An optional purchase.
—Karen McNally
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780742547469
  • Publisher: Aronson, Jason Inc.
  • Publication date: 3/15/2007
  • Edition description: New Edition
  • Pages: 160
  • Sales rank: 1,148,505
  • Product dimensions: 5.98 (w) x 8.81 (h) x 0.55 (d)

Meet the Author

Miriam K. Aronson, Ed.D. and Marcella Bakur Weiner, Ph.D. are respected authors, teachers and practitioners in the area of gerontology. Dr. Aronson, a founder of the National Alzheimer’s Association, is on the faculty of the Albert Einstein College of Medicine and has many publications in gerontology. She has lectured nationally and internationally and has been interviewed by major media. She has a private geriatric care management practice and consults to geriatric service providers including hospitals, medical practices, nursing homes, assisted living, and adult medical day care. She lives in New Jersey. Dr. Weiner has conducted workshops in the U.S.A. and in most countries abroad, is published widely, including The Starr Weiner Report on Sex and Sexuality that attracted national attention, including interviews by numerous newspapers, magazines and media. As a Fellow of the American Psychological Association, Dr. Weiner is an active member of the Media Committee. She is currently an Adjunct Professor at Marymount Manhattan College in New York City and maintains a private psychotherapy practice. She lives in Brooklyn, New York.

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Table of Contents

Chapter 1 The Sandwiched Chapter 2 Philosophies, Beliefs, and Traits Chapter 3 A Kaleidoscope of Families: Tied and Untied Chapter 4 Sizing It Up Chapter 5 Planning: Deveolping a Blueprint Chapter 6 Money, Money, Money Chapter 7 Alzheimer's Disease Chapter 8 The Road to Placement Chapter 9 When Your Parent Is On the Difficult Side Chapter 10 Emotions in Everyday Life Chapter 11 Caring for You, the Caregiver Chapter 12 A Primer for Demystifying the Maze

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 14, 2007

    A timely selection: short sweet and to the point

    As a practicing professional in the field of aging, I find 'Aging Parents, Aging Children' by Drs. Aronson & Bakur-Weiner to be timely, short, sweet, and very to the point. With seventy-seven million Baby Boomers currently turning sixty and ill prepared for what they will have to face in the very near future, how wonderful it is to have two established experts in the field guiding us through these troubled waters. Bravo!! Fred Moskovitz, Psy. D.

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