All Kinds of Love: Experiencing Hospice

by Carolyn Jaffe, Carol Erhlich

Overview

Presents a view of hospice care through the eyes of a long-term hospice nurse. This title includes stories which are accompanied by discussion of end-of-life issues that arise among the families hospice nurse has served. It is useful for health care and social worker and layperson alike.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780895031471
Publisher:	Taylor & Francis
Publication date:	06/15/1997
Series:	Death, Value and Meaning Series
Edition description:	New Edition
Pages:	364
Product dimensions:	6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x (d)

About the Author

Carolyn Jaffe, Carol Erhlich

Table of Contents

Hospice Is: The authors offer eight elements that define hospice

Forward by Rabbi Dr. Earl A. Grollman

Preface by Ira Byock, M.D.

Introduction

Chapter 1: All Kinds of Love: The story of Aggie and her brother speaks to the universal need for acceptance, compassion and love. Her dying is transformed into self-realization by the hospice team that supports them. Notes: Discussion of roles and qualities of hospice team members; of the holistic perspective in care.

Chapter 2: The Intimate Hour: Minnie lives out her last months with her daughter's family. We see their stresses, but in their conflicts, coping and rewards, we feel them grow strong. Notes: Discussion of home care; of institutional care.

Chapter 3: Only God Knows When: The story of Heather, a first-grader dying of leukemia, tells of the heroic struggle for her life and the professionals who participated in it. It reveals the effects of her illness and death on her family, and the value of the bereavement program hospice provided them. Notes: Discussion of grieving; of bereavement.

Chapter 4; The Gift of Choice: Joseph, a businessman dying of pancreatic cancer, decides to end it all in suicide. The hospice nurse, Janice listens; his wife responds from her gut, helping him in a surprising way. Notes: Discussion of assisted suicide, withholding treatment, advance directives, Do Not Resuscitate orders.

Chapter 5: What's best for Me: Henrietta's husband tries by his will to keep her alive—at all costs, and without regard for her feelings. Through hospice, she finds the courage to be herself, dying at least in part on her own terms. Notes: Discussion of dignity in dying; of patient control.

Chapter 6: Cocktails and Images: William suffers intractable pain from prostrate cancer: Janice, his nurse fights to find relief for him and his wife through innovations in pain control—hypnosis and imaging. Notes: Discussion of pain control.

Chapter 7: The Ties that Bind: Sandy is diagnosed with AIDS. We see a flashback to his tell-all talk with his parents, then follow his course through illness and dying. Humor; pathos, religious doubts, conflicts and resolution all comprise his story. Notes: Discussion of AIDS care; of spiritual care; of humor.

Chapter 8: Letters and a Diary: The feelings and growth of a mother and her daughters are chronicled in their writings as their father's life draws to a close. The hospice team supports and models their open communication. Notes: Discussion of a "good death"—a better way to die.

Chapter 9: Beginnings and Reflections: Jaffe explores her life for the reasons she dedicated herself to hospice nursing, and looking back, describes the milestones of her growth in that role.

Appendix: Perspective: A critique of success and shortcomings in hospice, as well as suggestions for improving its programs.

References

Bibliography of Additional Readings

What People are Saying About This

Jeanine Tweedie

I have recently read the book, All Kinds of Love: Experiencing Hospice and was so impressed that I have submitted a request to the Nursing Curriculum Committee to adopt it as a required text. I have reviewed many books related to death, dying, and bereavement, and hospice. This book stands out because of the personal, moving scenarios followed by the theory explanation based on the scenarios. Other books present theory but do not bridge the gap to application as this book does. I also enjoyed the examples of caring in a broad range of terminal settings. In addition, I believe this book will help students to understand what it means to be committed to caring as a professional nurse.
—R.N., M.S.N., Assistant Professor of Nursing, Hawaii Pacific University

Ira R. Byock

This book contributes to the critical re-storying of America with tales of people in the authentic, human act of dying. In the stories it tells and the humanity it reveals, All Kinds of Love will probably prove as valuable as the most heavily funded, scientifically exacting research. It deserves to become course material for public and clinical education at all levels.
—M.D., President, American Academy of Hospice and Palliative Care Physicians

Rabbi Earl A. Grollman

Here you will explore the personal real-life issues of dying and death in an open manner that makes effortless reading. They (the authors) write with powerful and penetrating insights and practical advice that will afford understanding and solace to grieving hearts and inquiring minds. . . The book is indispensable not only for health professionals but for all of us who will ultimately confront the reality of death.

Norm Dinerman

This book is truly a humanistic tour de force. It is a classic, and should be read not only by those who must interact with a dying loved one, but by each of us as we confront our own mortality, and the meaning of a life well lived.
—M.D., Chief, Emergency Medicine Service Medical Director, State of Maine

Dr. Phillip Wolfe

All Kinds of Love: Experiencing Hospice should be required reading for medical students who seek guidance for the inevitably perplexing end of life-issues.
—Chief of Clinical Cardiology, University of Colorado Health Sciences Center

Joseph Kordick

This book provides incisive insights into the hospice process, as only a nurse with the extensive experience of Carolyn Jaffe could express it. . . I am pleased to recommend the reading of this compassionate and enlightening description of hospice, as seen through the eyes of possibly the most important participant in the process-the hospice nurse.
—Vice President, Ford Motor Co. (Retired)