All You Need Is Love and Other Lies about Marriage: How to Save Your Marriage before It's Too Late

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Why is it so difficult to remain married in thetwenty-first century, and what can you do about it?

We all know that half of today's marriages end in divorce, but we tend to believe that our own marriages are safe. As psychiatrist John Jacobs explains in this fresh and impassioned book, marriages today are incredibly fragile, and unless a couple understands what is making contemporary marriage so vulnerable to dissolution, the marriage is at ...

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Overview

Why is it so difficult to remain married in thetwenty-first century, and what can you do about it?

We all know that half of today's marriages end in divorce, but we tend to believe that our own marriages are safe. As psychiatrist John Jacobs explains in this fresh and impassioned book, marriages today are incredibly fragile, and unless a couple understands what is making contemporary marriage so vulnerable to dissolution, the marriage is at risk.

Part of the problem is that people refuse to see how social and historical forces have changed the very meaning of marriage, causing serious interpersonal unhappiness. Because of increased longevity, married people live together longer than at any time in history. There's been an erosion of the social and cultural forces that traditionally kept marriages together. Confusion over gender-role responsibilities, increased expectations of sexual satisfaction, and intense time pressures on couples to work and be successful all create marital stress.

And yet, most people don't acknowledge the problems in their marriage until it is too late. We tend to believe in the "lies of marriage" -- such concepts as soul mates, unconditional love, that children improve a relationship, that the sexual revolution has made marital sex more pleasurable, or that egalitarian marriage offers couples easy solutions -- and forget to engage in the constant hardwork required to keep our marriages alive.

Dr. Jacobs believes that most marriages have significant problems at some time, but until we recognize the new realities of marriage and develop the skills required to sustain a loving, intimate relationship, marriages are at risk.

Of course marriage is about love. But that's just the beginning.

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Cleveland Plain Dealer
“Enlightening…puts the conflicts of modern married couples into historical and cultural perspective. Astute [and] authentic.”
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780060509316
  • Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers
  • Publication date: 3/1/2005
  • Edition description: Reprint
  • Pages: 272
  • Sales rank: 667,881
  • Product dimensions: 5.31 (w) x 8.00 (h) x 0.61 (d)

Meet the Author

John W. Jacobs, M.D., is a psychiatrist in private practice in Manhattan. He is a Clinical Associate Professor of Psychiatry at the New York University School of Medicine where he teaches couples and family therapy to psychiatric residents. He lives in New York City with his wife and children.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 18, 2008

    A must read for all engaged couples

    I picked this up on a whim one evening and thought it was fabulous! I now give it to all brides at their showers and many have told me they have started to do the same. I was happily married at the time and everyone wondered why I would be interested in it in the first place? I was wandering through a store and noticed it on an aisle and picked it up and couldn't put it down. It's not a hard read but brings up many subjects that aren't dealt with prior to marrying, such as having children will make a marriage stronger. It made so much sense that I bought it and kept it with the intent of passing it on to others. I was later widowed and have subsequently remarried but even I re-read it before taking the plunge again.

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