Almost a Psychopath: Do I (or Does Someone I Know) Have a Problem with Manipulation and Lack of Empathy?

Almost a Psychopath: Do I (or Does Someone I Know) Have a Problem with Manipulation and Lack of Empathy?

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by Ronald Schouten, James Silver
     
 

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Do you know someone who is highly manipulative and full of himself? Or someone who charms the masses yet lacks the ability to connect deeply with those around her?

Grandiosity. Pathological lying. Lack of remorse. Shallowness. Exploitation, perhaps for financial gain. Those are the qualities of "almost psychopaths." They are not the deranged criminals often

Overview

Do you know someone who is highly manipulative and full of himself? Or someone who charms the masses yet lacks the ability to connect deeply with those around her?

Grandiosity. Pathological lying. Lack of remorse. Shallowness. Exploitation, perhaps for financial gain. Those are the qualities of "almost psychopaths." They are not the deranged criminals often called psychopaths in the movies. They are spouses, coworkers, bosses, neighbors, and newsmakers who exhibit many of the behaviors of a full-blown psychopath, but with less intensity and consistency. In this book, the authors draw on scientific research and their own professional experience to help you identify these traits in another-or perhaps in yourself. They offer practical tools to help you

recognize the behavior, attitudes, and characteristics of "almost psychopaths"

make sense of interactions you've had with them

devise strategies for dealing with them in the present

make informed decisions about your next steps

learn ways to help them better control their behavior

Editorial Reviews

From the Publisher

--2012 IPBA Benjamin Franklin GOLD Award Winner in the category of Psychology

"Dr. Schouten and Mr. Silver have written a sophisticated self-help book aimed primarily at those victims--parents, spouses and co-workers--but also at those who might sense some of these traits in themselves. The authors include a detailed discussion of the thought processes behind a psychiatric evaluation and an overview of the still-tentative theories of causation.

The almost-psychopaths are inherently fascinating; they may rise high and fall low (certain scions of politics and finance come to mind) or simply cause smaller miseries in their roles as controlling spouses, manipulative colleagues or uncontrollable teenagers.

At work they may be competent, self-disciplined and high-achieving. At home they may be charming and lots of fun. And on the inside they may be just as morally empty as any true psychopath, but the almost-psychopaths are grounded enough to keep some of their worst instincts in check, staying employed and out of major legal trouble."
--Abigail Zuger, New York Times, June 26, 2012

"Most of us have had an inexplicably uncomfortable feeling upon meeting certain people. They do not fit the psychopath mold, but they leave us with the proverbial hairs on the back of our necks standing alert. Schouten and Silver have done a masterful job explaining both why we have this reaction and how we might deal with almost psychopaths."
--Mark Albanese, MD, Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and the Director of Addictions at Cambridge Health Alliance.

"At a time when the label 'psychopath' has devolved into a mere epithet, Schouten and Silver provide the understanding that comes from recent research in the field, as well as their many years of education, training, and clinical practice. Most importantly, their 'operational' approach to interactions with those who demonstrate psychopathic behaviors provides a primer for all who might otherwise fall prey to psychopathic behaviors of colleagues, co-workers, and yes, even family members."
--Gregory Saathoff, MD; author, Criminal Poisoning: Clinical and Forensic Perspectives, Associate Professor of Research, University of Virginia School of Medicine

"Psychopaths are the predatory and very dangerous few. Those who are 'almost a psychopath' create mischief and misery for many. In this marvelous book of knowledge, wisdom, and sound advice, the subclinical--or should we say subcriminal--psychopath is brought to life. He can be dangerous but not lethal, duplicitous but not completely fraudulent. We finally have a book to help us recognize and cope with this personality.
--Reid Meloy, PhD, Forensic Psychologist and author, The Psychopathic Mind

"The Almost Effect Series of books captures the fundamentally human experiences and helps readers interpret what the symptoms might mean--both for themselves and others. The Almost Effect collection should be required reading for those interested in psychology and human behavior."
--Howard J. Shaffer, PhD, Associate Professor at Harvard Medical School; Director of the Division on Addiction at the Cambridge Health Alliance; co-author: Change Your Gambling, Change Your Life

"By highlighting the continuum of psychopathy and placing its associated symptoms and behaviors within the context of everyday encounters, the authors make understanding these difficult to manage people a little bit easier for everyone."
--Sally C. Johnson, MD

"Almost a Psychopath is a powerful read for those who want to better understand this mental illness and how to work with such individuals."
--The Midwest Book Review

Library Journal
In this entry in the "Almost Effect" series, former federal prosecutor Schouten and Silver (psychiatry, Harvard Medical Sch.) seek to address psychopathy, a problem located between neurosis and psychosis, in a manner accessible to the general public. Schouten and Silver provide many examples and walk readers through the process of diagnosis so that readers can discern true psychopathy from similar conditions. Chapters cover diagnostic criteria, workplace situations, relations with loved ones, children and abuse, malingering or feigned illness, and self-evaluation. Although the tone is positive, some examples provided are troubling. For instance, the chapter concerning handling "almost psychopaths" in the workplace suggests "buff up your resume and start the process of moving on." Can almost psychopaths change? How do almost psychopaths change the people around them? An outline for problem solving includes acknowledging/accepting the problem; refusing to be helpless; documenting abuse; reaching out to family, friends, and professionals; being willing to say something; and getting out of hurtful situations. VERDICT While the book provides excellent diagnostic examples, it lacks sufficient concrete, helpful tips for readers victimized by psychopaths, whether almost or real.—Nadine Dalton Speidel, Cuyahoga Cty. P.L., Parma, OH

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781616491024
Publisher:
Hazelden Publishing
Publication date:
06/12/2012
Pages:
280
Sales rank:
99,509
Product dimensions:
5.30(w) x 8.20(h) x 0.80(d)

What People are saying about this

From the Publisher

"Dr. Schouten and Mr. Silver have written a sophisticated self-help book aimed primarily at those victims — parents, spouses and co-workers — but also at those who might sense some of these traits in themselves. The authors include a detailed discussion of the thought processes behind a psychiatric evaluation and an overview of the still-tentative theories of causation.

The almost-psychopaths are inherently fascinating; they may rise high and fall low (certain scions of politics and finance come to mind) or simply cause smaller miseries in their roles as controlling spouses, manipulative colleagues or uncontrollable teenagers.

At work they may be competent, self-disciplined and high-achieving. At home they may be charming and lots of fun. And on the inside they may be just as morally empty as any true psychopath, but the almost-psychopaths are grounded enough to keep some of their worst instincts in check, staying employed and out of major legal trouble."

—Abigail Zuger, New York Times, June 26, 2012

"Most of us have had an inexplicably uncomfortable feeling upon meeting certain people. They do not fit the psychopath mold, but they leave us with the proverbial hairs on the back of our necks standing alert. Schouten and Silver have done a masterful job explaining both why we have this reaction and how we might deal with almost psychopaths."

—Mark Albanese, MD, Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and the Director of Addictions at Cambridge Health Alliance.

“At a time when the label “psychopath” has devolved into a mere epithet, Schouten and Silver provide the understanding that comes from recent research in the field, as well as their many years of education, training, and clinical practice. Most importantly, their “operational” approach to interactions with those who demonstrate psychopathic behaviors provides a primer for all who might otherwise fall prey to psychopathic behaviors of colleagues, co-workers, and yes, even family members.”
—Gregory Saathoff, MD,
Author;
Criminal Poisoning: Clinical and Forensic Perspectives
Associate Professor of Research, University of Virginia School of Medicine

“Psychopaths are the predatory and very dangerous few. Those who are “almost a psychopath” create mischief and misery for many. In this marvelous book of knowledge, wisdom, and sound advice, the subclinical—or should we say subcriminal—psychopath is brought to life. He can be dangerous but not lethal, duplicitous but not completely fraudulent. We finally have a book to help us recognize and cope with this personality.
—Reid Meloy, PhD Forensic Psychologist and author, The Psychopathic Mind

“The Almost Effect Series of books captures the fundamentally hum experiences and helps readers interpret what the symptoms might mean—both for themselves and others. The Almost Effect collection should be required reading for those interested in psychology and human behavior.”
—Howard J. Shaffer, PhD,
Associate Professor at Harvard Medical School,
Director of the Division on Addiction at the Cambridge Health Alliance Co-author;
Change Your Gambling, Change Your Life

"Most of us have had an inexplicably uncomfortable feeling upon meeting certain people. They do not fit the psychopath mold, but they leave us with the proverbial hairs on the back of our necks standing alert. Schouten and Silver have done a masterful job explaining both why we have this reaction and how we might deal with almost psychopaths."
—Mark Albanese, MD, is an Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and the Director of Addictions at Cambridge Health Alliance.

"By highlighting the continuum of psychopathy and placing its associated symptoms and behaviors within the context of everyday encounters, the authors make understanding these difficult to manage people a little bit easier for everyone."
—Sally C. Johnson, MD

Almost a Psychopath "is a powerful read for those who want to better understand this mental illness and how to work with such individuals."
- The Midwest Book Review

Meet the Author


Ronald Schouten, MD, JD, has assessed individuals ranging from victims of child abuse, professional misconduct, and domestic violence to those accused of crimes that include bank robbery, campus shootings, and multiple murders. He is currently on staff at Harvard Medical School.

James Silver, JD, is a former federal prosecutor and current criminal defense attorney who has tried cases and handled appeals on offenses spanning the gamut of illegal behavior, from shoplifting to murder.

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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
In general, well-meaning people tend to be tolerant of the 'foibles' of others. They choose to 'live and let live' and generally ignore the suspicious behavior of colleagues, dates and bosses - until it's too late. Society is trained to be kind. Yet, a too-tolerant attitude gives endless permission to 'almost psychopaths' to do what they do best. This is a very well-written book with lots of great examples to make ideas super clear.
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Onceuponareview More than 1 year ago
Written in plain English to be understood by anyone who is observant of human nature. Every reader will find descriptions and scenarios in this book that are familiar and previously confusing. A relatively quick read with a lot of substance.