Altered Loves: Mothers and Daughters During Adolescence

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Why is adolescence a time of conflict between teenage girls and their mothers? Is mother/daughter strife a way of redefining a critical relationship? Terri Apter answers these and other important questions in this book which addresses the female experience in the insightful tradition of Carol Gilligan's In a Different Voice. A New York Times Notable Book of the Year.
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Overview

Why is adolescence a time of conflict between teenage girls and their mothers? Is mother/daughter strife a way of redefining a critical relationship? Terri Apter answers these and other important questions in this book which addresses the female experience in the insightful tradition of Carol Gilligan's In a Different Voice. A New York Times Notable Book of the Year.
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Editorial Reviews

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"An extraordinary book that speaks subtly and with great originality to the intricate dynamics of mother-daughter relationships during adolescence. I can't think of a better book for professionals or parents who wish to understand these matters."

-- Nancy J. Chodorow

Author of Femininities, Masculinities, Sexualities: Freud & Beyond

"Her eloquent message is reassuring to battle-weary veterans on both sides: peace is possible."

-- Newsweek

Terri Apter is a Research Fellow at Clare Hall, Cambridge. She is the author of Why Women Don't Have Wives: Professional Success and Motherhood. She lives with her husband and two teenage daughters in Cambridge, England.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780449906316
  • Publisher: Random House Publishing Group
  • Publication date: 9/28/1991
  • Edition description: 1st Ballantine Books ed
  • Pages: 276
  • Sales rank: 1,036,601
  • Product dimensions: 5.50 (w) x 8.50 (h) x 0.75 (d)

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments vii
Introduction 1
Notes 23
Chapter 1 The Beauty and the Beastliness 24
What Is Adolescence? 24
Adolescence and Puberty 26
Self-Consciousness and Self-Distortion 40
Maternal Amnesia 53
Notes 56
Chapter 2 The Myth of Separation 57
The Traditional View of Adolescence 60
The Feminist Revision 64
The History of Storm and Stress 69
What Does the Adolescent Want? 73
My Mother, My Father 80
The Battle for Recognition 90
Unhappy Confidence 101
Notes 107
Chapter 3 Validation Versus Interference: the Choreography of Identity 109
What Does an Adolescent Need to Develop an Identity? 112
Who Helps Her Grow? 114
She Must Love Me for Myself 123
Identity Through the Parent 129
The Mother's Needs 132
New Levels of Pain 136
Notes 147
Chapter 4 Sex, Envy and Success 149
The New Popularity of Unacceptable Feelings 151
Sexual Messages 160
Poison Apples: The Fairy Tale of the Mother's Envy 164
Self-Realisation and Self-Sabotage 169
Independence and Intimacy 175
Fighting Times 182
Notes 189
Chapter 5 Mothers on a See-Saw: Friends and Peers 191
Friendly Mirrors 193
Discipline and Regulation of Friendship 196
The Course of Friendship Through Adolescence 200
Illusion Strategy in Friendship 208
Siblings as Friends 214
Special Friendship Problems in Late Adolescence 222
Diaries 227
Notes 230
Chapter 6 Risk, Discipline and Growth 231
Risk Confrontation 243
Divorce 248
Parental Humiliation 253
The Loss of a Mother 259
The Life-Long Dialogue 262
Notes 266
Bibliography 267
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