At Her Feet: Powering Your Femdom Relationship

Overview

Look beyond the fantasies of whip-cracking dominatrixes and cowering slaveboys, and you'll find real women and men in caring, consensual female-dominant relationships. Yet, given that social norms grant the majority of power to men, how do these relationships work?

TammyJo and Fox have been building their female-dominant relationship for many years, and have gathered their most important discoveries and theories into this important manual. ...

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Overview

Look beyond the fantasies of whip-cracking dominatrixes and cowering slaveboys, and you'll find real women and men in caring, consensual female-dominant relationships. Yet, given that social norms grant the majority of power to men, how do these relationships work?

TammyJo and Fox have been building their female-dominant relationship for many years, and have gathered their most important discoveries and theories into this important manual. You'll learn:

- how to take your roles beyond the bedroom
- the role of rituals, contracts and protocols in day-to-day femdom life
- how to achieve training and growth that complement the nature of the relationship
- how each individual can get his or her needs met within the context of a consensual disparity in power
- how to integrate fetish desires into the relationship
- how to cope with the realities of life (illness, work, family) without losing touch with the relationship

... and much more.

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Editorial Reviews

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"S/M is easy to teach, but the delicate balance of D/S is difficult -- especially when complicated by the unusual power dynamics of female dominance. A common-sense and inspiring look at how femdom works for real people in the real world." - Lady Green, author, The Sexually Dominant Woman
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781890159795
  • Publisher: Greenery Press
  • Publication date: 10/1/2010
  • Pages: 172
  • Sales rank: 750,642
  • Product dimensions: 6.00 (w) x 8.90 (h) x 0.50 (d)

Meet the Author

TammyJo Eckhart, Ph.D., is an ancient historian by training, a teacher by personality, a dominant by nature, and a published fiction author by fate. She has over 20 years of committed experience in BDSM. She and Fox have been together since 1999.

Fox graduated with a BS degree in physics with minors in both mathematics and psychology. He began investigating BDSM as a young adult in an effort to understand certain personal drives and fantasies that seemed to differ from those of his peers. His exploration led him through enough useful information and baseless crap to tell the difference fairly readily.

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We think you've picked up this book because you're looking for a femdom relationship. Perhaps you're a submissive man who wants to know he isn't alone in his desires and wonders why he can't meet that kinky lady of his dreams. (continued)
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Table of Contents

Introduction: Welcome to Life Like You Can't Imagine It 1

1 TammyJo: Creation of a Femdom 5

Nature or Nurture? 5

2 Fox: Creation of a malesub 11

3 How Two Became More 17

4 Making M/s work every day 27

Basic Ideas Before You Start 27

Getting Past the Search for "The One" 27

Personal Expectations at the Beginning 29

The Meaning of Consensual Slavery 33

Slave Does Not Equal Submissive 36

The Role of "Love" 42

"Hurt" does not Equal "Harm" 47

5 Some Recommended Components 55

Contracts 55

Rituals, Rules, & Protocols 58

Training 65

6 Foundations of Owner/slave Dynamics 73

Commitment 73

Loyalty 75

Selfishness 77

Obedience 82

Needs & Wants 85

Fetishes: A Special Type of Want 88

Privacy 95

Play Time 99

7 Daily Realities: Adjusting & Maintaining the Dynamic 103

Economic Realities 108

Social Expectations 108

Poly or Mono Structure 115

Sex 121

Illness & Injuries 126

Emotional and Mental Health 130

Family & Friends 135

Examples of Everyday D/s and Ownership 140

8 Paradoxes or Owner-slave Dynamics 145

Using and Needing Your Slave: The Paradox of Ownership 143

Active Submission: the Paradox of Slavery 145

TammyJo's Concise Advice for Femdoms 147

Fox's Concise Advice for malesubs 149

Appendix: Sample Contracts 151

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