The Attachment Parenting Book: A Commonsense Guide to Understanding and Nurturing Your Baby

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Might you and your baby both sleep better if you shared a bed? How old is too old for breastfeeding? What is a father's role in nurturing a newborn? How does early attachment foster a child's eventual independence? Dr. Bill and Martha Sears — the doctor-and-nurse, husband-and-wife team who coined the term "attachment parenting" — answer these and many more questions in this practical, inspiring guide. Attachment parenting is a style of parenting that encourages a strong early attachment, and advocates parental ...

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Overview

Might you and your baby both sleep better if you shared a bed? How old is too old for breastfeeding? What is a father's role in nurturing a newborn? How does early attachment foster a child's eventual independence? Dr. Bill and Martha Sears — the doctor-and-nurse, husband-and-wife team who coined the term "attachment parenting" — answer these and many more questions in this practical, inspiring guide. Attachment parenting is a style of parenting that encourages a strong early attachment, and advocates parental responsiveness to babies' dependency needs. "The Attachment Parenting Book" clearly explains the six "Baby B's" that form the basis of this increasingly popular parenting style: Bonding, Breastfeeding, Babywearing, Bedding close to baby, Belief in the language value of baby's cry, Beware of baby trainers.Here's all the information you need to achieve your most important goals as a new parent: to know your child, to help your child feel right, and to enjoy parenting.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780316778091
  • Publisher: Little, Brown and Company
  • Publication date: 8/7/2001
  • Edition description: 1ST
  • Pages: 192
  • Sales rank: 75,964
  • Product dimensions: 7.50 (w) x 9.25 (h) x 0.50 (d)

Table of Contents

A Word from Dr. Bill and Martha ix
Chapter 1 Becoming Attached--How to Get There 1
What Is Attachment Parenting? 2
Seven Attachment Tools: The Baby B's 3
What Attachment Feels Like 8
Chapter 2 The Benefits of Attachment Parenting 11
AP Babies Are Smarter 11
AP Babies Are Healthier 14
AP Babies Grow Better 16
AP Babies Behave Better 17
AP Promotes Intimacy 22
AP Parents and Children Work Together Better 23
AP Promotes Empathy 24
AP Is Contemporary 25
The Payoff for Parents 25
Chapter 3 What Attachment Parenting Is Not 26
Clearing Up Misunderstandings 26
Myths About Attachment Parenting 32
Chapter 4 Bonding at Birth and Beyond 36
Bonding at Birth 36
Eight Tips for Better Bonding 37
Rooming-In: The Attachment Continues 40
How Rooming-In Builds Attachment 43
Bonding Blues 45
Homecoming: Ten Tips for Staying Attached the First Month 47
Chapter 5 Breastfeeding 53
Breastfeeding Makes Attachment Parenting Easier 53
Attachment Tips for Successful Breastfeeding 57
The Benefits of Long-Term Breastfeeding 62
Beware of the Breastfeeding Schedulers 64
Chapter 6 Babywearing 65
The Background to Babywearing 65
The Benefits of Babywearing 68
Siblings and Babywearing 78
Babywearing and Wearing Baby Down 78
Work and Wear 79
Babywearing for Subs 79
Chapter 7 Belief in the Signal Value of a Baby's Cry 81
Crying Is an Attachment Tool 81
Should Baby Cry It Out? 84
Advice for Parents Whose Babies Cry a Lot 86
Chapter 8 Bedding Close to Baby 89
Continuing Your Attachment at Night 90
Our Co-Sleeping Experiences 91
Why Bedding Close to Baby Works 92
Sharing Sleep: How to Make It Work 95
Moving Out: Weaning from Nighttime Attachment 97
Night Weaning from the Breast: Eleven Alternatives for the All-Night Nurser 98
Current Research into Sleep Sharing and SIDS 102
Chapter 9 Balance and Boundaries 106
Is Your Parenting Out of Balance?--How to Tell 106
Avoiding Mother Burnout 112
Rekindling the Flame 116
Stick With Attachment Parenting 117
Chapter 10 Beware of Baby Trainers 119
What's Wrong with Baby Training? 120
Does Baby Training Really Work? 122
Why Is Baby Training So Popular? 123
Handling Criticism 125
Chapter 11 Working and Staying Attached 130
A Tale of Two Mothers 130
Ten Tips for Working and Staying Attached 133
How a Baby Can Change a Mother's Career Plans 141
Chapter 12 Attachment Fathering 143
My Story: How I Became an Attached Dad 144
Nine Attachment Tips for Fathers 146
Where's Dad? 152
Father Feelings About Mother-Infant Attachment 155
Chapter 13 Attachment Parenting in Special Situations 159
Single and Attached 159
Adoption 160
Attachment Parenting the High-Need Child 162
Attachment Parenting a Child with Special Needs 164
Attachment Parenting Multiples 166
Chapter 14 Attachment Testimonials 168
Could a Mother Not Want This? 168
What Is a Good Baby? 169
A Gift for Dad 170
Working and Staying Attached 170
Sensitive Night Weaning 171
Understanding "Cries" 172
Compassion for Others 174
When Babies with Teeth Nurse and Sixteen-Year-Olds Drive 175
Resources 177
Index 179
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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 26, 2002

    Wonderful Book

    This is the first book I read on attatchment parenting and I love it. We've slept with our 4 month old son since his first night home, and try to incorporate attatchment parenting into our days. It is a very supportive book with plenty of advice for dealing with the well-meaning family members who aren't so willing to accept this form of parenting. It has chapters on extended breastfeeding, adoption, single parents, and much more. Another great feature is Dr. Sears is clear to state not all of his recommendations need to be used-a welcome change from some popular parenting books with the attitude of 'My way or the highway'. A must read for every parent of young babies and children.

    4 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted September 19, 2009

    Thank You Bill and Martha Sears

    My only regret is that I didn't read this book sooner. I purchased it and started reading it when my daughter was about four months old only to mourn the four months that I didn't give myself more credit. I was already practicing attachment parenting, I just didn't know there was a name for it...and I was letting all the naysayers affect the trust I had in myself to do what was right for me and my daughter. Now that I've read the book I no longer doubt my style of parenting, in fact I am more confident than ever that I am doing what is best for both of us. I look forward to reading more books from the Sears Library.

    3 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 22, 2007

    A reviewer

    If you are or think you'll be a type A mom- one who demands the best from herself, and if you are or will be a type A mom, as in A for attached- stay far away from this book. It will drive you insane. It will become the voice inside your head that compels you to parent in a way our society, our modern marriages, our human selves cannot possibly achieve. And then when you fall short because no human being can parent at this level and remain sane, you will feel like the biggest failure riddled with guilt at the supposed damage you have inflicted on your baby because you failed to keep them on your person while you tended to your other 3 kids and basted a turkey. I first read this book when I was expecting my firstborn. I innately believe that a baby's cry is his form of communication, I believe in holding a baby as close to 24/7 as possible because I love the infant stage. I believe in bonding with a capital B. Because this is what I believe naturally, I would have been better off not reading this book. It pushes you to a level of extremes. However, if you are one to believe in baby trainers, etc., this book is a valuable eye-opener.

    2 out of 5 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted May 4, 2010

    Grateful for this book!

    I am grateful to the Sears family for writing this book - not only does it support my natural instincts, but I now feel justified in my parenting choice. So many well meaning friends have given advice (unsolicited) that simply felt "wrong" to me. This book helped clarify what is best for my baby according to research and natural mothering instincts. I am confident in my choices now and learned so much about the benefits of attachment parenting. Who knew so many decisions in early life could help form a person's trust in others during childhood and adulthood alike? I recommend this book to all new mothers. Don't listen to your well meaning friends and family. Trust your instincts and read this book to get the science behind those instincts. It's great to have facts to support you!

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 30, 2009

    Concise and Informative

    I think all new parents and/or soon to be parents should own this book. There is so much conflicting info available concerning vaccines and their safey and necessity that it is a releif to have so much useful information in one place. This book tells you what the vaccines are for, how likely the disease is to occur without it, what various brands of each vaccine are available and what goes into making each. It also discusses the ingredients individually and explains what the possible risks are and then gives a couple of alternative vaccine schedules. Overall, he leaves the ball in your court after giving you plenty of needed information.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 18, 2008

    Attachment Parenting

    Attachment parenting as presented in this book by Dr. Sears is not about being a perfect parent. Attachment parenting is about communicating with your baby and understanding what your baby needs. Being a parent isn't easy---in fact, it's probably the hardest work a person could ever do in their life. Dr. Sears gives practical ways to care for your baby through attachment parenting. Wearing your baby, co-sleeping and nursing your baby are ways through which you can communicate and bond with your baby. Dr. Sears suggests in this book that every family use what is practical to them and what works in an individual family is different for each family. I loved reading this book.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 8, 2007

    Take what you want and leave the rest

    As with any book, it's very important to take what you and your family can relate to and leave the rest. You can't do everything the book recommends, but do incorporate the things you can accomplish and feel comfortable with. I wore my baby more than I anticipated, which makes me believe it made a tremendous difference in the incrediable bond with my child (and helped with discipline issues later on), and most importantly listening to parental instincts.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 10, 2007

    This is more than a 5 star book!

    This is more than a 5 star book! The Sears family truly knows children needs, and respect and love children. This book is a must for all mothers in the world. This is the most natural and ancient way of parenting - parenting from your heart with wisedom and attachment.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 10, 2004

    great book for pregnant and new parents

    This book will remind you of the importance of trusting your instincts with regard to parenting. It emphasizes the importance of being there for your baby, loving, listening and responding. Great baby shower gift.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 14, 2002

    Great insight into needs of baby

    Overall great book- allows you to realize the developmental needs of an infant and the importance of applying this knowledge to the care you provide. Makes perfect sense- to love and nurture your baby. However, I am 4 months pregnant and this book did slightly increase my anxiety to being a parent- I agree with nurturing and tending to all needs of your baby but the recommendations in this book I believe put a lot of pressure on the mother to dedicate all of her time and being to the infant for the first 3 years. If I followed all of this advice- like breastfeeding until 2 years of age and letting the infant sleep in your bed until he/she is a toddler I invision going insane from lack of sleep and lack of "me time" (baby wouldn't be too lucky then, huh?). I am also a nurse and feel this book doesn't address the safety issue of sleeping in a bed with an infant at all. There is no mention of the changes to the bed that are necessary if a parent decides to do this such as eliminating fluffy pillows and bedding and not having a frame where the baby's head could become trapped. I agree that the first years of a baby's life are vital in tending to their cries and needs in order to form the proper amount of attachment, but I just think this book overdoes the attachment a bit and doesn't create opportunities for the infant to learn to self soothe and for the mother to resume somewhat of a life. The basic message is an important one to get though and therefore is a must to at least read and be aware of during those vital first years.

    1 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 19, 2012

    Wonderful!

    Non-biased and extremely informational! I think ALL parents should be required to read this!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 2, 2012

    Wish I'd read it 4 yrs ago!

    What a great book! I only wish I'd read it when I had my daughter 4 yrs ago. I found many mistakes I had made by trying to make my kids fit a mold that the "experts" said they should fit. Kids are not only unique but only a mother knows her child and we've known for centuries. Fortunately it's never too late and I will definitely do my best to make up for lost time. Very helpful that it doesn't have to be all or nothing in order to be attached to your kids. This is defintely a must have and just follow your instincts as a mother..your mother's heart will never lead you astray!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 13, 2009

    NOT RECOMMENDED

    Terrible, awful and dangerous. Nothing in the book has a scientific basis. I know families who have depended upon this theory with almost dangerous results. There are far,far better advice books on baby parenting. DON'T BUY AND DON'T ACCEPT EVERYTHING IN THE BOOK AS ABSOLUTE TRUTH!

    0 out of 17 people found this review helpful.

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