Banishing Bullying Behavior: Transforming the Culture of Pain, Rage, and Revenge

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SuEllen Fried and Blanche Sosland bring their combined experiences together to present a blueprint to reduce the pain, rage, and revenge cycle of bullying. Their strategies have been captured from hands-on interaction with educators, parents, and students. The core of the book is the Student Empowerment Session that has been crafted and refined over fifteen years. This carefully organized, powerful system of questions has effected dramatic changes in children's insights about their behavior.

SuEllen Fried created BullySafeUSA, a bullying prevention program that has been introduced to 85,000 students in thirty-six states. She has coauthored two books on bullying, is a past chairman of Prevent Child Abuse America, has appeared on numerous national TV programs such as Good Morning, America and the Today Show, and was featured in an A&E documentary.

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Editorial Reviews

Joanne Stern
An invaluable book for parents who want to be advocates and protectors of their children. Straightforward and well-researched, Banishing Bullying Behavior brings to light the real issues kids face today and provides specific advice to parents. This should be required reading for anyone who is connected to kids. Kudos to Fried and Sosland for being spot-on.
Marjorie P. Kaplan
Fried and Sosland have produced a valuable guide for educators and others working to rid our schools of bullying. Based on their extensive experience, the authors describe those practices that will create positive change and suggest practical strategies to make school a safe and comfortable place for learning.
Mary Fischer
A must for educators who believe in the potential of kids, this book sends a powerful message regarding the importance of creating a culture of respect for self and all others. Unique in it's specific suggestions, Fried and Sosland's book will inspire school staff and community members to join together in an effort to end the cycle of pain and revenge and to create a "BullySafe" environment.
Robert ?B.R.? Rhoads
We must all accept our role as change agents if we are to banish bullying behavior in our schools and across society. In their book, SuEllen Fried and Blanche Sosland challenge our thinking while sharing new learning and strategies for addressing the bullying disorder. The book is essential reading for all who work with students. After I finished the last chapter, I felt inspired and empowered to further support and intervene with those who use bullying behaviors, their targets, and the witnesses who can make a difference.
Philip H. Hackett
As a middle school philosophy college instructor, I find that Banishing Bullying Behavior is a must-read for ALL future teachers. From the explanation of bullying, to the lessons on how we in the classroom can help and intercede, this book gives the responses any parent, child, or teacher would want. Bullying behavior is sadly a challenging problem in today’s schools, and with Fried’s and Sosland’s frank and encouraging material, the end could be in sight.
James Garbarino
SuEllen Fried and her colleague Blanche Sosland have brought heart and head to bear in this book. They offer a thoughtful analysis, communicate compassion for targets and perpetrators alike, and explore programmatic efforts to make schools more positive places for children and youth.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781607092216
  • Publisher: R&L Education
  • Publication date: 12/16/2009
  • Edition description: Older Edition
  • Pages: 196
  • Product dimensions: 5.90 (w) x 8.90 (h) x 1.00 (d)

Meet the Author

SuEllen Fried combined her background in dance therapy and child abuse prevention to create BullySafeUSA, a bullying prevention program that has been introduced to 85,000 students in 36 states. She has co-authored two books on bullying with her daughter, Paula Fried; is a past chairman of Prevent Child Abuse America and has appeared on numerous national TV programs such as Good Morning, America; the Today Show; MSNBC; and was featured in an A&E documentary, Bill Kurtis Reports, Bullied to Death. Blanche Sosland spent most of her teaching career at the college and university level, but she also worked in classrooms ranging from early childhood to middle school. Her areas of expertise include diagnosis and remediation of reading problems in the classroom and twice-exceptional children.

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Table of Contents

Foreword James Garbarino Garbarino, James

Ch. 1 The Dynamics or Pain, Rage, and Revenge 1

Ch. 2 Dimensions and Overview or Bullying 9

Ch. 3 Back to Bullying Basics 19

Ch. 4 How Can I Hurt Thee? Let Me Count the Ways 35

Ch. 5 Perspectives on the Bullying Continuum 47

Ch. 6 Helping Students with Special Needs Achieve Success 59

Ch. 7 The Challenge of Changing the Culture 73

Ch. 8 Change Agents 87

Ch. 9 Engaging Students in the Solution 111

Ch. 10 Ten Burning Questions Posed by Educators 127

Ch. 11 Parents As Protectors, Partners, and Advocates 141

Ch. 12 Resources to Move Us Into the Future 157

Appendixes 169

References 183

Index 187

About the Authors 197

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