In the world of successful negotiation, flexibility and reasonability rule the roost. So says divorce lawyer Felder, whose advice is as straightforward and forceful as it is colorful and entertaining. The keys to coming out on top-never wanting too much and knowing when to walk away from the table-are not as easily mastered as would-be negotiators might think. (Calling off talks and storming out of the room can work as a bargaining tool-provided that those leaving remember to gather their belongings before exiting, explains Felder in one particularly humorous recollection). To hear it from him, effective negotiation is as logistics-driven and nuanced as a warrior's preparation for battle. Throughout this part-celebrity tell-all and part-no-nonsense-how-to, Felder drops the names of everyone from Rudy Giuliani, Jay Leno and Mick Jagger to Anthony Quinn, Johnny Carson and Mike Tyson. While the negotiating advice is useful and on-point, rocket science this isn't; it is Felder's anecdotes that ultimately deliver on the book's promises. It's hard to know whether to admire, fear or even loathe Felder as he unapologetically describe s his win-at-all-costs tactics, which include purposely withholding insulin from a diabetic opponent, extending negotiations beyond the onset of religious holidays, taking advantage of the physical condition of older lawyers and hiding food from hungry lawyers and clients. (Jan.) (Publishers Weekly, December 1, 2003)
Bare-Knuckle Negotiation: Savvy Tips and True Stories from the Master of Give-and-Takeby Raoul Felder, Allyn Freeman
In Bare-Knuckle Negotiation, Felder shares his wit and wisdom about the tactics and strategies of effective negotiation, so laypeople can get what they want when it’s time to cut a deal. He covers diverse topics from how to read opponents’ nonverbal cues to unnerving your opponent through displays of seemingly irrational behavior. He reveals the/i>
In Bare-Knuckle Negotiation, Felder shares his wit and wisdom about the tactics and strategies of effective negotiation, so laypeople can get what they want when it’s time to cut a deal. He covers diverse topics from how to read opponents’ nonverbal cues to unnerving your opponent through displays of seemingly irrational behavior. He reveals the importance of never making a threat you can’t back up and how to be crafty without being dishonest. Citing anecdotes, cases, and stories from his long career in the legal trenches—tales that are often outrageous, shocking, and strange—Felder lets you in on the secrets that have made him such a feared and respected negotiator.
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RAOUL FELDER has practiced divorce law for more than forty years. During that time he’s earned fame and fortune representing such clients as Rudy Guliani, Robin Givens, Carol Channing, Riddick Bowe, the former Mrs. Carl Sagan, and the former Mrs. Martin Scorsese. An accomplished writer, lecturer, and television personality, he is a graduate of New York University and New York University Law School.
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Author Raoul Felder is one of New York's most famous divorce lawyers. He moves in elite company and counts movie stars, big shot executives and political heavyweights among his clients and antagonists. He didn't get to that point by being a shrinking violet. This book is full of interesting if promotional anecdotes that attempt to position the author not only as a ruthless negotiator, but also as the right sort of fellow. That's a tough balance to strike, particularly since some of his tactics are outrageous, albeit effective. As celebrity memoirs go, this is a pretty good one, written in short episodes with glamorous client insider stories. And, as negotiations manuals go, it's quite strategic, even if weighted somewhat toward divorce issues. Felder manages to dish the dirt, we find, while also serving up useful advice about gloves-off negotiations.