Batterer as Parent: Addressing the Impact of Domestic Violence on Family Dynamics / Edition 1by Lundy Bancroft, Jay G. Silverman, Jay G. Silverman, Jay G. Silverman
Pub. Date: 03/19/2002
Publisher: Sage Publications (CA)
The Batterer as Parent takes the reader inside of homes affected by domestic violence, imparting an understanding of the atmosphere that battering men create for the children who live with them. Bancroft and Silverman show how partner abuse affects each relationship in a family, and explains how children’s emotional recovery is inextricably linked/b>
The Batterer as Parent takes the reader inside of homes affected by domestic violence, imparting an understanding of the atmosphere that battering men create for the children who live with them. Bancroft and Silverman show how partner abuse affects each relationship in a family, and explains how children’s emotional recovery is inextricably linked to the healing and empowerment of their mothers. The authors cover the important but often-overlooked area of the post-separation parenting behaviors of men who batter, including their use of custody litigation as a tool of abuse. Readers also are guided in evaluating change in the parenting of men who batter, assessing risk to children from unsupervised visitation, and supporting the emotional recovery of children. Although the book is written primarily for professionals, its accessible style makes it engaging and useful for abused mothers and anyone else wishing to assist children exposed to battering.
Table of Contents
1. The Battering Problem Defining Batterers Characteristics of Batterers Misconceptions About Batterers Summary
2. Power Parenting: The Batterer's Style With Children Typical Characteristics of Batterers as Parents Effects on Children of Exposure to Domestic Violence Child Abuse The Batterer as Role Model Children's Outlook on the Batterer Summary
3. Shock Waves: The Batterer's Impact on the Home Undermining of the Mother's Authority Effects on Mother-Child Relationships Use of Children as Weapons Against the Mother The Batterer's Impact on Other Aspects of Family Functioning Resilience in Mother-Child and in Sibling Relationships Summary
4. The Batterer as Incest Perpetrator - Lundy Bancroft and Margaret Miller Review of Studies The Predatory Child Molestor Versus the Incest Perpetrator Shared Tactics of Batterers and Incest Perpetrators Shared Attitudes of Batterers and Incest Perpetrators Implications of the Overlap for Professional Response Sexual Abuse Allegations in Custody and Visitation Disputes Summary
5. Impeding Recovery: The Batterer in Custody and Visitation Disputes Creating a Context for Children's Healing Batterers' Postseparation Conduct With Children Batterers' Motivations for Seeking Custody or Increased Visitation Batterers' Advantages in Custody Disputes Batterers' Tactics in Custody and Visitation Disputes Effects on Children of Custody Litigation Summary
6. The Mismeasure of Batterers as Parents: A Critique of Prevailing Theories of Assessment Influential Theories of Divorce The Use of a Domestic Violence Typology to Assess Risk to Children The Overlooked Implications of Johnston, Campbell, and Roseby's Own Observations Summary
7. Supporting Recovery: Assessing Risk to Children form Batterers and Structuring Visitation Sources of Risk to Children From Unsupervised Contact With Batterers A Guide to Assessing Risk to Children From Batterers Structuring Custody and Visitation Summary
8. Is It Real?: Assessing and Fostering Change in Batterers as Parents Steps to Change in Batterers Misconceptions Regarding Change in Batterers Evaluating Change in Batterers as Parents Creating a Context for Change Summary
9. Improving Community Responses to the Parenting of Batterers Child Therapists, Family Therapists, and Programs for Children Exposed to Domestic Violence Custody Evaluators Family Courts Agencies and Courts With Child Protective Jurisdiction Parent Trainers Psychological Evaluators Batterer Programs Battered Women's Programs Supervised Visitation Centers Family Lawyers and Bar Associations Summary References Index About the Authors
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After reading Why Does He DO That?, also by Lundy Bancroft, I knew I had to read this one. It cites research and is aimed more at the professional reader than the other book. It continues to dispel falacies, providing excellent information as well as research reviews which enable the reader to gain invaluable insight into how abusers behave towards children and towards the mother, especially post-separation. This should definitely be read by all court personnel and by professionals who work with children and their families. It is a great tool for the mother facing litigation.
Thank you for such a crystal clear overview. I’m very new to calling my 20+ year marriage an abusive relationship--how could I let that happen? Seeing it in black and white was so surprising, eye-opening. It confirmed this is really happening to me. It was so accurate. For years and years I never knew I was dealing with an abuser. I have to look at things differently now—realistically. In the meantime I struggle to have any relationship at all with my kids—they all think he’s the good guy, I am nothing. We’ve all been tricked. It's hard knowing things are truly worse than what I want to believe. But this information could save me some time, give me a future while I still have the opportunity, get out of a relationship that is totally dysfunctional.
Yes, it is written professionally, but we have had many clients benefit from reading the book. It serves to validate them, they can see their abuser in plain text and it reassures them that things were bad or even worse than they thought in many cases. Domestic abuse professionals have been aware of the abuse tactics and patterns for many years, but each time a useful tool in print appears, we appreciate it. Bancroft's books are all good.