Battle Hymn of the Tiger Daughter: How One Family Fought the Myth That You Need to Destroy Childhood in Order to Raise Extraordinary Adults.

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How one family fought the myth that you have to destroy childhood in order to raise extraordinary adults.

What does a "successful" child look like?

If you imagined a straight-A-earning, classical-music-playing, rule-following, Ivy-bound prodigy, you're not alone.

This is what I thought my kid should look like, too.

I was determined to raise ...

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Overview

How one family fought the myth that you have to destroy childhood in order to raise extraordinary adults.

What does a "successful" child look like?

If you imagined a straight-A-earning, classical-music-playing, rule-following, Ivy-bound prodigy, you're not alone.

This is what I thought my kid should look like, too.

I was determined to raise my child in this image, no matter the cost. After all, I was one of those kids (Columbia University, Class of 1989). The traditional path to success sure worked for me.

In other words, I was a classic tiger mother.

But life intervened in ways I couldn't have imagined. I was faced with two choices: Impose my will no matter the trauma. Or, take a frightening, uncharted path-

-to where?

A sub-standard child, unable to succeed on the level I had?

Did letting up mean letting my child down?

Answering these questions took my family on a fascinating journey. What looked and felt like failure after failure on adult terms led to a different kind of success: mad creativity, fierce independence, and relentless self-direction.

In other words, everything an adult needs to make it in today's world.

So what does a successful child look like?

She looks like my child. And if you consider a similar path by relaxing, backing off, letting up, and settling down, she (or he) just might look a lot like yours.

(Diana Holquist is the award-winning author of six novels. She's won the New York Book Festival award for Best Novel; has garnered a coveted starred review from Publisher's Weekly; and, she's been a RITA and Reader's Choice Award finalist. She lives in Philadelphia with her husband, two kids, and two cats. She also writes small-town women's fiction under the pseudonym Sophie Gunn.)

PRAISE FOR NOVELS BY DIANA HOLQUIST:

"With characters so real, they jump off the page..." --Doubleday Book Club

"(Holquist)...raises some serious issues, leaving readers' eyes shining both with happiness and tears."
--Library Journal

"...laughter, passion and deeply moving sentiment."
--New York Times Bestseller Robyn Carr

"...humor, warmth, emotions, characters that step off the page..."
--New York Times Bestseller Mariah Stewart

"...a real treat for readers..."
--New York Times Bestseller Susan Wiggs

"...Holquist is one for the keeper shelf."
--Parksberg News and Sentinel

"A delightful debut..."
--Booklist, starred review

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781468073492
  • Publisher: CreateSpace Publishing
  • Publication date: 12/28/2011
  • Pages: 210
  • Product dimensions: 6.00 (w) x 9.00 (h) x 0.48 (d)

Meet the Author

I love to write. That's pretty much all I do. Ask my family about the undone laundry, the un-bought groceries, and the fact that I rarely find time to get dressed in the morning. Actually, if you train your family right, they won't notice any of these things. "Popcorn for dinner again, mom! Cool," say my filthy children. God bless them, they don't know what panty hose are.

Oh, my poor husband.

Anyway, it took me a long time to figure out WHAT to write. So I spent years writing ads, brochures, and company reports. If I had to give advice to anyone--which, thankfully, I don't--it would be that if you want to write books, start now. In fact, get the heck off this website and do it.

(First, throw your TV out the window. Good. Now write.)

Are you still here?

Okay, then you must be a pure reader (or my mother). Good for you. No money in writing. Best to have a real job.

What else do you want to know about me? I love kids. I love cats. I love chocolate. (Not necessarily in that order.) I live just outside of Philadelphia with kids and cats and my dear husband. I also write small town romances under the name Sophie Gunn.

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