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"This is a wonderful book for keeping love alive. Judith and Jim share their own journey of love as they help you understand yours. Their explanations and advice are on a higher level, that everyone, even those already in a successful relationship can greatly benefit from."
--Susan Jeffers, Ph.D., bestselling author of Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway and Opening Our Hearts to Men
"The New Intimacy helped me in a time of need. Be Loved for Who You Really Are has taken those ideas even further."--William Shatner
"This is a master's guide to intimacy and relationship. It leads us with grace, humor, and much appreciated practicality to the most precious yet difficult-to-achieve places of the heart. I recommend it with great enthusiasm."--Sonia Choquette, Ph.D., author of Your Heart's Desire and True Balance
|A Personal Note||13|
|Chapter 1||Why You Can't Fail at Love||17|
|Passage 1||A Glimpse of What Is Possible Two Become as One|
|Chapter 2||The Passion: A Taste of Perfection||37|
|Chapter 3||The Purpose: Beyond What You've Ever Known||49|
|Chapter 4||The Problems: Fantasy versus Love||63|
|Chapter 5||The Principles: It's Always Co-Created||79|
|Chapter 6||The Payoff: You Know You Are Lovable||91|
|Passage 2||The Clash of Differences One Becomes Two|
|Chapter 7||The Passion: The Initiation||99|
|Chapter 8||The Purpose: Separate and Distinct||115|
|Chapter 9||The Problems: This Can't Be Love||129|
|Chapter 10||The Principles: The Alchemical Power of Two||149|
|Chapter 11||The Payoff: Love in Flesh and Blood||163|
|Passage 3||The Magic of Differences Two Become Three|
|Chapter 12||The Passion: All the Ways You Are||177|
|Chapter 13||The Purpose: Wisdom in Your Choice||195|
|Chapter 14||The Problems: Shadows from the Past||209|
|Chapter 15||The Principles: The Dance of Differences||223|
|Chapter 16||The Payoff: Free to Be You||233|
|Passage 4||The Grace of Deep Intimacy Three Become as One|
|Chapter 17||The Passion: A Foundation of Grace||245|
|Chapter 18||The Purpose: An Aspect of the Miracle||257|
|Chapter 19||The Problems: Forgetting You Are Human||269|
|Chapter 20||The Principles: Surrender, Surrender, Surrender||281|
|Chapter 21||The Payoff: Let Me Come to You||293|
Posted January 14, 2002
Be Loved For Who You Really Are has not only changed the way I relate to my partner, but has given me great courage and insight into accepting myself. It has helped me become more intimate in all of my relationships. It is no-nonsense truth. I can't imagine anyone that would not benefit by intigrating the tools and advice they give to obtain a happier healthier life.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted January 5, 2002
Electricity always works. It¿s power can save your life, make you more comfortable, or it can kill you. Maybe relationships aren¿t quite that dramatic, but pretty close. There is no manual for relationships and no real standard. Woe to most of us who learn relationships from our parents, even those with good and sustained marriages. Times are different, with unique choices and challenges. This book addresses those challenges and is almost a relationship-by-the-numbers builder. This talented husband/wife team has written the manual for current and future relationships. Whether you are between the extreme of single and alone to happily married, Be Loved For Who you Really Are is the AHA of relationship building in these exceptional times. As a divorced man between serious relationships, this book opened my eyes wide. After reading it, I feel like the guy who just read a book on electricity and discovered that it¿s not a good idea to blow dry my hair while taking a shower¿just as I was about to start the water. The directions and clarity in this power-packed tome may save your relationship¿s life, now or in the future. I¿m glad I read it now, so will you.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted January 14, 2002
Be Loved For Who You Really Are shows how differences between lovers can be turned into a powerful source of lifelong love and romance. The Mrs. and myself, having read the book, have discovered that the differences between us need not divide us ¿ and in fact, can bring us closer together. For myself, I have learned to understand that the things she does that I used to let drive me up the wall are in fact the very things I love her for ¿ and if you get her in a good mood, when she¿s not in training punching the bag ¿ she¿ll admit the same about her feelings toward me. Most important, Judith and Jim showed each of us how to examine what our part is in the miscommunications that go on all the time. Seems that finding romance with your mate is not a matter of changing them to your expectations. It¿s really about changing your own conceptions of yourself ¿ and stretching yourself to accommodate others. This leads to a condition known as Intimacy, a quality I feel we could all use more of ¿ instead of that other feeling we confuse with intimacy ¿ Intensity. If you¿re like me ¿ and I figure I¿m no different than you ¿ you have no doubt discovered what little power you have in changing the things he or she does that you don¿t like. You¿ll therefore be ¿knocked out¿ when Judith and Jim show you how to have an enormous amount of power in changing yourself. And once both partners take a good look at themselves ¿ and give up the Blame Game ¿ they each bring a new and romantic intimacy to their relationship. This book shows you how to achieve such, without changing you into some touchy-feely wuss. Be Loved For Who You Really Are teaches how to celebrate each other¿s differences, and how to co-create your own unique relationship. Listen guys ¿ and gals ¿ how many times have you thought of just bailing out and living alone in a shack with ESPN or Emeril on all day, no one to bother you? Tell the truth! But you know deep inside, being alone is no way to live! Be Loved For Who You Really Are has put and end to 90% of the battles in our house. We have begun to learn to talk to one another, to reveal ourselves ¿ and become bigger people in the process. I know I¿ve become bigger, and it¿s not just from all that Haagen Daz! I¿ve found out that I¿m not such a hardheaded pig as I once thought. And my mate has discovered a softer side that makes me want to be more romantic. The style of Judith and Jim¿s writing takes the pain out of the process. Read this book, and it will take the pain out of finding love, understanding, romance and most important, yourself. Gotta go now. Martinis for me and the Mrs. ¿ both of us, now shaken and stirred.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted January 2, 2002
Differences are the main reason couples break up. But can these differences be turned into life long love and romance? Is that possible? Drs. Judith Sherven and James Sniechowski, authors of Be Loved For Who You Really Are say ¿YES!¿ These married psychologists and best selling authors review the stages of love and concentrate the on the second stage. This is when, inevitably, conflicts come up.. The ¿perfect¿ person we fell in love with ( the first stage) seems to have disappeared and irritation and differences surface. They claim that this is an vital stage of the development of any relationship. It forms the cornerstone and provides the strength to get through the unavoidable problems we all experience in life. It is also, unfortunately, the time when people call it quits because they are not getting along. They advise couples who fight to ¿hang in there.¿ These authors teach us that intimacy and long lasting romance is the reward for learning to love and accept the other¿s differences.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted October 1, 2001
Today's premier husband-and-wife team of relationship experts has crafted their most moving, most richly detailed, and most comprehensive work to date. Be Loved for Who You Really Are is inspirational and practical, down-to-earth and idealistic, all at the same time. It's packed with good humor, good sense, good ideas, and good stories. Read it today if not sooner and tell your next date, your partner or your spouse that their love stock is poised to go through the roof.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.