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Over the last four decades I’ve met one-on-one with thousands of men. Most of them know that Jesus promised “a rich and satisfying life” (John 10:10). But almost to a man they are confused about what that looks like.
In fact, I’d estimate that 90 percent of men lead lukewarm, stagnant, often defeated lives—and they hate it. Their instincts are screaming, There must be more!
When men try to put into words what keeps them from feeling fully alive, what’s holding them back, they invariably describe one or more of these seven symptoms:
“I feel like I am in this thing alone.”
“I don’t feel like God cares about me personally—not really.”
“I don’t feel like my life has a purpose. In fact, it seems random.”
“I have a lot of destructive behaviors that keep dragging me down.”
“My soul feels dry.”
“My most important relationships are not working.”
“I don’t feel like I’m doing anything that will make a difference and leave the world a better place.”
Do you feel the angst in these confessions? In my experience, these inner aches and pains correspond to seven primal God-given needs that all men feel deeply. By “primal,” I mean that as men we have a raw, restless energy that is different from women. It needs to be channeled, chiseled, transformed.
In my book Man Alive, I show men how God has provided the means to harness this energy for each of these seven instinctive needs, letting it propel them away from mediocrity.
In this booklet, I want to share one chapter adapted from Man Alive that is very special to me. You see, I’ve spent most of my life struggling to believe, really believe, that God loves and cares about me personally. Not as one among many. But me, Pat Morley. And in all those one-on-one meetings, I discovered that I was not alone. Does God really care about me? That is the question. Most men are not so sure.
By God’s grace, not only do I believe today that God loves me, but I actually feel like His much-loved son. Special. Fully alive. You can too. Let me show you how you can satisfy this primal need. No man should have to settle for being half alive.
Posted February 11, 2012
Man Alive by Patrick Morley
I have been reading Patrick Morley's books for well over ten years now. The first one I read was The Man in the Mirror. When I read that book it changed my life. I had not been a part of any type of men's ministry at church before. What I knew about men's ministry was what most men know: barbeques, construction, softball, and ushering. The book helped teach me things about myself and becoming a man.
Well, Man Alive has been a book that was able to repeat this for me. Morley took years of ministering to men and combined them into a very easy, yet convicting, book to read. I would recommend this book to all men, men's ministry leaders, pastors, sons, uncles, fathers, and the list goes on and on.
Morley talks about seven primal needs each man has within their soul. He mentions needs like "to feel like you don't have to do life alone" and "to break free from the destructive behaviors that keep dragging you down." The one that struck a major chord in my life (this time around), was the need "to understand how your life has a purpose, that your life is not random." Could it be because I am in my early 30s and have two kids with one on the way? Maybe. I don't really know. But, I do know that Morley's discussion of purpose and discipleship has resonated with my soul. Each year at my church we have a pastoral vision designed to direct the year. This year's vision is Excellence. One of the sub-points focuses on discipleship. Call this random chance or call this predestined and God ordained. It doesn't matter to me. This book has ministered to me (and my Facebook & Twitter friends who have been getting the free "snippets") in such a way that I will forever be transformed into a man like I was not before. A man with purpose, loved, and in communion with God like never before. An old man transformed into a new man. Paul says it well in 2 Corinthians 5:17, "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new." Did the book do it alone? Not at all, but I would have to say it assisted in the transformation. Truly transformed into a new man...a Man Alive!
I received this book for free from WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group for this review.
Posted January 25, 2012
Reviewed by Lori M for Readers Favorite He had me hooked from the very beginning with his story of Welles Crowther and how he had guided many evacuees of the World Trade Center to safety, but perished in the collapse of the towers. He challenges himself and other men to make a difference in the world, to make it a better place, like Welles Crowther did, to feel more alive by helping others. Crowther had dreams of being a public servant or a hero . . . as it turned out, he was both. This is a must-read book for men of all ages and I am definitely going to pass it along to my husband to read. Women share their feelings, but men bottle up their concerns about inadequacy and fear of failure. Men too need to understand how God has a plan for them and created them, to borrow an Army slogan, to “Be All That They Can Be.” Written in down-to-earth language as though he is sitting in your own living room having a personal conversation with you, this book is a wonderful non-preachy opportunity for men to understand that God DOES care about them personally. I like the reflection and discussion questions at the end of each chapter to help the reader reflect back on what he has learned and how to apply it. He tells the busy man, “Your most important small group, prayer group, fellowship group, discipleship group, and ministry is your family.” Amen to that, Patrick Morley. Well done.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.