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Becoming More Than a Good Bible Study Girl Participant's Guide
By Lysa TerKeurst
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BECOMING MORE THAN A GOOD BIBLE STUDY GIRL
In My Heart
The reality is no person, possession, profession, or position ever fills the cup of a wounded, empty heart—not my heart, not your heart. It's an emptiness only God can fill.
VIDEO TEACHING SEGMENT
As you and your group watch Lysa teach on this topic, use the following outline to take notes on anything that stands out to you.
No person, possession, or position can fill up our heart.
When we try to force something besides God to fill us, it quickly turns from a blessing into a burden.
Anything we use as a substitute for God is an idol, a false god.
It wasn't just the people of the Old Testament that struggled with idols.
The same answer their idols gave them is the same answer our idols give us.
With every "if only I had" statement that tries to trip us up, we must replace it with a truth from God's Word.
When I am satisfied with God and filled up with His truth, I can stop having unrealistic expectations from:
VIDEO SMALL GROUP DISCUSSION
1. As you watched the video teaching segment, what is one main point that you would like to apply to your life?
2. Why is it so tempting to try to get our fulfillment from people, possessions, and positions?
3. How does this affect our relationships?
4. How does this affect our attitude toward possessions?
5. How does this affect us in the positions we hold?
6. How can we become more deeply satisfied with God?
7. With what Bible verses can you replace your "if only I had" statements?
BETWEEN-SESSIONS Personal Bible Study
Read chapter 1 of the Becoming More Than a Good Bible Study Girl book. If you'd like, record any highlights in the space below.
Complete this lesson:
I'm not sure when I first felt I wasn't good enough, but my earliest stinging memory of it happened in a place where strobe lights tumbled about in a skating rink full of elementary school kids.... I fidgeted with the laces of my skates hoping to send a very clear message: the only reason I wasn't couple skating was that I had a slight equipment malfunction. But in my heart, a false perception was cutting deeper and deeper into my soul with every beat of the Rick Springfield song. The false perception was rooted in this one flawed thought: You, Lysa, are not acceptable the way you are.
Becoming More Than a Good Bible Study Girl, p. 17
1. During my growing up years, I was deeply affected by the feeling that I was unacceptable. Write briefly about a time when you did not feel acceptable.
2. Look up the following verses and summarize them here: Proverbs 21:3
1 John 1:7
3. How does the world define the word "acceptable"?
4. How does Jesus define the word "acceptable"?
The word "acceptable" can literally be defined as "pleasing or worthy to the receiver." It is who we are offering ourselves to that determines whether or not we are acceptable. If we offer ourselves to other people, we will never be wholly acceptable. People's standards are illusive, airbrushed, unrealistic, temporary, and ever changing.
God's standards are secure, based on what Jesus has done for us and not on anything we try to do ourselves. But we must make the choice to focus on Jesus and His definition of us rather than other people or worldly standards.
5. One verse on this matter that helped me tremendously is Jeremiah 29:11. Write that verse here.
What does this verse reveal about God?
What does this verse reveal about me?
6. Now let's put Jeremiah 29:11 in context by reading verses 12 and 13 as well. What are three amazing promises made to us in these verses?
These weren't just rote prayers being offered up in an obligatory fashion. These were prayers that caused seeking — and not just casual seeking. These prayers caused a wholehearted seeking with a promise of finding God.
7. What is your honest assessment of your prayer life now? Circle the description that best fits you:
a. practically nonexistent
b. canned and obligatory
c. friendly but not powerful
d. effectively seeking with all my heart
Seeking God with all our heart means to be completely filled and fulfilled by Him. Fulfillment means to be completely satisfied. How might our lives look if we were so filled with God's truths that we could let go of the pain of our past, not get tripped up by the troubles of today, or consumed by the worries of tomorrow?
Let's start today by seeking to be filled up with a truth from God's Word addressing each of these areas.
8. Use your Bible, the "word search" function on BibleGateway.com, or a concordance to find a verse that addresses each of the following:
Shame—(Letting go of the pain from our past)
Temptation—(Not getting tripped up by the troubles of today)
Worry—(Not getting consumed by the worries of tomorrow)
Write your three verses on 3 x 5 cards and practice praying them throughout your day. You may even want to insert your name into the verse. Also, ask God to help you see Him, hear Him, know Him, and follow His truth throughout this day.
We'll be building on this activity in session two, so save those index cards and keep them close at hand.
Read chapter 2 of the book Becoming More Than a Good Bible Study Girl. If you'd like, record any highlights in the space below.
Complete this lesson:
How could I have everything I always dreamed would make me feel happy, significant, and loved and still feel so empty? This emptiness made me feel desperate, needy, complicated, full of unrealistic expectations. I quickly became disillusioned. Weren't Christians supposed to instantly have it all together after saying yes to God?
My relationships with my husband and growing family were strained and quickly went from being blessings to burdens. Even though I knew with my head that only God could fill my soul, I still found myself wanting my husband and kids to right my wrongs, fill up my insecurities, and make me feel loved. It just seemed easier to try and get these things from those I could see and touch. But even a great husband
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