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"Laura Davis and Janis Keyser provide straightforward approaches to the everyday questions and struggles faced by parents, and even answer questions you might have been afraid to ask. They speak respectfully to all types of families, offering insights and tools that really work. A great practical and readable resource. I highly recommend it."
—Mary Sheedy Kurcinka, author of Raising Your Spirited Child
"This unusually thorough book provides today's parents with rich and abundant insights...an enormously helpful resource."
—Polly Berrien Berends, author of Whole Child, Whole Parent; Gently Lead; and Coming to Life
|Preface: The Parent I Wanted to Be|
|Preface: The Teacher I Wanted to Be|
|Introduction: The Parenting Journey|
|Ch. 1||Developing a Vision for Your Family||3|
|Ch. 2||Learning About Children||8|
|Ch. 3||Cultivating a Spirit of Optimism About Your Children||15|
|Ch. 4||Understanding that Parents Are Always Growing||26|
|Ch. 5||Learning to Value Struggle and Disequilibrium||30|
|Ch. 6||Working Toward a Balance of Needs||41|
|Ch. 7||Teaching Children to Feel Safe, Strong, and Good About Their World||51|
|Ch. 8||Being Human: When You're Not Yet the Parent You Want to Be||57|
|Ch. 9||Building a Supportive Community||67|
|Ch. 10||Learning About Feelings||83|
|Ch. 11||Responding to Crying and Tantrums||90|
|Ch. 12||Helping Your Children Deal with Fear||103|
|Ch. 13||The Dance of Separation||116|
|Ch. 14||Helping Children Sleep||135|
|Ch. 15||Children and Eating: Building a Healthy Relationship to Food||153|
|Ch. 16||From Toilet Training to Toilet Learning||176|
|Ch. 17||Learning About Bodies||190|
|Ch. 18||Understanding Difficult Behavior||211|
|Ch. 19||Moving Beyond Punishment||218|
|Ch. 20||Putting It All Together: When Children Test Limits||240|
|Ch. 21||Negotiating Conflicts Between Parent and Child||267|
|Ch. 22||Supporting Children's Play and Learning||283|
|Ch. 23||Children's Friendships: Cooperation and Conflict||304|
|Ch. 24||What Enables Children to Share?||320|
|Ch. 25||"But Girls Can't Do That": Helping Children Move Beyond Limiting Gender Roles||329|
|Ch. 26||Preparing Children to Live in a Richly Diverse World||354|
|Ch. 27||Parenting with a Partner||377|
|Ch. 28||Building Strong Sibling Relationships||395|
|Afterword: Growing Up, Growing Together||415|
Posted May 5, 2010
I haven't read the book cover to cover, instead I like to look up issues as needed. I like the ideas the book has on how to be a good parent. Everything the authors say is backed up by stories. It is very nicely written. I really like reading this book and everything it talks about is in a kind voice not a "NEVER do this, ALWAYS do that" voice. They offer suggestions to build on what already works for you.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted February 9, 2008
Some of the research is out of date. For example, it is not helpful to hit pillows and objects when one is angry, because it promotes and escalates anger rather than dissipating it. Over and over, the book claims this to be a help for caregivers and for children. Not so, research has shown! Also, I feel that there are too many personal examples from the author about her own child, and I expect to hear from a variety of families. I feel like I know too much about the author and her family. I feel like this book is designed to help people feel normal, but a lot of the examples are disturbing. A parent is still dressing his four-year-old child and doesn't understand why the child reacts and insists on dressing himself. Another ignores her kids and was unavailable during a period of grief, and I don't feel comforted by these ideas or examples. You can't just 'check out' as a parent because you're hurting or keep the child from independence as long as possible. The book seems to say that any background or challenge is okay, and I just don't think all behaviors can or should be normalized.
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Posted January 30, 2000
The authors have done an excellent job describing and explaining early childhood! Each time I have come to this book looking for help & information, I have been impressed with the respectful solutions to problems and the positive approach to raising children. Intelligent and warm--a must-have book for parents of young children.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.