Being a Great Divorced Father: Real-Life Advice From a Dad Who's Been There [NOOK Book]

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Parent successfully after divorce and maintain a close relationship with your kids using this practical advice



When you divorce, your kids take top priority. But what does it take to be a great dad after your marital status changes? Being a Great Divorced Father offers the real-world advice you need to maintain a great relationship with your children, even as your ...
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Being a Great Divorced Father: Real-Life Advice From a Dad Who's Been There

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Overview

Parent successfully after divorce and maintain a close relationship with your kids using this practical advice



When you divorce, your kids take top priority. But what does it take to be a great dad after your marital status changes? Being a Great Divorced Father offers the real-world advice you need to maintain a great relationship with your children, even as your relationship with your spouse comes to an end. This book's unique observations and strategies will help you build a new life after your divorce, in which the kids are front and center. It addresses:



  • creating a new home and making room for the kids

  • managing babysitters, after-school care, and other details of daily life

  • creating and enforcing house rules governing homework, TV, computer and game use, and recreation

  • communicating with your ex - being nice, sparing the kids, establishing boundaries, and finding ways to agree

  • settling legal and custody battles

  • dating and remarriage



    Being a Great Divorced Dad focuses on helping you be the best dad you can be. You'll be able to maintain an extended family through collaboration and cooperation with your former spouse, keeping the focus on your children. Plus, read insights from families who have gone through the challenges of transitioning through a divorce and achieved success. Build a close relationship with your children through the trials of divorce with this book.
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Editorial Reviews

Half Moon Bay Review
"The voice of experience is brought home even more with anecdotes culled from experiences with men's groups, from fathers speaking on many issues touched on in the book."
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“We’ve never seen a Nolo book we didn’t like.” Small Business Opportunities

“The nation’s largest publisher of self-help legal books and software.” The Wall Street Journal

"In his landmark book, Paul Mendelstein advises divorced fathers to find ways to play a crucial role in their children's lives. He suggests that they call a truce with their ex-spouse — to put an end to active fighting and to collaborate. While this is may be a challenge at times, collaboration with an ex paves the way for greater cooperation in the future. Children flourish best when raised by both a father and a mother — whether in a divorced or intact family."  Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW, Huffingtonpost.com

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781413315264
  • Publisher: NOLO
  • Publication date: 8/18/2010
  • Sold by: Barnes & Noble
  • Format: eBook
  • Edition number: 1
  • Pages: 268
  • File size: 6 MB

Meet the Author

Paul Mandelstein is founder and executive director of the Father Resource Network father.com which provides support and referral services designed to help men meet the challenges of fatherhood and improve the strength of their families and communities. Paul is a pioneer in the field of personal communications and technology reference publishing, and served five years as director of publications for a nonprofit charitable relief organization working with the United Nations. Paul is a divorced father with three children. He lives in the San Francisco Bay Area.
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Table of Contents

I Your Divorced Dad's Companion: Lemons Into Lemonade 1

A Chance for Growth 2

Getting Started 3

It's All About the Kids 4

1 Making the Decision to Divorce 7

One Last Try 10

Honoring the Bonds of Our Children 14

Taking Care of Yourself 22

Who Moves Out? 23

Leave the Lawyer Stuff for Later if You Can 26

Money, Money, Money, Money 28

Hang In There 30

2 Setting Up Housekeeping 31

Making a Home 34

Location, Location, Location 36

Make Room for the Kids 39

What's Cookin'? 41

Excuse Me! Do I Look Like a Taxi? 43

Remember You're Human 44

Taking Stock 45

3 Two Parents, Two Homes: How to Make Shared Custody Work 47

Dealing With the Changes 49

Some Things Don't Change 52

Staying Connected 53

Different Voices, Different Homes 55

Establishing Your House Rules 57

Getting Flexible at Work 60

Show Up When You Say You Will 61

Presence, Not Presents 70

4 A Day in the Life 73

A Typical Day 75

On Less-Than-ldeal Days 76

Managing the Details 82

Baby Sitters and After-School Care 89

Right Speech and Staying Focused on the Future 92

5 Settling Up: Legal and Custody Issues 95

The High Cost of Conflict 98

The Basics of the Legal Divorce 100

Dividing the Pie: Spousal Support and Property Division 110

Legal Issues When a Spouse Is in the Military 120

How to Choose an Attorney 122

Making a Paper Trail 123

When You Have to Fight 124

Assume the Impossible Is Possible 129

Don't Underestimate Your Stress 130

Opportunities for Personal Growth 131

6 Being the Parent You Want to Be 133

Becoming the Parent You Want to Be 134

Keeping Your Kids Out of the Fray 141

Setting Limits 144

Watching for Signs of Stress in Your Kids 155

Our Teenagers, Ourselves 162

7 Keeping the Peace and Keeping Yourself Together 169

Keeping the Peace With Your Ex 170

Keeping Yourself Together 179

Recognizing and Managing Stress 181

Ten Not-So-Hard-and-Fast Rules for Managing Stress 184

Recognizing and Managing Depression 186

Choosing Your Problems 188

Letting Go of Your Problems 193

Don't Go It Alone 196

8 Friends and Lovers 199

The Dating Game: Ready or Not? 200

Back in the Game 203

Dating and Your Ex 206

Introducing Your New Love to the Kids 209

You're the Boss of You 216

When Your Ex Starts Dating 218

9 A Second Chance: Remarriage and Blending Families 221

Parenting in a Blended Family 224

Make Space for Mourning and Change Will Happen 232

New Family, New Rituals 233

Dealing With Your Ex About Your Marriage-And Hers 235

Do We Really Have to Talk About This? 238

Nurturing Your Relationship 241

Nurturing Your Extended Family 241

Index 243

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