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Posted October 8, 2009
This book talks clearly and directly not only about how to communicate more effectively within important relationships but also how to understand our own self talk, the resulting behaviors and the eventual consequences we experience. The author invites us to change the way we approach getting our needs met - inviting us to understand the feelings that rise out of our observations of events and to acknowledge what need we have at that moment - and then verbalizing it to ourselves and another. The author encourages the reader to abandon the binary approach and to step into the grey area of negotiated agreements. No more black or white thinking - your way or my way, but instead a newly created "our way" of getting needs met that results in rich relationship intimacy.
If you are reading books about assertiveness and self esteem you will want to add this book to your list. If you are looking for your voice in a specific relationship you will be well served to practice the principles detailed in this book.