Bendita pena: Sanar a traves del dolor y la perdida

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Una gu?a compasiva sobre la experiencia de p?rdida como proceso esencial de crecimiento

? Examina el fen?meno de la p?rdida como un hondo misterio que compartimos todos los seres humanos

? Ofrece consejos sensatos y pr?cticos sobre la experiencia del duelo y c?mo prepararse para el proceso de recuperaci?n que sigue a esa experiencia

En esta gu?a llena de compasi?n, Deborah Morris Coryell, experta en asuntos relacionados con el duelo, describe esta aflicci?n como una experiencia ...

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Bendita pena: Sanar a través del dolor y la pérdida

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Overview

Una guía compasiva sobre la experiencia de pérdida como proceso esencial de crecimiento

• Examina el fenómeno de la pérdida como un hondo misterio que compartimos todos los seres humanos

• Ofrece consejos sensatos y prácticos sobre la experiencia del duelo y cómo prepararse para el proceso de recuperación que sigue a esa experiencia

En esta guía llena de compasión, Deborah Morris Coryell, experta en asuntos relacionados con el duelo, describe esta aflicción como una experiencia en la que carecemos de un lugar donde colocar nuestro amor. Nos recuerda que todas las pérdidas deben pasar por un proceso de duelo y que el hecho de prestar atención a toda experiencia de pérdida, por ínfima que sea, nos puede ayudar a ponernos en sintonía con nosotros mismos, pues nos da la oportunidad de integrarnos una vez más en el ritmo de la vida, del que nos hemos desconectado.

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Editorial Reviews

coautor de From Age-ing to Sage-ing Rabino Zalman M. Schachter-Shalomi
“Una guía exhaustiva y compasiva sobre uno de los procesos de crecimiento esenciales en la vida. El duelo no es una penalidad que se nos impone; es la labor de sanación que realiza el amor cuando perdemos a un ser querido.”
director de la Fundación “Walking Sti Gershon Winkler
“Ayuda a las familias a hacer frente al duelo en una forma robustecedora, honrosa y vital.”
Universidad Bastyr The Library Letter
“[Deborah Morris Coryell] escribe con una voz misericordiosa que nos reconforta y al mismo tiempo nos desafía a promover la transformación a través de la experiencia de la pérdida. Esta obra es un excelente acompañante. . . un recurso útil y de validación para los consejeros de duelo, para cualquiera que trabaje con personas afligidas por una pena y para muchos que tratan de superar penas en sus propias vidas.”
From the Publisher
“[Deborah Morris Coryell] escribe con una voz misericordiosa que nos reconforta y al mismo tiempo nos desafía a promover la transformación a través de la experiencia de la pérdida. Esta obra es un excelente acompañante. . . un recurso útil y de validación para los consejeros de duelo, para cualquiera que trabaje con personas afligidas por una pena y para muchos que tratan de superar penas en sus propias vidas.”

“[Para] las persons que estan sufriendo con la pena o quienes están atravesando un mayor periodo de transición en sus vidas. Yo dependo sobre la sabiduría y habilidad de Deborah Coryell y recomiendo Bendita Pena como un recurso para pacientes y médicos.”

“Ayuda a las familias a hacer frente al duelo en una forma robustecedora, honrosa y vital.”

“Una guía exhaustiva y compasiva sobre uno de los procesos de crecimiento esenciales en la vida. El duelo no es una penalidad que se nos impone; es la labor de sanación que realiza el amor cuando perdemos a un ser querido.”

Andrew Weil
“[Para] las persons que estan sufriendo con la pena o quienes están atravesando un mayor periodo de transición en sus vidas. Yo dependo sobre la sabiduría y habilidad de Deborah Coryell y recomiendo Bendita Pena como un recurso para pacientes y médicos.”
Zalman M. Schachter-Shalomi
“Una guía exhaustiva y compasiva sobre uno de los procesos de crecimiento esenciales en la vida. El duelo no es una penalidad que se nos impone; es la labor de sanación que realiza el amor cuando perdemos a un ser querido.”
The Library Letter
“[Deborah Morris Coryell] escribe con una voz misericordiosa que nos reconforta y al mismo tiempo nos desafía a promover la transformación a través de la experiencia de la pérdida. Esta obra es un excelente acompañante. . . un recurso útil y de validación para los consejeros de duelo, para cualquiera que trabaje con personas afligidas por una pena y para muchos que tratan de superar penas en sus propias vidas.”
Gershon Winkler
“Ayuda a las familias a hacer frente al duelo en una forma robustecedora, honrosa y vital.”
Rabino Zalman M. Schachter-Shalomi
“Una guía exhaustiva y compasiva sobre uno de los procesos de crecimiento esenciales en la vida. El duelo no es una penalidad que se nos impone; es la labor de sanación que realiza el amor cuando perdemos a un ser querido.”
From the Publisher

“[Deborah Morris Coryell] escribe con una voz misericordiosa que nos reconforta y al mismo tiempo nos desafía a promover la transformación a través de la experiencia de la pérdida. Esta obra es un excelente acompañante. . . un recurso útil y de validación para los consejeros de duelo, para cualquiera que trabaje con personas afligidas por una pena y para muchos que tratan de superar penas en sus propias vidas.”
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781594773013
  • Publisher: Inner Traditions/Bear & Company
  • Publication date: 8/28/2009
  • Language: Spanish
  • Edition description: Translatio
  • Pages: 160
  • Sales rank: 210,406
  • Product dimensions: 5.30 (w) x 8.20 (h) x 0.50 (d)

Meet the Author

Deborah Morris Coryell ha trabajado en el área de salud desarollando programas de sanación desde 1974. Es la fundadora del departamento de Educación sobre la Sanación para Canyon Ranch Spa Resorts y para el Pritikin Centro de Longevidad. Ella es miembra visitante de la facultad para el programa de Andrew Weil sobre la Medicina Integrante y cofundadora y directora ejecutiva de la Fundación Shiva, una organización sin fines de lucro hubicada en San Luis Obispo, California, dedicada a la educación y apoyo para los que estan sufriendo con la pérdida y la pena.
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Time Does Not Heal All Wounds

In studying the way, realizing it is hard;

once you have realized it, preserving it is hard;

when you can preserve it,

putting into practice is hard.

—Zen Saying

Among the most frequently repeated phrases about suffering is that time heals all wounds or this too shall pass. Time passes. It does not heal. Healing is an active process not a passive one. If we have a cut and do nothing to clean it out or do not apply a salve, it will probably still form a scab. It might take longer and first develop an infection but the wound will most likely close and leave a scar.

When I was about five years old I ran away from home. I didn’t get very far; the downstairs vestibule. I waited what seemed like an eternity for someone to come looking for me. When no one did, I put my hand through one of those small decorative panes of glass in the door. A little sliver of glass was left in the soft fleshy part of my hand. It closed up with that glass inside.

When we experience woundings to our heart, soul and mind, it feels as if we have been torn open. Sometimes we are bleeding, figuratively, from every orifice of our bodies. Eventually the bleeding stops and the wound closes, but what has closed inside? Have we healed or just closed up with our anger, fear, resentment and doubt inside? Occasionally we develop a weeping wound which doctors define as a wound that doesn’t heal because of noxious matter that continues to fester and ooze. How many weeping wounds can we contain before our entire system becomes infected?

As we begin to explore the meaning of healing through loss, we come upon the ancient spiritual roots of the healing arts. From prehistoric time, the healer or shaman was the most powerful teacher and wise one of the clan. In many languages, the word to heal comes from the word to be whole, an etymological root derived from the belief that when we become sick, we lose our wholeness. Something or someone has broken through our wholeness and caused dis-ease within our body. To heal is to come back into that lost wholeness. Returning to wholeness often means that we must somehow integrate the disease so it is no longer identified as a threat. Once it is part of us, we have incorporated what was thought to be a threat into our hearts and souls and minds. This explains how it is possible for someone with an incurable illness to be healed—they can use the disease as a path into wholeness. My friend Philomena lived 21 months past the three-month life span doctors had given her. In those two years she reached out to find her healing and possibly her cure. She searched for all those places inside where she felt not whole and eventually became the person she always wanted to be. Her last words to me were: If the price of this illness was learning all I’ve learned, I gladly pay with my life because I’ve become the person I always wanted to be.

Healing and curing are two very different concepts. Healing is a spiritual idea and curing is a medical one. Healing is an active process. It doesn’t happen to us; we must participate in the process of our healing. Healing happens for us. It is a gift we give to ourselves in the moment we decide to stay open to that which has broken us.

In pain management used for patients with chronic pain, it is taught not to tighten around the pain but to relax and allow the pain to be present. The idea is that when pain is resisted, it intensifies. When we breathe deeply and acknowledge the presence of pain, it has room to move and can dissipate more readily. Pain is there to tell us something, to warn us of possible danger. This is as true for emotional, spiritual and mental pain as it is for physical pain. When pain speaks, we need to listen. All it takes is paying attention to our pain so that when it comes we remember to breathe and get soft. We don’t want to fight with our pain. We want to learn from it. Time does not heal. But healing does take time. Give yourself the gift of time. To become whole means that as we open to the pain, we open to the loss. We break open and, as a consequence, we get bigger and include more of life. We include what would have been lost to us if our hearts and minds had closed against the pain. We include what would have been lost if we had not taken the time to heal. As singer/songwriter Carly Simon tells us: "There’s more room in a broken heart."

Simple Presence Open Heart

What is this place where thought is useless?

Knowledge cannot fathom it.

—Yumen, Zen Patriarch

We each yearn or one moment of awe where we can feel connected to the source of life. The moment of a birth, the embrace of unconditional love, the heart of loss each contain such moments. We are essentially changed by these moments, transformed, as we witness birth, embrace love or feel loss. Yet we protect and defend ourselves from being fully present in these moments because to do so would mean being open not only to life but also to its potential losses. So we construct elaborate defenses against not only loss but against love and other acts of creation. What would it take to stay present and open in the face of love, in the act of creation or to the challenge of loss?

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Table of Contents


Carta al lector

Diez años después . . . mayo de 2007

Examen de la naturaleza de la pérdida

La sensación de estar perdidos

Duelo esencial

El tiempo no sana todas las heridas

Práctica diaria

Soportar la carga

Recursos para transformar nuestra relación con la pérdida

El arte de perder

La respiración

Presencia simple--Corazón abierto

Trabajo con las sombras

Imagine

La rendición

Estado de testigo

Sanación del cuerpo místico ante la pérdida

La danza en espiral

El ritual de recordar

Philomena--25 de julio de 1996

El borde

La fe

La “puerta sin puerta”

La historia interminable

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