From the Publisher
"Witty and affirming."
"Hilarious . . . His strong sense of fun keeps the pages turning, and beyond the high spirits, a more touching revelation begins to emerge. . . . Tobias has bottled the secret of happiness and learned how to pass it on."
San Francisco Chronicle
"If Andy Tobias were a company, he'd be Fortune 500. . . . He's blue-chip, top-drawer, a hot ticket. Read this book."
RITA MAE BROWN
Even with money, it cannot be easy for a gay man to grow up, but Tobias does not let us in on his conflicts. . . .Fans will want to know how his story turns out. . .Tobias' sequel allows nonfans to follow along, but it does not give them much of a motive for doing so.
The New York Times Book Review
Publishers Weekly - Publisher's Weekly
A quarter of a century ago, shortly after receiving his MBA from Harvard, Tobias wrote The Best Little Boy in the World. Already established as a finance writer (The Only Investment Guide You'll Ever Need), he decided to write his account of growing up gay under the name John Reid. The book's publication and reception led Tobias to question his closeted life and slowly undertake the careful and selective coming-out process that is the crux of this loosely spun and overly anecdotal memoir. Via accounts of his coming-out experiences with family, friends and colleagues and various trials and tribulations of dating and relationships, Tobias sketches the shifting landscape of homophobia in America. Tobias's journey encompasses the closeted '60s at Harvard to gay Fire Island in the '70s, to AIDS and the rise to power of Bill Clinton (for whom Tobias reserves his greatest accolades). While Tobias writes with a healthy dose of self-deprecating humor and sarcasm, the endless encomiums by supportive liberals or powerful gay men as they broke down the barriers of homophobia becomes tedious. The recurrent message -- basically "wow! we've come a long way!" -- is obvious. And if Tobias's enthusiasm for society's greater tolerance is refreshing, his outlook from the top of the social ladder is somewhat narrow and the tone tends to be self-congratulatory. Tobias is most at home when writing about the intricacies of relationships, wittily depicting the subtleties and nuances of friendship, romance, lust and love for modern gay men.
Twenty-five years ago, financial writer Tobias introduced American society to the gay world in his classic memoir, The Best Little Boy in the World, written under the pseudonym John Reid. In a poignant and riveting sequel spanning the intervening years, Tobias brings readers up-to-date on his life and the changes in American attitudes toward gay issues. He has a talent for telling stories with charm and candor, and he vividly recounts what it was like to be a gay man during the heady days of the gay rights movement. In passages both bittersweet and political, Tobias offers memories of love and loss and discusses coming out to the president of the United States at a time when it was not considered politically acceptable. Libraries owning Tobias's first memoir should definitely have this sequel.
Reid's honest, wry story of denying his true nature -- one of homosexuality -- and finally coming out, has been shared with others for 15 years. An enlightening account of growing up gay in a straight world.
Tobias, premier financial author (The Only Other Investment Guide You'll Ever Need, My Vast Fortune), now turns to autobiography and reveals to the few who don't already know that he is homosexual. A quarter-century ago, using a nom de plume, Tobias wrote a gay classic, The Best Little Boy in the World. Now, using his real name, he brings us up to date on his own parallel progress in straight and gay worlds, and on the advances America has made in confronting those, like himself, whose 'sex drive had been multiplied by minus one.' His concerns are unsurprising in an-emerging-from-the-closet memoir: how to tell the folks (there was no problem with the Tobiases, once Andy got around to doing it); dealing with losses to AIDS; loneliness; dating and the search for Mr. Right (his type is Tom Cruise); all the many blighted romances and the rigors of true love.
Along the way come serial relationships with Peter, Scot, Ed, Tony, Bruce, Matt, Stevie, Tab, and now Charles, with whom Tobias has exchanged rings. And tells of the Renaissance Weekends, where our Merry Andrew became a true Friend of Bill, the Friendly President, and festive weekends at Fire Island, etc., etc. Withal, nothing much here is shocking. Tobias admits to being a good hugger but happily won't confide further. Yet the text may enrage Trent Lott and Pat Robertson anyhow. It will probably enrage some in the gay and lesbian community. The languorous passages may simply bore many straights who wander in hoping for investment advice.
Tobias pleads for understanding, maybe a contribution to a good gay-rights cause, and, of course, auto insurance reform (his other constant worry).