Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control: A Love Based Approach to Helping Children with Severe Behaviors
  • Alternative view 1 of Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control: A Love Based Approach to Helping Children with Severe Behaviors
  • Alternative view 2 of Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control: A Love Based Approach to Helping Children with Severe Behaviors

Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control: A Love Based Approach to Helping Children with Severe Behaviors

3.7 13
by Heather T. Forbes
     
 

View All Available Formats & Editions

We are living in one of the most stressful times in human history. This abundance of stress is impacting families and in many cases, manifesting itself in children with difficult and severe behaviors. Homes often turn into intense fighting grounds of power struggles and control battles parents find themselves in us against them scenarios with their children. Tension

Overview

We are living in one of the most stressful times in human history. This abundance of stress is impacting families and in many cases, manifesting itself in children with difficult and severe behaviors. Homes often turn into intense fighting grounds of power struggles and control battles parents find themselves in us against them scenarios with their children. Tension continually builds and before long, parents are feeling completely overwhelmed, powerless, and resentful of their children. As parents implement traditional parenting techniques, parenting in a way that most parenting books recommend, they find their situations becoming worse, not better as promised these resources. It doesn't have to be this way! Heather T. Forbes, LCSW, offers families a new view to parenting children with difficult and severe behaviors. As a parent herself who experienced dark days (and years) following the adoption of her two children, she offers a ground-breaking approach to parenting that shows parents a proven way to develop strong and loving relationships with their children. In her new book, Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control: A Love Based Approach to Helping Children with Severe Behaviors, Volume 2, Heather offers practical and effective solutions based in scientific research, coupled with professional and personal experience. She is a master at bridging the gap between academic research and real life when the rubber hits the road parenting. This book is written in an easy to understand and easy to grasp format for anyone working with or parenting children with difficult or severe behaviors. The first six chapters discuss the principles of her love-based parenting paradigm. A newunderstanding of why traditional parenting techniques are ineffective with children with difficult behaviors is given, along with clear and concise explanations of the science behind trauma and negative early life experiences. The next seven chapters address specific behaviors, including poor social skills, homework battles, demanding behaviors, self-injury, defensive attitudes, no conscience, and chores. Each chapter gives specific examples of how to implement her parenting principles, empowering parents to make amazing and permanent changes in their homes. All the examples given throughout these chapters are true stories provided by parents who read and implemented her first book, Volume 1. The book ends with a parenting bonus section where more real-life stories from real-life parents with real-life children are given. These examples range in the spectrum of the ages of the children and a variety of behavioral issues. This book offers hope and healing. It goes beyond just changing a child s behaviors but goes to the level of healing for all family members. This book has the power to literally change families for life and to help families find the peace in their homes that they dreamed of from the beginning--and the peace they deserve!

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780977704033
Publisher:
Beyond Consequences Institute, LLC
Publication date:
01/01/2008
Pages:
179
Product dimensions:
6.00(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.60(d)

Meet the Author

Heather T. Forbes, LCSW, is co-founder and owner of the Beyond Consequences Institute. Forbes has worked with nationally recognized attachment professionals in the field of trauma and attachment since 1999. She is an internationally published author on the topics of adoptive motherhood, raising children with difficult and severe behaviors, and self-development. Forbes lectures, consults, and coaches parents throughout the U.S., Canada, and the U.K., working to create peaceful, loving families. She is passionate about supporting families by bridging the gap between academic research and "when the rubber hits the road" parenting. Much of her experience and insight on understanding trauma, disruptive behaviors, and adoption-related issues comes from her direct mothering experience of her two adopted children.

Customer Reviews

Average Review:

Write a Review

and post it to your social network

     

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

See all customer reviews >

Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control 3.8 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 13 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
She is talking about Reactive Attachment Disorder, not kids in general. I adopted my Russian daughters when they were 13 and 9. The older one has classic RAD, and it's been a nightmare. After having read this book, and observed my daughter for 8 years, I can say that Forbes absolutely nails it. But don't think that this books is particularly applicable to ALL kids. RAD is a nightmare that never ends. In the end, you have to deal with them just the way Forbes does or you will go insane. when you're fighting a battle that you can't win, and can't quit, then a third alternative must be found. She has found it. No, she will NOT "cure" your kid. She doesn't claim to be able to. She's helping you salvage what you can.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
My biological child is dealing with childhood trauma anxiety and anger issues. This book came highly recommended by a youth councilor professional who works with middle school age children with behavioral issues. I found the behavior breakdown in this book an easy read and quite simple concept on how to assess a situation before getting sucked into one as we often do as parents. I enjoyed the book and thought that the information was more valuable than a years worth of professionals recommending me medicate my child.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This is a great book if you are a parent or professional working with children from the foster care sysytem. This is a great book that will provide hope for children that have been through trauma in their lives.
Guest More than 1 year ago
An absolute must read for anyone working with children who have suffered trauma in any degree.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I was at my wits end til I read this book then I had to get Volume 1.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I wanted to like this book, because it advocates a gentle style of parenting that I would like to live up to. I wanted it to debunk the pseudoscience of the Foster Cline's and Nancy Thomas's of this world. But it is full of pseudoscience too, not to mention simple typographical and grammatical errors and specious arguments. Very depressing. At the same time, the practical suggestions for dealing with traumatized kids are more effective with my child - who has enormous stress and fear arising from his history of broken bonds - than any of the hard-nosed semi-abusive crap advocated by the "traditional" attachment therapists, and I can only ascribe that to the practical experience of the authors in dealing with troubled kids. I recommend the techniques to parents, but I question the foundation, which makes the entire book very unsatisfying.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
wow, self publishing is certainly the way to go when you can not (and would not want) obtain what would normally be sought in a booklet like this - peer review.  with absolutely no research cited for what amounts to be a personal opinion theory (the stress model), none of what follows has any credibility.  i can not imagine what grade the author received when they put this in front of their thesis committee.