Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control: A Love Based Approach to Helping Children With Severe Behaviors

Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control: A Love Based Approach to Helping Children With Severe Behaviors

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by Heather T. Forbes, B. Bryan Post
     
 

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Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control covers in detail the effects of trauma on the body-mind and how trauma alters children's behavioral responses. The first four chapters help parents and professionals clearly understand the neurological research behind the basic model given in this book, deemed, 'The Stress Model.' While scientifically based in research, it is…  See more details below

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Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control covers in detail the effects of trauma on the body-mind and how trauma alters children's behavioral responses. The first four chapters help parents and professionals clearly understand the neurological research behind the basic model given in this book, deemed, 'The Stress Model.' While scientifically based in research, it is written in an easy to understand and easy to grasp format for anyone working with or parenting children with severe behaviors. The next seven chapters are individually devoted to seven behaviors typically seen with attachment-challenged children. These include lying, stealing, hoarding and gorging, aggression, defiance, lack of eye contact, and yes, even a chapter that talks candidly about how parents appear hostile and angry when they work to simply maintain their families from reaching complete states of chaos. Each of these chapters talks in depth on these specific behaviors and gives vivid and contrasting examples of how this love-based approach works to foster healing and works to develop relationships, as opposed to the fear-based traditional attachment parenting approaches that are being advocated in today's attachment field. The authors end with a Parenting Bonus Section: true testimonials from parents who have been able to make significant changes in their homes with this model of parenting, giving real-life examples of how they have been able to find the healing, peace, and love that they had been seeking prior to working through the techniques outlined in this book.

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ISBN-13:
9780984715503
Publisher:
Beyond Consequences Institute, LLC
Publication date:
03/28/2012
Sold by:
Barnes & Noble
Format:
NOOK Book
Pages:
152
Sales rank:
129,706
File size:
419 KB

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Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control 3.8 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 13 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
She is talking about Reactive Attachment Disorder, not kids in general. I adopted my Russian daughters when they were 13 and 9. The older one has classic RAD, and it's been a nightmare. After having read this book, and observed my daughter for 8 years, I can say that Forbes absolutely nails it. But don't think that this books is particularly applicable to ALL kids. RAD is a nightmare that never ends. In the end, you have to deal with them just the way Forbes does or you will go insane. when you're fighting a battle that you can't win, and can't quit, then a third alternative must be found. She has found it. No, she will NOT "cure" your kid. She doesn't claim to be able to. She's helping you salvage what you can.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
My biological child is dealing with childhood trauma anxiety and anger issues. This book came highly recommended by a youth councilor professional who works with middle school age children with behavioral issues. I found the behavior breakdown in this book an easy read and quite simple concept on how to assess a situation before getting sucked into one as we often do as parents. I enjoyed the book and thought that the information was more valuable than a years worth of professionals recommending me medicate my child.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This is a great book if you are a parent or professional working with children from the foster care sysytem. This is a great book that will provide hope for children that have been through trauma in their lives.
Guest More than 1 year ago
An absolute must read for anyone working with children who have suffered trauma in any degree.
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I was at my wits end til I read this book then I had to get Volume 1.
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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I wanted to like this book, because it advocates a gentle style of parenting that I would like to live up to. I wanted it to debunk the pseudoscience of the Foster Cline's and Nancy Thomas's of this world. But it is full of pseudoscience too, not to mention simple typographical and grammatical errors and specious arguments. Very depressing. At the same time, the practical suggestions for dealing with traumatized kids are more effective with my child - who has enormous stress and fear arising from his history of broken bonds - than any of the hard-nosed semi-abusive crap advocated by the "traditional" attachment therapists, and I can only ascribe that to the practical experience of the authors in dealing with troubled kids. I recommend the techniques to parents, but I question the foundation, which makes the entire book very unsatisfying.
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wow, self publishing is certainly the way to go when you can not (and would not want) obtain what would normally be sought in a booklet like this - peer review.  with absolutely no research cited for what amounts to be a personal opinion theory (the stress model), none of what follows has any credibility.  i can not imagine what grade the author received when they put this in front of their thesis committee.