Beyond Our Control: Restructuring Your Life After Sexual Assault


Counselor Leila Rae Sommerfeld shares her own story and a message of hope in this detailed guide to recovery after sexual assault.
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Counselor Leila Rae Sommerfeld shares her own story and a message of hope in this detailed guide to recovery after sexual assault.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780825436826
  • Publisher: Kregel Publications
  • Publication date: 3/28/2009
  • Edition number: 2
  • Pages: 229
  • Product dimensions: 5.50 (w) x 8.40 (h) x 0.70 (d)

Meet the Author

Leila Rae Sommerfeld holds an Advanced Certificate in Pastoral Care to Women from Western Seminary in Portland, Oregon, is a member of the American Association of Christian Counselors. She lives in Gresham, Oregon, with her husband.
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Table of Contents

Acknowledgments 11

Introduction 13

Part 1 My Story

1 Nighttime Intruder 17

2 Nutcracker Suite 33

3 His Name Is Crackers 39

4 The Loud, Silent Year 45

5 Facing the Enemy 51

6 Perpetrators Change-Well, Some Do 59

7 Tough Love 67

8 God Can Create New Life 75

Part 2 Restructuring Your Life After Sexual Assault: Dear Reader 83

9 Original Trauma 85

10 Fear and the Loss of Safety 91

11 Post-Traumatic Stress 97

12 Depression 101

13 Shame and Guilt 105

14 You Don't Need to Forgive Yourself 111

15 Memories 115

16 Writing to Heal 121

17 Secondary Wounding 125

18 They Do It Because They Want To 131

19 Where's God? 141

20 Relationship Effects 145

21 Marital Intimacy After Rape 149

22 Mother Eve 153

23 A Social and Cultural Crisis 159

24 Victim Thinking 165

25 Releasing Your Anger 169

26 Do We Ever Recover? 173

27 Choosing to Heal 177

28 Signs of Healing 185

29 Taking Care of Yourself 191

30 Joy Will Come in the Morning 201

Appendix A In the Aftermath of Rape or Sexual Assault 205

Appendix B Covenant with God 207

Appendix C A Guide for Husbands, Fathers, and Friends 209

Appendix D Dear Church 215

Suggested Reading 217

Notes 219

About the Author 229

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