Beyond Our Control: Restructuring Your Life After Sexual Assault

Overview

Many women are waiting for help. Maybe you are too.

The statistics are startling: 12-38 percent of women have experienced sexual abuse and over the next decade, more than 900,000 women and 28 million children will become victims. Sexual abuse is not going away-and neither will its aftermath.

In Beyond Our Control, Leila Rae Sommerfeld shares her own story of recovery after rape to give victims hope and encouragement to overcome the emotional ...

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Overview

Many women are waiting for help. Maybe you are too.

The statistics are startling: 12-38 percent of women have experienced sexual abuse and over the next decade, more than 900,000 women and 28 million children will become victims. Sexual abuse is not going away-and neither will its aftermath.

In Beyond Our Control, Leila Rae Sommerfeld shares her own story of recovery after rape to give victims hope and encouragement to overcome the emotional scars associated with sexual abuse. Through her story and the stories of other survivors, you will discover

-the three levels of victimization
-myths about rape
-how to grow emotionally and spiritually through the coping process
-how God plays a role in freeing you from shame, guilt, resentment, and harmful memories

With Leila Rae's reservoir of empathy and bonus material (including discussion questions and appendices), Beyond Our Control is the perfect book to share the hopeful message that new life is possible-and it is within reach.

“Simply done, addressing major components of recovery. Suggestions are practical, realistic, and hopeful for women facing the life-changing trauma of rape.”-Larry Day, Ph.D., author of Self-Esteem: By God's Design

“Beyond Our Control brings hope and healing to hurting humanity.”-Judy Boen, prison chaplain, founder/director of Captive Hearts

“An important resource for friends, counselors, pastors, and those wanting to help women recover from the aftermath of rape.”-Bettie P. Mitchell, L.P.C, M.R., founder/director of Good Samaritan Ministries International

Leila Rae Sommerfeld holds an Advanced Certificate in Pastoral Care to Women from Western Seminary in Portland, Oregon, is a member of the American Association of Christian Counselors. She lives in Gresham, Oregon, with her husband.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780825436826
  • Publisher: Kregel Publications
  • Publication date: 3/28/2009
  • Edition number: 2
  • Pages: 229
  • Sales rank: 732,940
  • Product dimensions: 5.50 (w) x 8.40 (h) x 0.70 (d)

Meet the Author

Leila Rae Sommerfeld holds an Advanced Certificate in Pastoral Care to Women from Western Seminary in Portland, Oregon, is a member of the American Association of Christian Counselors. She lives in Gresham, Oregon, with her husband.
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Table of Contents

Acknowledgments 11

Introduction 13

Part 1 My Story

1 Nighttime Intruder 17

2 Nutcracker Suite 33

3 His Name Is Crackers 39

4 The Loud, Silent Year 45

5 Facing the Enemy 51

6 Perpetrators Change-Well, Some Do 59

7 Tough Love 67

8 God Can Create New Life 75

Part 2 Restructuring Your Life After Sexual Assault: Dear Reader 83

9 Original Trauma 85

10 Fear and the Loss of Safety 91

11 Post-Traumatic Stress 97

12 Depression 101

13 Shame and Guilt 105

14 You Don't Need to Forgive Yourself 111

15 Memories 115

16 Writing to Heal 121

17 Secondary Wounding 125

18 They Do It Because They Want To 131

19 Where's God? 141

20 Relationship Effects 145

21 Marital Intimacy After Rape 149

22 Mother Eve 153

23 A Social and Cultural Crisis 159

24 Victim Thinking 165

25 Releasing Your Anger 169

26 Do We Ever Recover? 173

27 Choosing to Heal 177

28 Signs of Healing 185

29 Taking Care of Yourself 191

30 Joy Will Come in the Morning 201

Appendix A In the Aftermath of Rape or Sexual Assault 205

Appendix B Covenant with God 207

Appendix C A Guide for Husbands, Fathers, and Friends 209

Appendix D Dear Church 215

Suggested Reading 217

Notes 219

About the Author 229

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