Beyond the Chase: Breaking Your Obsessions that Sabotage True Intimacy

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Maximize your capacity for a deep, lasting relationship with this guide designed to help you grow as a loving partner. For centuries, stories of romance in literature, in movies, and on television have equated true love with "happily ever after," perpetuating the myth that once you meet the love of your life, the rest is easy. In reality, it is when this initial attraction dissipates that the real work begins; building and maintaining true intimacy can be one of life's great ...
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Maximize your capacity for a deep, lasting relationship with this guide designed to help you grow as a loving partner. For centuries, stories of romance in literature, in movies, and on television have equated true love with "happily ever after," perpetuating the myth that once you meet the love of your life, the rest is easy. In reality, it is when this initial attraction dissipates that the real work begins; building and maintaining true intimacy can be one of life's great challenges--and rewards.

In Beyond the Chase: Breaking Your Obsessions That Sabotage True Intimacy, renowned therapist and national media commentator Carla Wills-Brandon teaches readers--whether they are in search of a mate, caught up in the passion of a burgeoning romance, or well along a committed path--how to weather a variety of storms by working through the obsessive tendencies that prevent them from achieving the close relationship that they desire. Readers learn to distinguish between lust and love recognize addictive behaviors that cause isolation communicate effectively establish healthy boundaries respect their partner sexually fight fairly identify symptoms of intimacy difficulties understand how past pain impacts relationships

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781592857180
  • Publisher: Hazelden Publishing
  • Publication date: 10/5/2009
  • Pages: 224
  • Product dimensions: 5.90 (w) x 8.90 (h) x 0.60 (d)

Meet the Author

Carla Wills-Brandon, M.A., a licensed psychological associate and licensed marriage and family therapist, has worked with couples and individuals seeking healthier relationships for more than twenty-five years. She has published ten books and has served as a guest expert on national televison shows such as The Montel Williams Show and Politically Incorrect with Bill Maher. She lives in Texas where she and her longtime husband and business partner, Michael, work with couples as a couple. Beyond the Chase: Breaking Your Barriers to an Intimate Relationship is her latest book.
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Table of Contents

Foreword Michael Brandon ix

Acknowledging Angels xi

Introduction: Asking Why When Love Goes Wrong Again 1

1 The Thrill of the Chase 5

2 The Acorn Doesn't Fall Far from the Tree: How We Learn about Relationships 17

3 Painful Memories: The Impact of Childhood Abuse on Healthy Intimacy 35

4 The Emotional Affair: Cheating without the Sex 55

5 Why We Can't See the Dancing Elephant: The Alcoholic, the Addict, and the Co-addict 73

6 Work Addiction: The Socially Acceptable Intimacy Buffer 89

7 Sexual Obsessions, Cybersex, and Addiction: Distancing from Intimate Relationships with Fantasy 103

8 Am I Hungry or Am I Hurting? Intimacy Dysfunction and Food Addiction Issues 119

9 Are Kids the Problem? Or Are They Being Used as a Barrier to Intimacy? 131

10 Using Religion as a Cover: Hiding from Healthy Intimacy 145

11 Building Healthy Intimacy 163

Appendix A Barriers to Intimacy Worksheets 171

Appendix B Self-Help Resources 191

Bibliography 205

About the Author 209

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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 10, 2009

    This book is excellent

    This book answers so many unanswered relationship questions and it provides solutions! Though there are gobs of relationship books out there, this one gets to the point in a manner that is not only informative but engaging and at times even entertaining. Not filled with a lot of psycho babble its a great book for anyone having problems with their love life.

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