Beyond the Sling: A Real-Life Guide to Raising Confident, Loving Children the Attachment Parenting Way [NOOK Book]

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A real-world guide to Attachment Parenting from the Big Bang Theory actress, neuroscientist, and mother Mayim Bialik—a book hailed by Dr. William Sears as “delightful” and by Ricki Lake as “a fantastic guide to birth and parenting that is packed with invaluable wisdom.”

Mayim Bialik was the child star of the popular 1990s TV sitcom Blossom, but she definitely didn’t follow the typical child-star trajectory. Instead, Mayim got her PhD in ...
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Beyond the Sling: A Real-Life Guide to Raising Confident, Loving Children the Attachment Parenting Way

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Overview

A real-world guide to Attachment Parenting from the Big Bang Theory actress, neuroscientist, and mother Mayim Bialik—a book hailed by Dr. William Sears as “delightful” and by Ricki Lake as “a fantastic guide to birth and parenting that is packed with invaluable wisdom.”

Mayim Bialik was the child star of the popular 1990s TV sitcom Blossom, but she definitely didn’t follow the typical child-star trajectory. Instead, Mayim got her PhD in neuroscience from UCLA, married her college sweetheart, and had two kids. Mayim then did what many new moms do—she read a lot of books, talked with other parents, and she soon started questioning a lot of the conventional wisdom she heard about the “right” way to raise a child. That’s when she turned to Attachment Parenting, a philosophy and lifestyle popularized by well-known physicians like Dr. William Sears and Dr. Jay Gordon.

To Mayim, Attachment Parenting’s natural, child-led approach not only felt right emotionally, it made sense intellectually and instinctually. She found that when she followed her intuition and relaxed into her role as a mother instead of following some rigid parenting script, both she and her children thrived. Taking into account her experience as a mother (and her scientific background), Mayim presents the major tenets of Attachment Parenting, including:

Baby wearing: How to “wear” your baby in a sling or a wrap to foster a closer bond with your child—it’s possible even for mamas with bad backs (and with big babies)!

Breastfeeding: Learn how to listen to your baby’s cues rather than sticking to a rigid schedule—and why people on airplanes love a nursing mother!

Gentle discipline: How to get your child to behave without yelling, threats, or time-outs—it really is possible.

Co-sleeping: How to avoid “sleep training” and get a great night’s sleep for the whole family.

Without the pretense and luxuries typical of so many Hollywood actors and parents, Mayim describes the beauty, simplicity, and purposefulness of Attachment Parenting, and how it’s become the guiding principle for her family. Much more than a simple how-to parenting guide, Beyond the Sling shows us that the core principles underlying Attachment Parenting are universal and can be appreciated no matter how you decide to raise your child.
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Editorial Reviews

Library Journal
Many readers will recognize Mayim Bialik as the star of Blossom, a sitcom from the 1990s. Celebrity parenting books often feel like a pathetic attempt at a comeback tour, and I didn't expect to like this title, but Bialik holds a PhD in neuroscience, is a certified lactation counselor, and writes with a pleasing and conversational style. Attachment parenting is hardly new, but she breaks it down into its most basic form, covering expected topics such as why natural labor and breast are best, the importance of nighttime feedings, and (of course) babywearing. VERDICT Bialik strikes the right combination of medical information, parenting advice, and personal experience. More ambitious readers will appreciate Ruth Newton's The Attachment Connection (2008), another solid title on attachment parenting. A surprise recommendation.
Publishers Weekly
Bialik, former child-star of the TV sitcom Blossom, is now a neuroscientist with two young sons. A proponent of “attachment parenting,” Bialik discusses the philosophy’s main components, including co-sleeping, baby-wearing, extended nursing, and natural birth, using her own experiences as a mother as well as her background in neuroscience to illustrate and shore up her points. The core of the author’s text focuses on what she considers to be baby’s needs, including a smooth birth (preferably without unnecessary medical intervention), breastfeeding (she became a certified lactation education counselor), holding, and nighttime parenting (including safe co-sleeping). She also includes a chapter on “Elimination Communication,” a potty training method that relies on parents’ recognizing baby’s signals (the diaper-free route, she admits, is not for everyone). While passionate and committed to attachment parenting, Bialik approaches her subject with a sense of humor and the awareness that not every parent will embrace all its tenets. Nevertheless, she makes a convincing case for the benefits for children, including healthy brain and social development, ability to develop trusting relationships, and good self esteem. Attachment parenting proponents will welcome Bialik’s openhearted message and advice to follow one’s instincts, and even readers who are skeptical will enjoy Bialik’s warm and nonjudgmental voice. (Mar.)
From the Publisher
"At once conversational, informative and progressive, this book should be compulsory reading for anyone who has even considered becoming a parent." —-Ricki Lake
Kirkus Reviews
An alternative-methods parenting guide. Feeding and sleeping schedules, potty training and early independence. These are the three maxims actress and mother of two Bialik claims parents must let go of in order to raise a child in the attachment parenting way. This "green" method of parenting "seeks to create a generation of children who love and respect people and the earth because they have been loved and respected by their parents." Guidelines set by Attachment Parenting International include natural childbirth, breastfeeding, sensitivity to the child and bonding. The author provides examples from her own experiences regarding these strategies. She recommends the use of midwives and doulas to help with childbirth in lieu of doctors and painkilling medications. Bialik explains breastfeeding on demand, holding the baby in one's arms or via the use of a baby carrier and the use of a family bed. Other advice includes saying no to all the gadgets and stuff available for babies and toddlers, avoiding unnecessary trips to the doctor for minor ailments and alternative approaches to discipline. Perhaps the most controversial suggestion is the idea of elimination communication--the ability to learn when a child, even a newborn, needs to pass waste products. Bialik claims that any child would prefer to eliminate into a potty rather than a cloth or disposable diaper. By learning the nonverbal signals that all children demonstrate, a parent can determine when the infant or child needs to use the potty and rush him or her to the appropriate location. The author admits parents must be willing to endure numerous accidents before the method is foolproof. Reminiscent of the back-to-the-land parenting methods of the 1960s, the book provides alternative ideas on childbirth and childrearing for today's modern parent.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781451618013
  • Publisher: Touchstone
  • Publication date: 3/6/2012
  • Sold by: SIMON & SCHUSTER
  • Format: eBook
  • Pages: 272
  • Sales rank: 141,358
  • File size: 4 MB

Meet the Author

Mayim Bialik
Mayim Bialik, Ph.D., is perhaps best known for her lead role as Blossom Russo in the 1990s television sitcom Blossom, and she currently appears on the top-rated comedy The Big Bang Theory. Bialik earned a B.S. from UCLA in 2000 in neuroscience and Hebrew and Jewish studies, and a Ph.D. in neuroscience from UCLA in 2007. She designed a neuroscience curriculum for homeschoolers in Southern California, where she also teaches middle and high school students. Married to her college sweetheart with two young sons, Bialik is also a Certified Lactation Education Counselor. Visit her at MayimBialik.net.
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Table of Contents

Introduction Jay Gordon ix

Part I Trust Your Instincts 1

1 You Know More Than You Think 3

2 "What Is Attachment Parenting? The Science of Attachment and Intuition 16

Part II What Baby Needs 35

3 Baby Needs a Smooth Entrance: Birth 37

4 Baby Needs Milk: Why We Breastfeed 57

5 Baby Needs to Be Held: How Will You Ever Get Anything Done Ever Again? 77

6 Baby Needs Nighttime Parenting: Gende Techniques and Co-sleeping 90

7 Baby Needs Potty: Elimination Communication 105

Part III What Baby Doesn't Need 119

8 Baby Doesn't Need All That Stuff: Figuring Out the Essentials 121

9 Baby Doesn't Need Unnecessary Medical Intervention: When (and When Not) to Call the Doctor 130

10 Baby Doesn't Need Pressure: Letting Kids Be Kids 151

11 Baby Doesn't Need Punishment: Understanding Gentle Discipline 172

Part IV What Mommy Needs 203

12 Keeping Your Relationships Strong: Staying "You" When You Become a Parent 205

13 Balancing Work and Family: Different Families, Different Choices 220

Resources 237

Acknowledgments 249

Index 253

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 28, 2012

    Grain of Salt

    As with most things, take her words with a grain of salt. Great story and wonderful advice but some of the things mentioned don't seem like they would be for me, yet a lot of them are. Interesting theories and great insight.

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    She does a great job explaining the theories of attachment paren

    She does a great job explaining the theories of attachment parenting and why it works. She is nonjudgemental and offers great resources and support for anyone looking to explore attachment parenting further.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 14, 2013

    Excellent Resource

    I found this book to be an enjoyable read and could relate to much of what Bialik wrote. I highly recommend it to parents who want to develop a close and loving bond with their children. This book is a wonderful example of what attachment parenting looks like.

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