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Beyond the Tears: A True Survivor's Story
     

Beyond the Tears: A True Survivor's Story

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by Lynn C. Tolson
 

Beyond the Tears: A True Survivor's Story is a memoir by Lynn C. Tolson. The story begins with her suicide attempt at the age of twenty-five. In the aftermath, she commits to counseling to recover from anxiety and depression. The reader accompanies the author through therapy sessions, where the young woman reveals dysfunctional family relationships, including

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Beyond the Tears: A True Survivor's Story is a memoir by Lynn C. Tolson. The story begins with her suicide attempt at the age of twenty-five. In the aftermath, she commits to counseling to recover from anxiety and depression. The reader accompanies the author through therapy sessions, where the young woman reveals dysfunctional family relationships, including domestic violence, sexual abuse, and mental illness. She learns from her counselor that she'd been suffering from PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) which was the underlying cause of self-destructive behaviors, such as addictions and alcoholism. Due to the therapeutic process, the author discovers the value of life. Her story illustrates physical, emotional, and spiritual transformation. In sharing her inspirational journey, she provides readers with a message of hope.

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Reader Review - Georgia Richardson
I'm going to start out this review by saying I was brought face-to-face with abuse. [from the story]. I was shocked, humbled, torn, angry, sad, but most of all, enlightened. If you ask me, everyone should read Beyond the Tears and therefore, be armed. The writing is excellent, you will fall in love with Karen, (I won't tell who she is), and you will want to reach out and protect Lynn. You will feel helpless, however, you will feel somewhat vindicated in the end. How does a victim, such as Ms. Ly
Reader Review - Kelly Stone
Beyond the Tears: A True Survivor’s Story is amazing! It's a story of incredible courage, strength, and will to not only survive but to thrive and help others. I'm inspired by Lynn Tolson’s desire to help other women by publishing her own story of trial and suffering. Any woman who has ever suffered childhood abuse or domestic violence will relate to this touching narrative of Lynn's life. Lynn's story gives hope to all women who have ever suffered any form of abuse.
Reader Review - Lori Lopez
[Beyond the Tears] is the story of triumph over a series of adversities, and learning to love life after wanting to die. Lynn Tolson has captured a time period and given us a glimpse of that era from her unique viewpoint. This behind-the-scenes perspective takes us through Sixties and Seventies American culture, while conveying the author's hardships and turmoil with wit and deep insights. Her narrative resounds with humorous and poetic depictions as she undergoes family strife, endures child ab
Midwest Book Review - Dian Moore
I was transported into the mind of a young woman bent on suicide and traveled with her through her suicide attempt, discovery, revival in a cold hospital room and transfer to a psyche ward. This was just in the first chapter. The remainder of my night was shot as I stayed awake, reading each page as quickly as possible so that I might know this woman was okay. That she recovered. That she escaped her abuser and survived. Intense doesn't begin to describe Beyond the Tears: A True Survivor's Story

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781410724175
Publisher:
Authorhouse
Publication date:
04/28/2003
Pages:
304
Sales rank:
901,190
Product dimensions:
6.06(w) x 9.16(h) x 0.77(d)

Meet the Author

After her first eighteen years in the Northeast, Lynn Tolson moved to the Southwest where she engaged in careers in real estate and property management. During those years, she survived post-traumatic stress disorder, which manifested in addictions and suicide attempts. Through the therapeutic process, she determined the causes of her dysfunction, which included childhood sexual abuse and domestic violence. Ultimately, she was able to achieve a life that reflects health and happiness. Her memoir, Beyond the Tears: A True Survivor's Story illustrates physical, emotional, and spiritual transformation; her story offers a message of hope. Tolson moved to the Midwest where she returned to college to obtain a degree in social work. She has also overcome breast cancer. She resides in the Rocky Mountains where she works as an artist, author, and advocate.

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Beyond the Tears: A True Survivor's Story 4.6 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 28 reviews.
Gyingst More than 1 year ago
I highly recommend this book for anyone who has ever been a victim of childhood sexual abuse, or suffers from the disease of addiction, as well as other mental health issues. As I read Lynne C. Tolson's account of her life, beginning with the first page, I felt as though I was reading about my own life. It gave me a feeling of déjà vu. Only if you have experienced any type of sexual abuse, addiction, attempted suicide, emotional abuse, mental health issues and just the fear of living with the memories inside of you, can you appreciate the courage it took for the author to put herself out there for the entire world to read. On a personal level, this book has recently helped me move on in my own therapeutic journey in dealing with that area of my life where I know I need to in order to experience true freedom.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I haven't read a book that I have connected to so well in my entire life. For those that have lived through any type of abuse, this book is a comfort in knowing that there is light at the end of the tunnel. The author, Lynn, leaves nothing behind and embraces her audience with truth. The book is an enlightenment to those that read it. I have felt more compelled to be honest with myself as I flipped through the pages of 'Beyond The Tears'. I recommend this book to anyone, whether you are just trying to grasp a better understanding or connection or want a truly honest read. I have been blessed by the authors words and inspiration for a brighter tomorrow. Thank you Lynn for an incredibly inspirational book!
Guest More than 1 year ago
From a desire to commit suicide to an unwavering will to live, Lynn Tolson writes with passion about her personal life narrative. After a childhood of sexual, physical, and emotional abuse, Tolson finds herself lost and despondent as an adult. It is through writing and therapy that Tolson breaks the silence and finally learns to embrace life. Ultimately, she comes to realize even more urgently the will to live, to reclaim a life lost in childhood, and to share her journey with others. Reading Tolson's book is like holding her hand as she gracefully--yet with much power--leads us places too scary to tread alone...ultimately leading us beyond our own tears.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Over and over, while reading this book, I had the uncanny feeling I was reading my own story. The unhealthy thought processes, self-destructive and self-debasing tendencies, the hopelessness and despair the author describes, were completely familiar. For that reason I found this book incredibly validating. Lynn¿s book assured me, more than any I¿ve ever read, I am not alone. Her use of actual therapy sessions was creative and beneficial. She kept my attention from the very beginning. Beyond the Tears will have the reader in tears at times, and some of the experiences are difficult to read because they are so real and heartbreaking. But reading this book is an adventure that is well worth the time. For all who have suffered any kind of abuse or have come from dysfunctional families, this book will be a tremendous help. Beyond the Tears offers hope to all who are seeking healing. Those who suffer from trauma-related struggles will find compassion and courage. As Lynn¿s title suggests, she truly is a survivor and her story assures us that we can be as well.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Beyond the Tears is amazing. It's a story of incredible courage, strength, and will to not only survive but to thrive and help others. I'm inspired by Lynn's desire to help other women by publishing her own story of trial and suffering. Any woman who has ever suffered childhood abuse or domestic violence will relate to this touching narrative of Lynn's life. Lynn's story gives hope to all women who have ever suffered any form of abuse.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I felt Lynn's pain. How awful her life was growing up. It is surprising that she was able to grow from her experience. Her life could have easily ended in suicide, but through sheer strength and courage she opened up and examined her life under a microscope. Thank goodness there are people like Lynn to share their experiences. It's nice to know one is not alone afterall. It's also nice to know there are professionals out there willing to support others in a healthy manner to help make them strong and whole again. This book will provide the hope needed to continue on in the face of adversity, knowing all the while things can and will get better.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I had a happy childhood. My parents loved me and were wonderful to this day my mother is one of my best friends and my greatest supporters. Having such a stable family background made it difficult for me to read Beyond the Tears. Lynn Tolson suffered immeasurably. She was abandoned by all of the basic social institutions: the family, the medical system (her stories about psychiatric care are appalling and I'm sure that many people can relate to them) and social service. Sadly, Lynn did not feel safe enough to confide in her teachers to tell them that she was being sexually abused. There's so much shame and secrecy that is attached to molestation and it takes an incalculable toll on one's psychological and physical health. With stark candor, Lynn leads us through her devastating experience growing up. But this is not a story simply of pain and victimization. It is a story of triumph over adversity. Not only did Lynn work out her emotional scars with the help of several decent, humane therapists, but she decided to devote her time to giving back to other survivors of sexual abuse. Now Lynn is a social worker helping other people. Who could be more qualified or helpful than someone who has already been there? Beyond the Tears is required reading for anyone who is interested in the horrifying problem of sexual abuse of children. Sigrid Macdonald Author of D'Amour Road
Guest More than 1 year ago
One of the biggest stigmas of being a survivor of sexual abuse/incest is the fear that no one could possibly ever understand what you've been through. Reading this book is an incredible insight, not only into Lynn's experiences, but also into the realization that there are other people who can and DO understand! You are not alone.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Beyond the Tears is an absolutely awesome story! I was spellbound to the end. The reflections on experiences in the author's life were real and very well-written. I could not put the book down. The feedback from the therapist provided great insight into my own life. We've all experienced some sort of abuse in our lives and this book helped me realize I am not alone and being a victim has never been my fault. The author's courageous journey is a lesson for everyone and will help readers become more healthy and happy in their relationships. The book is a combination novel and self-help. A great read with real life lessons that can be applied to your life immediately.
Guest More than 1 year ago
A survivor is not always the one who is the strongest or the wisest, but the one who perseveres. Lynn Tolson takes you from the darkest days of her life into a place where peace and happiness come to fruition.It is a compelling and believeable story. The author is candid but not brutal. It is an enjoyable read and leaves you with hope.
JudithHaire More than 1 year ago
Reviewed by Judith Haire, author of Don't Mind Me Beyond The Tears is a compelling read and is both moving and memorable. The reader is taken on a heart rending journey, beginning with the suicide attempt of an abused and addicted young woman. Lynn describes her experience of mental illness, sexual, physical and emotional abuse, domestic violence and dysfunctional family relationships. We are taken through Lynn's therapy sessions as she attempts to integrate the traumatic life events she has experienced. There is a message of hope in Beyond The Tears and this book is inspirational. It is essential reading for anyone wanting to discover the roots of mental distress and to learn about Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Lynn shows great courage in sharing her story and she demonstrates that the journey to healing can be long and fraught but that hope is always present. Highly recommended.
deenic More than 1 year ago
You know how people in general, when they share certain things like trauma; can see it in other people? Reading this book almost transported me back to my own childhood. Although, that thought in general is not a pleasant one; it does speak to the power of the book and the author's ability to transcend from the pages to the reader's heart. This book speaks to not only how good people make bad choice's in life but that even those choices are coerced by a person's circumstances. Although we may be responsible for our choices, it does not necessarily mean we are the only influence of those choices. This book shows us how paths in one's life can be changed or altered simply by being born in a bad home versus a good home. That paths can be forced upon us even as an innocent child. It gives new insight into how addictive patterns and habits can be formed even by the most innocent of all of us. This book is a poignant tale of someone who survived and lived to tell us that we all have worth and value. That life, which has influenced our choices and paths, is not predetermined and that even in the worst of times; there is hope...Beyond the Tears!
Wordsmith-LRL More than 1 year ago
This is the story of triumph over a series of adversities, and learning to love life after wanting to die. Lynn Tolson has captured a time period and given us a glimpse of that era from her unique viewpoint. This behind-the-scenes perspective takes us through Sixties and Seventies American culture, while conveying the author's hardships and turmoil with wit and deep insights. Her narrative resounds with humorous and poetic depictions as she undergoes family strife, endures child abuse and later assaults, survives violent close calls and suicidal impulses, careens farther off-course in a haze of drugs and alcohol, rejects then embraces therapy to emerge a healthy creative individual. The book is an engaging and affecting account of a life nearly lost but eventually discovered - cherished - directed toward fulfillment through love, social work, advocacy, writing and art. Although it is a tale of woes and torments, Lynn's voice manages to guide and inform the reader with a style that is both soothing and appealing. Whether you can relate to her specific travails or not, this is indeed a story that is worthy of being read. The emotions portrayed and repercussions of her experiences are universal; everyone has suffered some degree of anxiety, confusion, and self-doubt.
WomenEvolving More than 1 year ago
An indepth look at one woman's life which you can't imagine and how far she goes to openly shares her dramatic story of her life. A well written and well read book that can be learned from. For any survivors of abuse and a must for survivors of suicide and for those in need.
mamabearSS More than 1 year ago
In Beyond the Tears: A True Survivor's Story, a memoir by Lynn C. Tolson , we are taken on a poignant and powerful journey. "You will remember nothing" , this phrase haunted her for years. Her schizophrenic father whispered it to her each time he molested her beginning at age three. When she was 13, her brother began violating her sexually as well. He used the same phrase when he molested her that her father had used. With the help of a special therapist, she breaks the silence of her experience, in flashbacks, and displays enormous courage in the face of incredible darkness. The incest and mental anguish she endured oppressed her voice and her innate birthrights for safety, health, and innocence. It sought to destroy any sense of entitlement to a future of promise and hope in her own body. But she fought back. Ignited by therapy and writing down the horror of what her father and brother inflicted on her, metamorphosis began. This verbalization of the truth was profoundly emancipating. Lynn not only enabled herself to reclaim her power and worth, but also wrote a book that will enable others to do the same. Her book has a certain realism that pierces straight through to the heart and soul of the matter. Lynn has triumphed over incest, the patriarchal attitudes that permeated her familial legacy, an unhappy marriage to an abusive man, depression, anxiety, mental illness, suicide attempts, and drug addiction. She reclaimed her light. She won her victory. I highly recommend this book to anyone who wishes to battle the taboo of incest and do his or her part in facing down the darkness. Through this painful birth, she is able to midwife redemption, healing, and empowerment for herself. By sharing this book with us, she creates the requisite awareness that germinates bountiful healing. This Woman has turned it around, even surviving breast cancer Lynn uses different channels for her healing, including painting. She especially loves watercolors. Lynn spends her days doing presentations to break the silence that surrounds abuse and incest. "Bringing awareness of abuse to the community and bringing a message of hope to victims is my work."~Lynn C. Tolson
Catharsis_Foundation More than 1 year ago
Beyond the Tears is a testament to surviving suicide attempts and finally coming to appreciate that life is not a cruel a death sentence but to be lived happily - and can be - if you finally make the decision to live a happy life. The choice is - and always will be - yours. Tolson speaks from experience; she could continue a life of self-abuse, drugs, making decisions that ensured her unhappiness or to get help and make the decision to take care of herself. Most survivors of child abuse look for someone to take care of them but few ever find that knight in shining armor or florence nightingale. Read this book especially if you are suicidal or hurting yourself and maybe you will come to understand your own role in your unhappiness and decide to change things for the better. Being abused as a child is not a death sentence - you can decide to change things as Ms Tolson has shown us - anything is possible! ~ Catharsis Foundation "It's Time To Tell!"
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This review is posted by the author on behalf of the reader because she, the reader, does not have a BN account. Posted with permission from the reviewer: Reviewed by Karen Sucharski, survivor, former journalist, poet One has to keep two things in mind when reading Beyond the Tears: A True Survivor's Story: first this is a memoir, a true story and not atop the best-seller list. Why not? And second, why hasn't Lynn C. Tolson written more books? Beyond the Tears: A True Survivor's Story grabs the reader from page one and does not let go. Tolson's story is deftly woven into conversation and story-telling and sprinkled with self-revelation along the way. This is the story of a young woman who, after a serious but unsuccessful attempt to take her own life, finds an amazing counselor and begins a journey of self-discovery and healing. It may be classified as a "self-help" book but it goes so far beyond that. It does fit firmly into the genre of memoir although much of what is remembered is emotionally painful to read. Imagine living it. Tolson's story starts in a dysfunctional, middle-class family in the Poconos and New Jersey (Think Billy Joel's "Captain Jack") and moves out west to the wide open desert of Arizona. Sexually abused and assaulted as a child, locked up in a mental ward as a teenager and feeling numb and lost as a young adult, Tolson turned to suicide as an answer. After that, we follow the road that led her to such a desperate act. The writing, however, is not desperate. It is thoughtful, artistic and full of rich detail that transports the reader into the chasm that was Tolson's life. There are many reasons to publish a book independent of a traditional publisher. It may be called self-publishing (with the baggage associated with that moniker) but this book is definitely not in that genre. Tolson, herself, says she went the self-publishing route because she was diagnosed with breast cancer and didn't know if she had the years traditional publishers can take to get her story out. Beyond the Tears: A True Survivor's Story is as fascinating to read as a horror-movie is to watch. In fact, it would make a fine mini series. Hollywood? It is also as beautifully-written as an Arizona sunset.
QueenJJ More than 1 year ago
I'm going to start out this review by saying I was brought face-to-face with abuse. I was shocked, humbled, torn, angry, sad, but most of all, enlightened. If you ask me, everyone should read Beyond the Tears and therefore, be armed. The writing is excellent, you will fall in love with Karen, (I won't tell who she is), and you will want to reach out and protect Lynn. You will feel helpless, however, you will feel somewhat vindicated in the end. How does a victim, such as Ms. Tolson, love others so much that she goes "beyond" herself and offers the truth between these pages? That's raw courage.

Thank you for telling this story so that the mothers and fathers of the world may have their eyes opened. Also, for the victims out there...letting them know, showing them, they CAN overcome.

This book was hard to read at times, but I can honestly say, I'm so grateful I did. Would I recommend Beyond the Tears to anyone? Absolutely.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book was referred to me and from the moment that I opened it, I could not put it down. A captivating true story of a young woman ready to end it all and her struggle to survive and overcome. As a survivor myself, reading this book taught me a lot about who I am and the choices that I have made throughout my life. I would definately recommend this book to anyone that has been affected by abuse.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Beyond The Tears, a book by Lynn Tolson, is a story that needs to be read by anyone who has ever thought about suicide, has experienced abuse or is running from the painful memories of their past. Lynn provides a powerful story as she takes you down the painful path of her last suicide attempt that almost killed her. The strange thing is she doesn¡¦t know why she wants to die, she only knows that she wants the pain to stop. It is only by the grace of God that she survives. Having been given a reprieve, Lynn finds a special therapist named Karen she can begin her journey of healing with. It is her special relationship with Karen that gives her the permission and freedom to talk about the sordid and painful memories of her past. She reveals her innermost secret about being sexually abused by her father and then her brother¿oyes, her own brother. She tells how lonely she felt as a child in her overwhelmingly dysfunctional family and how she just wanted someone to love her. ¡§That¡¦s what I felt like, a tattered book that had been thrown away before anyone bothered to read beyond the cover¡¨, she writes. Lynn plodded along in therapy for quite some time revealing everything that had happened to her while receiving invaluable hope and support from Karen. She tells how she ¡§¡Ksurveyed the fragments of a family not yet dead but no more living¡¨. In the end, Lynn overcomes her past, confronts her perpetrators and stops just existing, but begins living. She then courageously writes her own story, offering hope to anyone who is a survivor of childhood abuse, neglect and/or trauma. She shares her inspiration and hope with anyone who feels hopeless and unworthy. Read her story and you will find that no matter how bleak a situation or family may look, there is always hope and the potential for healing. Sandra P. Riggin, MEd, LPC, CCM, CVE Author of Forbidden Memories: A Journey of Healing www.sandyriggin.com
JabberWB More than 1 year ago
Beyond The Tears by Lynn Tolson is an inspirational read. If Lynn can overcome so many obstacles, that gives hope to her readers. If she can survive and thrive, then so can others fighting those same difficulties.
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