Beyond Time-Out: From Chaos to Calm

How to Tell Your Children How to Raise Their Children Without Getting Involved. . . Just send this book!

Ah - wish I had a copy of this when my kids were the age of their kids. Dr. Grosshans has excellent and easy-to-follow advice. Sure, kids won't always do it by the book, but if you listen to what she's telling you and apply what you've learned, you have to see positive results. Grandparents who are dismayed at the antics of the younger generation - take heart. It's not just yours; it's an epidemic. And the solution, according to the author is so simple: just take the power out of those young hands. It's a loving, firm approach, and it works. This should be on every parent's night table.

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Thoughtful and Practical Advice

I'm not a parent myself, but I teach elementary school and I have seen the kind of destruction that power-hungry kids are capable of. The longer I'm in the classroom, the more I'm convinced that consistency is the key to raising (and teaching) well-adjusted children-that, and the constant reminder that you are a caring person, but equally capable of being a leader.

I tend to focus overmuch on showing my students that I hear what their objections are and that I care about them, and therefore tend to engage in discussions that only lead down a non-productive path. This book, I believe, provides a useful device (The Ladder) for parents to use in order to avoid that trap and to correct it when it has gotten out of hand. Dr. Grosshans also addresses other common parenting traps and helps the parent to identify where he or she may be going astray. The language of The Ladder might take a little while for parents to get used to, but its intent and purpose are clear.

The Ladder, as it's described in the book, could not be adopted verbatim as a classroom management tool. However, much of the philosophy described in the book could carry over into the classroom, and I think it to be a highly valuable parenting tool.

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A reviewer

I have a Masters Degree in Psychology and although I only worked with adults, I thought I had taken enough courses on infant and childhood development that parenting was not going to be that much of a challenge...you love your kids, you explain things to them, reward good behavior and use negative reinforcement for misbehavior right?...OK well how hard could it be lol. Well was I wrong I ended up with a very bright, lying, manipulative, temper tantrum, not potty trained still sleeping in her parents bed 4yr old. Since she was three I have read every article and book I could get a hold of on disciplining your child...nothing worked! I became more and more depressed over it and embarrassed to even take her anywhere, always apologizing for her bad behavior. Passing the TV set one morning I caught Dr. Beth Grosshans on an early morning talk show. I was very interested in what she had to say about imbalance of family power...I thought hey what's one more book. The book is very straight forward and simple...at first I thought too simple...again I was wrong! I have been using the ladder for less than a week and I still have a very intelligent child, but now she is also obedient, potty trained, and sweet as could be. We are still working on the sleeping in the parents bed, but we are definitely on our way!!! Dr. Grosshans has now taught me that parents need to be parents not friends to our children. Our children will have plenty of friends through out their lives but they only have one set of parents, who need to teach them how to be in this world and it can be done in a very nonpunitive loving way. Thank you Dr Grosshans and Ms Janet Burton for this outstanding book. I hope more parents will read it and learn from it.

1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

highly recommended, saved my life in terms of handling my children in a calm manner. this book truly took my life from chaos to calm!!

this book was an easy read and helped me tremendously with conducting my children in a calm and orderly manner. i have recommended it to all of my friends raising young children.

Beyond Time Out

A definite read! This would be an excellent book for new parents.

Definitely worth reading!

Reading this book gave me a new perspective on how I had been raising my two children. Both of my kids were on chaotic paths, and their behavior was getting to be very frustrating. 'Beyond Time Outs' made me and my husband realize that the methods we were using to raise our kids may not have been the most effective, and this book gave us successful tips on how to better the behavior of our kids. Definitely worth reading!

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Best parenting book ever

Hands down the best parenting book ever. This book will totally change the way parents raise their kids in the 21st century. Thanks to Dr. Grosshans and her ladder technique, we no longer have an imbalance of family power in our house.

A reviewer

As a pediatrician, I found 'Beyond Time-Out' to be an extremely well-written and insightful guide to child-rearing. Its particular emphasis on providing appropriate discipline while still communicating unconditional love - a crucial but very difficult balance for many families to achieve - will be of great benefit to parents and their children alike.

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