Big Fat Lies Women Tell Themselves: Ditch Your Inner Critic and Wake Up Your Inner Superstar

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Most women have a nonstop chorus of criticism in their heads — voices not unlike those of the mean girls lurking in the hallways and locker rooms of junior high schools everywhere. The grownup version of those teenage taunts — "But taking care of myself is selfish" and "The world is against me" — zap motivation, sabotage happiness, and keep women in a stressed, "never enough" mindset. Here, like a best-buddy, street-wise big sister, coach Amy Ahlers helps women talk back. Her witty, wise, and cut-to-the-chase ...

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Overview

Most women have a nonstop chorus of criticism in their heads — voices not unlike those of the mean girls lurking in the hallways and locker rooms of junior high schools everywhere. The grownup version of those teenage taunts — "But taking care of myself is selfish" and "The world is against me" — zap motivation, sabotage happiness, and keep women in a stressed, "never enough" mindset. Here, like a best-buddy, street-wise big sister, coach Amy Ahlers helps women talk back. Her witty, wise, and cut-to-the-chase format arms women with the "Take that!" insights they wish they had handy when someone puts them down — even if that someone is the person in the mirror. Ahlers doesn’t offer long-winded self-therapy or simplistic happy talk; she serves up straight talk that helps women know, feel, and tell themselves the truths that transform their deepest inner thoughts — and their lives.

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According to life coach Ahlers, women are constantly beating themselves up, even for the tiniest imperfections, but this intense self-criticism doesn’t lead to success or fulfillment. She directs readers to disarm their “Inner Critic” or “Mean Girl” by learning to identify instances when woman are commonly hard on themselves. She refutes these “lies” using real-life inspirational stories, practical coaching exercises, mantras, and inspirational quotations. For the lie “I sacrifice and sacrifice, and no one cares,” Ahlers encourages readers to imagine that life is a big closet of different outfits that represent different attitudes and to slip on the martyr outfit and assess what the costs and payoffs are of wearing it all the time. For the lie “I need another to complete me,” she suggests a marriage ritual in which a reader marries herself, like Ahlers and two friends did on a Malibu beach, wearing beautiful dresses, reading vows, and celebrating their wholeness. While Ahlers’s positivity is welcome and she voices many truths about female insecurities, particularly how women feel more comfortable “playing small” and holding their own power hostage, her writing is often sloppy, platitude-laden, and glib. The book falters as a stand-alone without her workshops. (Oct.)
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781608680283
  • Publisher: New World Library
  • Publication date: 10/11/2011
  • Edition description: New Edition
  • Pages: 240
  • Sales rank: 145,844
  • Product dimensions: 5.52 (w) x 8.52 (h) x 0.60 (d)

Meet the Author

Amy Ahlers is a celebrated certified life coach, the CEO of Wake-Up Call Coaching, and the cocreator of Inner Mean Girl Reform School. For over a decade she has offered teleseminars and workshops to inspire women. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her husband, daughter, and rescue mutt.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 20, 2011

    Get ready to tell the TRUTH! You are worth it.

    I am a skeptic. I always look at new self-help books out of the corner of one eye--so when I say that Amy Ahlers gave me my own truth, you know it's coming from a totally sincere place. I didn't even KNOW I was lying to myself. This book is so simple, really--it just lays out the crap we say to ourselves, mostly without even thinking, and gives us a way to not only reframe it, but take action. This is not your run of the mill "you are doing everything wrong and I'm just the expert to fix you" book. NO WAY. This is about joining a movement of truth-telling superstars who will not take any more self-torture. Period. I learned something from Amy that I cannot un-learn: how to hear through my bull crap and tell the truth. This is going to be my go-to gift for friends and clients this year.

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  • Posted September 20, 2013

    a must read for all females

    I learned so much about living a fantastic life through the lessons in this book. My only regret is that it was not available when I was growing up. This book teaches you to recognize and disarm all the criticisms that we heap upon ourselves. This is a book you will read and then keep to refer to on a very regular basis. I bought one for my friends as well because I felt it was so powerful and true. Pam from Roseville

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  • Posted September 30, 2011

    ready to finally STOP beating up on yourself? Amy shows you how!

    Amy Ahlers has written a LOVE letter to you-- to every woman who has ever felt that crushing weight of self criticism... and who wants to stop! you deserve to feel cherished, satisfied and happy with every aspect of your life-- just as it is--and it's possible when you let go of those Big Fat Lies. Do yourself a big favor-- buy the book, read the book, do the exercises and find your joy!

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  • Posted August 20, 2011

    Amy Ahlers walks her talk...A must read to get yourself back on life's road.

    I had the opportunity to read this book in the early stages of editing. Ahler's book is written in an easy to follow, cut to the chase and take action style. The best part is that the author walks her talk giving her book credibility, inspiration to the reader and hope for the reader in overcoming the "The Big Fat Lies". I hope one day there will a companion book for the guys.

    Enjoy,

    Russ Grant

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