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Do you realize that of the first twenty-three astronauts in space, twenty-one were firstborns and the other two were the only child in their family?
Are you aware that many successful entrepreneurs are middle children?
Is it any surprise that most comedians are the youngest child in their family?
It's all about birth order.
Birth order powerfully influences who you are, whom you marry, the job you choose, and the kind of parent you are. And Dr. Kevin Leman's The Birth Order Book will help you understand yourself, get along better with others, overcome ingrained tendencies you never thought you could get rid of, and be more successful in the workplace. This revised and updated edition of Dr. Leman's classic book includes more than thirty years of experience and research, current examples, and fascinating stories to show how birth order impacts your life.
Thousands of people have unlocked the secrets of birth order already. Shouldn't you be one of them?
Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known psychologist, humorist, and New York Times bestselling author of more than 35 books, including Have a New Kid by Friday, Have a New Husband by Friday, and Born to Win. He is former consulting psychologist for Good Morning America and a frequent guest on Fox & Friends, The View, Today, The Early Show, and Focus on the Family. He and his wife, Sande, live in Tucson, Arizona. They have five children and two grandchildren.
| Preface: Maybe Abel Did Have It Coming | 9 | |
| 1 | Birth Order--Does It Really Make Any Sense? | 13 |
| 2 | But, Doc, I Don't Fit Your Birth Order Mold! Birth Order Variables--Part 1 | 32 |
| 3 | What's Parenting Got to Do with It? Birth Order Variables--Part 2 | 52 |
| 4 | First Come, First Served: A Closer Look at First Borns | 75 |
| 5 | Just How Serious a Problem Is Perfectionism? | 97 |
| 6 | Moving from Perfectionism toward Excellence: There Is a Way Out of the Perfectionist Swamp | 114 |
| 7 | Lonely Only, Super First Born: A Closer Look at Only Children | 130 |
| 8 | I Never Did Get No Respect: A Closer Look at the Middle Child | 149 |
| 9 | Born Last but Seldom Least: A Closer Look at the Baby of the Family | 167 |
| 10 | How to Let Your Birth Order Work for You in Business | 190 |
| 11 | Birth Order Marriages Aren't Made in Heaven | 207 |
| 12 | I Only Count When ... Taking a Look at Your Life-Style | 231 |
| 13 | Why Reality Discipline Works with Any Birth Order | 250 |
| 14 | Flaunt Your Imperfections: Parenting First Borns and Only Children | 268 |
| 15 | Two May Be Company ... or a Crowd: Parenting the Two-Child Family | 289 |
| 16 | Taking Off the Squeeze: Parenting the Middle Child | 307 |
| 17 | Helping the Family "Cub" Grow Up: Parenting the Last Born | 321 |
| Epilogue: There Is Still Only One Thing You Can't Do Without | 338 | |
| Appendices | ||
| A | U.S. Presidents and Their Birth Order | 349 |
| B | A Review of Born to Rebel by Frank Sulloway | 352 |
| Notes | 357 |
Anonymous
Posted July 17, 2007
This book will explain why you act the way that you do, why your siblings are the way that you are, why you date certain people, what type of person you are most likely to marry, why your parents act like that, why you have the certain friends that you have any everything in between just because of when you were born! It is amazing, you can relate it to any person or situation, and it makes you realize more about yourself and everyone else! Must read!
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Posted March 18, 2012
This book is really great for those in a business where they could use some help 'reading' their clients. Excellent!!
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Posted May 16, 2010
I bought this book to help figure out how my place in my family helped to create who I am today. It has shown me that and so much more. I think that this book would be beneficial to anyone, but especially helpful in teaching people how to better communicate with people in their life. Business owners would greatly benefit by knowing how to hire and handle their employees.
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Posted December 15, 2012
Overall, I enjoyed the book. There were three things I didn't care for: 1) I got kind of tired of hearing about his children 2) The chapter about selling to people of different birth orders (e.g., how to sell a car to a middle-born, and 3) I felt the references to God didn't add anything and were unnecessary. It was an interesting read, though, and I have enjoyed thinking about different friends and co-workers and what their birth orders are.
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Posted January 31, 2012
Ever wonder why your sibling do things that annoy you? Or why you are different from them? Get this book and read all about it. I loved it!
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Posted January 15, 2012
Very good book. I thought I understood birth order but Dr. Leman gives some very good insight. As a future therapist I can see where I can use some of this information in my counseling.
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Posted February 21, 2010
This book was required for a class that I was taking. The author is great about explaining our position in the birth order. However, I am the female child raised with 3 brothers, so of course alot didn't apply to me.
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Posted October 20, 2007
An incredible book. I now understand myself and my family as I never have before and am empowered in my personal life and in my relationships just because of the clarity and suggestions Dr. Kevin Leman brings to the table. EVERYONE should read this book! I read mainly fiction because I've never found nonfiction helpful until I read this book. Now I'm eager to read Dr. Leman's other titles!
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Posted March 30, 2005
Very informative. This is great insight for parents, employers, teachers, spouses.....everyone! Information is written in a fun light hearted manner and can be useful in all areas of life! Highly Recommended!
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Posted March 11, 2001
I found this book to be the most informative and the most amazing book I have ever read on Birth Order. Dr. Lehman, explains everything as if he knows each and everyone of us! I read the book a while back, and not one day goes by in which I do not relate his book to people I interact with. It really helps you understand your friends, co-workers, and it makes it extremely easy to respond to others knowing how they might react to you.
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Posted October 15, 2000
I found myself shedding tears of laughter, this book hit the nail directly on the head. If you ever questioned why you do some things, this book may give you those answers. Great book. It helped me out alot, as a person and as a parent.
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Overview
Find out what it means to you, your relationships, and your career.
Do you realize that of the first twenty-three astronauts in space, twenty-one were firstborns and the other two were the only child in their family?
Are you aware that many successful...