Born to Win: Transactional Analysis with Gestalt Experiments

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"The clearest and easily the best popular book of them all."
Psychology Today.

In this enriching volume, Dr. Muriel James, co-author of Passion for Life: Psychology and the Human Spirit, and Dr. Dorothy Jongeward, show that every person has the potential to be a winner: to be an authentic, alive, repsonsive, fulfilled human being. An imaginative guide for self-analysis, discovery and growth—complete with experiments and exercises you can do by yourself—Born to Win uses ...

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Overview

"The clearest and easily the best popular book of them all."
Psychology Today.

In this enriching volume, Dr. Muriel James, co-author of Passion for Life: Psychology and the Human Spirit, and Dr. Dorothy Jongeward, show that every person has the potential to be a winner: to be an authentic, alive, repsonsive, fulfilled human being. An imaginative guide for self-analysis, discovery and growth—complete with experiments and exercises you can do by yourself—Born to Win uses psychlogical insights to increase your awareness of the real power you have to direct your own life, to make decisions, to develop your own ethical system, to enhance the lives of others—and to understand that you were "Born To Win."

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780451165213
  • Publisher: Penguin Publishing Group
  • Publication date: 7/28/1978
  • Format: Mass Market Paperback
  • Edition description: Reissue
  • Pages: 352
  • Sales rank: 477,725
  • Product dimensions: 4.30 (w) x 6.87 (h) x 0.75 (d)

Meet the Author

Dr. Muriel James is a licensed marriage and family counselor, an international consultant in human relations to corporations, non-profit organizations and government agencies, and was an advisor to the California Commission on the Status of Women. Dr. James received her doctorate from the University of California at Berkely. She is past president of the International Transactional Analysis Association, and was a colleague of Dr. Eric Berne. Dr. James is author and co-author of seventeen books, including Breaking Free, Hearts on Fire, The Better Boss in Multicultural Organizations and Passion for Life: Psychology and the Human Spirit.
Dr. Dorothy Jongeward is an internationally prominent management consultant who has pioneered the field of productivity through "people skills." She served on the faculty of the University of California Extension for many years and has made a lasting contribution to understanding the psychology of women. She is a Teaching Member of the International Transactional Analysis Association and a Life Member of the California Association of Marriage and Family Counselors. She has authored or co-authored seven other succesful books including Women as Winners and Winning with People. Her creative career is cited in many references, including The World's Who's Who of Women. In 1990, Dr. Jongeward was selected as one of six alumni of Washington State University "who have made significant contributions to history and culture in this century."

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Table of Contents

Born To Win1. Winners And Losers
Winners
Losers
Tools for Change
Frederick Perls and Gestalt Therapy
Eric Berne and Transactional Analysis
Summary
Experiments and Exercises
Trait Checklist
Winner/Loser Continuum
Role-Playing an Inner Dialogue

2. An Overview Of Transactional Analysis
Introduction to Structural Analysis
Development of Ego States
Introduction to Analyzing Transactions
The Games People Play
Days of Decision
Psychological Positions
Sexuality and Psychological Positions
Introduction to Script Analysis
Summary
Experiments and Exercises
Beginning to Know Your Ego States
Your Ego States and Feelings
Analyzing a Transaction
Your O Kness (fantasy)
Your Sexual O Kness (fantasy)

3. The Human Hunger For Strokes And Time Structuring
Stroking Hunger
Positive Stroking
Discounting and Negative Stroking
The Hunger for Structured Time
Summary
Experiments and Exercises
You and Touch
You and Recognition
You and Time Structuring
Your Capacity for Intimacy

4. The Drama Of Life Scripts
Scripts
Cultural Scripts
Subcultural Scripts
Family Scripts
Psychological Scripts of an Individual
How Scripting Occurs
Scripts with a Curse
Countercsripts
Roles and Themes in Life Dramas
Script Themes
Script Roles and Themes in Greek Mythology
Script Themes in Children's Stories
Summary
Experiments and Exercises
Cultural and Family Scripting
Individual Script

Nonverbal Messages In Your Script · Verbal Messages In Your Script · Role Identification · On Stage · Life Stages · Cast Of Characters

5. Parenting And The Parent Ego State
The Parent Ego State
Outward Expression of the Parent Ego State
Inner influence of the Parent Ego State
Nurturing Parent
Prejudicial Parent
The Incomplete Parent Ego State
Reparenting
Summary
Experiments and Exercises
Your Parents as People
Money · Possessions · Crisis · Fun · Sex Roles · Family Meals · Appearance · Education · Work · Values · Speech Patterns · Listening Patterns · Script Themes And Roles · Parenting Practices
Your Parent's Attitudes
How Are You Like Your Parents?
Your Inner Dialogue
Your Parent Ego States
Naikan Therapy (Japanese self-observation method)

6. Childhood And The Child Ego State
The Child Ego State
The Natural Child
The Little Professor
The Adapted Child
Shifts between the Natural and Adapted Child
Activating the Child Ego State
Summary
Experiments and Exercises
Your Childhood Home
Getting in Touch with Your Childhood
The Child in You Now
Fantasy Awareness
Your Childhood Adaptations
Loss of a Parent
Your Little Professor
You as a Natural Child

7. Personal And Sexual Identity
Names and Identity
Identity through Play
Childhood Psychological Games and Role Identity
Sexual Identity
Sexual Expression
Summary
Experiments and Exercises
Identity and Your Name
Your Childhood Play
Your Current Play
Your Psychological Games
Your Sexual Identity and Expression
Your Sexual Feelings and Behavior Now

8. Stamp Collecting And Game Playing
Psychological Trading Stamps
The Time of Redemption
The Sweatshirt Message
Games Played from the Child Ego State
The "Yes, But" Game
The "Let's You and Him Fight" Game
The "See What You Made Me Do" Game
The "Uproar" Game
The "Courtroom" Game
The "Cops and Robbers" Game
Giving Up Games
Summary
Experiments and Exercises
Your Stamp Collection
Integrating Old Feelings

Inadequacy · Helplessness · Perfection · Depression · Fear · Guilt · Anxiety · Anger · Resentment · Other Feelings
Tracing Old Feelings
Your Sweatshirt Messages
Script Check List

9. The Adult Ego State
The Bash Trap Phenomenon
The Adult Ego State
Ego State Boundaries
Lax Ego Boundaries
Rigid Ego Boundaries
Contamination of the Adult
Boundary Lesions
The Adult as Executive of the Personality
Placating Your Parent
Pleasing the Child
Activating and Strengthening the Adult Ego State
Days of Despair
Summary
Experiments and Exercises
Deathbed Scene (fantasy)
Your Last Hour (fantasy)
Breaking Out of Your Bash Trap
Examining Constant Parent, Constant Adult, and Constant Child
Your Ego State Portrait
Decontaminating Your Adult
Learning from your Projections
Learning from your Dreams
Problem-Solving Technique

10. Autonomy And Adult Ethics
Awareness
Spontaneity
Intimacy
The Integrated Adult
Adult Feelings
Adult Ethics
Epilogue
Experiments and Exercises
Your Adult Ethics
Adult Questions on Your Life

Footnotes And References

Index

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  • Posted December 20, 2008

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    Never has a publication had such an effect on my life.

    I was going throught what they call a "Mid Live Crices" when I found this book. It was a light in the tunnel. Opened my eyes as to who, what, and where I was in relationship to who, what and where I wanted to be. Relationships are easier and better with knowlage of yourself and understanding yourself enables you to better understand others. <BR/>Highly recommended for those searching to find themselves.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 16, 2008

    Clincally Very Useful

    The authors very effectively meld two dynamic treatment modalities in a manner that demystifies and provides the reader or therapist employable tools. I've found success using this book in small group and individual treatement over many years. Excellent book.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 3, 2004

    A Remarkable Guide To Mental Health

    We all behave in ways that mystify us. There are those times when we find ourselves hypercritical and judgmental, or profoundly nurturing, or consumed with anger far out of proportion to the provocation, or able to reason with insight and dispassion. From whence come these vastly different responses to the triggers of life? Born To Win provides a vivid and compelling journey through the emotional (ego) states that are invoked by life events. The authors conceptualize these emotional (ego) states through the hypothetical construct suggested by Eric Berne, M.D. (Games People Play). In the 'Parent' state, we are judgmental or nurturing; in the 'Adult' state, rational and analytical; in the 'Child' state, impulsive and playful or angry and hurt. The authors demonstrate how our emotional responses to life events arise out of these three ego states. Each state has an appropriate time and place. Often, however, our inappropriate or self-defeating emotional responses occur because we have been overprogrammed by aversive early life events to respond from one ego state when another would be far more adaptive. Recognizing the inappropriate ego state and making the transition to the more proper ego state vastly improves the quality of one's life (e.g., responding to constructive criticism as a rational Adult instead of as a petulant Child). We are all 'born to win' and can do so when we learn to respond to life events from the proper ego state. Born To Win is an invaluable contribution to the cause of mental health.

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