Boys Will Be Men; Raising Our Sons for Courage, Caring and Community

Boys Will Be Men; Raising Our Sons for Courage, Caring and Community

by Paul Kivel, Oakland Mens Project
     
 

While the women's liberation movement produced dynamic changes in society's assumptions about girls' roles, little has changed about our attitude toward the role of boys. Yet the cycle of violence and oppression, specifically that which is killing so many young people and especially boys, will not stop until boys are raised to become part of the struggle to end it.

Overview

While the women's liberation movement produced dynamic changes in society's assumptions about girls' roles, little has changed about our attitude toward the role of boys. Yet the cycle of violence and oppression, specifically that which is killing so many young people and especially boys, will not stop until boys are raised to become part of the struggle to end it.

Drawing on his decades of experience as a social activist and his anti-violence work with men and teens, Kivel challenges the traditional training boys receive. He sorts out and helps parents grapple with the complex forces in our sons' lives, including racism, homophobia, pornography, drugs, classism, consumerism, sex, and living in violent environments. Then, Kivel provides the practical tools to empower boys to take the courageous step out of the "act like a man" box and become allies to themselves, each other, and all those who are vulnerable to violence and injustice in our society. The end result gives the reader a powerful vision of raising our sons to be the critically thinking, socially-invested men we need for a multicultural and democratic society.

Boys will Be Men is for all parents who have a vision of a society where peace and justice exist; for parents raising their sons in economically disadvantaged communities; for feminists who feel confused about raising their sons, and for parents of color who need to add their sons' strength to their communities.

Paul Kivel is the author of Men's Work (1998, Ballantine) and Uprooting Racism (1996, New Society Publishers, 0-86571-338-3). He is the founder of the nationally recognized Oakland's Men's Project and hasconducted hundreds of workshops on racism and anti-violence for teens and men all over the country. He lives with his partner and their daughter and two sons in Oakland, California.

Table of Contents

INTRODUCTION

What Kind of Boys Do We Want To Raise?
Why Boys
What Do Men Stand For?
Boys Will Be Men
Question Everything

PART 1: PARENTING

Chapter 1: Male Socialization
How Different Are Boys and Girls?
Gender as a Social Construction
The "Act Like a Man" Box
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Editorial Reviews

Antoinette Botsford
Face it: our children are exposed to drugs, guns, and violence, and at times it seems that society is out of control. While those who get in big trouble are actually a small minority, it's urgently important to understand that we mustn't throw in the towel; adults still play an important part in how kids respond to influences outside of the home. In this well-reasoned and heartfelt work, the author takes on the macho concepts that so often lurk behind violence, sexism, substance abuse, and drug-related crime. In their place he presents strongly developed ideas that adults can implement to help boys work together to create compassionate solutions to personal and community problems.
Napra Review

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780865713956
Publisher:
New Society Publishers
Publication date:
01/01/1999
Pages:
256
Product dimensions:
6.07(w) x 9.01(h) x 0.68(d)

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