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It ain't bragging if you done it.
Myth #1: A JOB WELL DONE SPEAKS FOR ITSELF
It's not my father's workplace anymore, or even the one many of your mothers may have entered in the 1970s or '80s. The days of job security in exchange for loyalty and hard work are long gone. For most, this isn't news. Yet many of us fail to recognize the value of self-promotion in maneuvering today's volatile and unpredictable workplace.
Given the constant changes-mergers, management shifts, downsizing-you simply must let people in the organization know who you are and what you are accomplishing. Otherwise you'll be passed over for promotions, in succession planning, or when the company is determining the best performers during layoffs.
Even if you're an ace at keeping your boss up to speed, remember, he or she might be gone tomorrow. You need to cover all your bases and stand out in the eyes of your boss' boss and that boss' boss and all the bosses right up to the big boss. Your mission is made even more challenging when you consider what the Information Age has wrought: people who are overwhelmed by the daily on-slaught of e-mails, voice mails, faxes, phone calls, and meetings upon meetings. They have little-to-no time or any real need to pay special attention to you.
Planting for the Future
As important as those on the inside of your company are for your survival, those on the outside are just as significant: recruiters, industry associates, personal friends and acquaintances, even your competitors. Even seemingly stable companies can collapse overnight. Just look at Enron and Arthur Andersen, among many others. Good self-promoters know this: They're always planting seeds for the future. Karen, forty-two, a division head for a major global food corporation, is a good example. At an informal gathering, when asked how long she had been in the business and what she did, instead of the typical "I've worked with my company for fifteen years and run its dairy division," she responded:
Who ever thought I'd be in the food industry, especially after my mom forced me all those years to eat Cheez Whiz? [Everyone at the table erupted with laughter.] It must have been fate, but after I graduated with my MBA from Columbia, I got a call from a friend who told me about a few interesting openings. I began working for my company in 1985 in brand management, working my way up to marketing director.
Two years ago, one of the company's other divisions was really in the hole and they gave me the assignment of turning it around. I didn't really know where to start, so I began talking to people on the floor. A lot of them had great ideas. From there, I got everyone involved and formed teams to pull in the various disciplines and put together a strategic vision. Today, I am the proud head of a dairy division that is number two in profitability worldwide.
Smart self-promoters show up prepared. They value face time with others and are always ready with stories about themselves that break through the verbal clutter. They know that positive regard from others isn't going to "just happen" on job interviews, at performance appraisals, during presentations, or at networking functions. And it's unlikely to "just happen" by marching into the CEO's office and asking for an appointment to discuss how wonderful you are. It's not going to happen unless you make it happen, and the crème-de-la-crème opportunities to self-promote are going to come your way when you least expect them.
Myth #2: BRAGGING IS SOMETHING YOU DO DURING PERFORMANCE REVIEWS
April 5, 2002: I am on a plane bound from New York to San Francisco and the thirty-something guy sitting next to me just blew it: He missed a golden opportunity to sell himself and his company.
We had struck up a conversation and were happily chatting away about living in San Francisco when I asked him, "So what is it that you do?" "I'm a management consultant," he replied. He didn't continue, so I tried to engage him more by asking, "What's your specialty in management consulting?" "Telecommunications," he responded, followed again by dead silence. I took on the exercise of seeing if I could pull out some more information asking, "Who do you do it for?" He named one of the top five management-consulting firms, then stopped cold. I was just about to ask another question when something inside me snapped. I thought to myself, I'm not asking a fourth question. I've done enough digging. He's not making it interesting or fun for me to talk with him.
The first response from many clients hearing about this casual airplane encounter is to rattle off possible reasons why this fellow wasn't more forthcoming. Maybe he was tired, or reluctant to start tooting his own horn on an airplane, afraid that he might divulge sensitive information to prying ears, possibly a competitor's. While sometimes that may be true, in this case we were already having a conversation. So the point is, the road traveled by a lackluster self-promoter is paved with missed opportunities. You need to act like your best self even with strangers on airplanes and even when you don't feel like it. Before you quickly slam shut the book claiming this is exactly the reason you didn't go into sales, consider the following: Mr. Telecommunications didn't know who I was.
I might have been a CTO of a company that could have used his consulting services. I might have been a recruiter who could come in handy one day when he'd gotten axed or one who was currently placing a specialist in the hottest new company in Silicon Valley. He didn't know that, in fact, I am a consultant who works with Fortune 500 firms and could possibly introduce him to an executive of a company that could have become a major new account. He never found out.
I wasn't asking him to reveal the location of the Holy Grail. I was simply asking that he tell me more about himself. If he had engaged me and talked about what he did and got me excited about it, I might have been a good future contact. I might have handed him some business. At the very least, I would have remembered his story.
Myth #3: HUMILITY GETS YOU NOTICED
I've gone to spend a few days with my friend in the hinterlands of western Massachusetts and I find myself in an unlikely place: a tae kwon do class that her five-year-old son is enrolled in. The grand master, a Korean black belt, begins the class by asking the students to recite in unison the five themes by which to live. Lined up in military-style precision, each child exhibiting impeccable posture, they shout:
Self-control! Honesty! Perseverance! Honor! Humility!
There it is. That last one. Don't brag about yourself. Stating your value and accomplishments is risky because you might come across as pompous or make other people feel uncomfortable. It's safer and much more appealing to be humble and understated. But will you get ahead?
Humility is a virtue with biblical and spiritual roots that is taught the world over. In some areas of the world, such as Asia, humility is prized much the way we in America prize our freedom of speech. Early on we are taught humility for good reason. We haven't developed the social skills to talk about our accomplishments and ourselves gracefully. Instead, as children we blurt out, "My daddy has lots of money," "I'm better than you because ..." or in the case of my friend's son, "I have more land than anyone," which he proudly proclaimed one morning between mouthfuls of Cheerios as his mother cringed. Our parents and mentors know it's important to squelch this behavior right from the get-go or people aren't going to like us. And they're right.
But the problem is this: Very few of us ever learn how to reconcile the virtue of humility with the need to promote ourselves in the workplace. When education and training do focus on selling ourselves, we're taught to pay the greatest care and attention to our wardrobe, our hair, our hygiene, our table manners, and our résumé. Get those things right, it's a slam dunk! There's very little instruction on selling ourselves with ease and sincerity. Somehow we think if we personalize our message or get too excited, we are not being professional, when in fact this is exactly what makes us effective self-promoters.
The tug-of-war between showing humility and showcasing our accomplishments is played out daily across working America, even in the brashest of industries. Recently, while conducting a workshop at a major Wall Street investment bank, I asked a group of young men and women to update me on any successes they had experienced since we'd last met when we worked on crafting more compelling sales pitches.
From the back of the room, I overheard one guy encouraging Patty, a twenty-six-year-old, perfectly coiffed junior banker to share her success story. Even though she had just landed a $10 million account, Patty seemed reluctant. With prodding from the whole group, she finally stood up. With her eyes directed toward the floor, her shoulders shaped like an orangutan's, and in a whispery voice that barely rose above the white noise of the conference room, she said:
Oh, well, it's really nothing. It was a team effort. There was this guy who I had read about in the paper, so I wrote him and later called his assistant, who said he wanted to meet with me. I went in and told him about the services of the bank and what we could do for him. He said it sounded interesting and asked where do we go from here? And I said, well, I'll bring the portfolio manager and my senior banker with me and we'll make an appointment. So we went back in two weeks. I led off the meeting, but the senior person did most of the talking, and we got a call yesterday and he's giving us ten million dollars. And then she sat down.
I asked the group for some feedback. The fellow who had initially urged her on was flabbergasted. "Patty, what was that? You heard about this guy, you called him up, you met with him, and he gave you ten million dollars! You told it as if you had nothing to do with it. Quite frankly, you sounded like a wimp."
Patty replied, "Yeah, well, you know, a lot of people helped out. I didn't want to sound like I was bragging and taking all the credit." An Ah-Ha Moment for Patty
Seeing that Patty was missing the point, I encouraged this co-worker to get up and act as though the story had happened to him. He said:
Oh man, I read about this guy in the paper. I got really excited about it. I wrote him a fabulous letter. I called his assistant to set up a meeting with him. On the day of the appointment, I was nervous but we still had a great conversation. I was really on my game that day. And he said, "What's the next step?" And I said, "I'll come back with my boss and portfolio manager. You're going to love them." When we walked in two weeks later, I introduced everyone to set the stage. Then they did their thing. Just yesterday the guy contacted me to give us his ten-million-dollar account. I am so psyched! I nursed this baby from beginning to end.
I asked the group to describe differences between the two versions of the story. The remarks were revealing: "David really owned it. He came across as excited about what happened. But he seemed authentic, too. He didn't come off like he was stretching the truth. You could tell he was really proud of what he had done."
Patty said, "Now that I've seen him do it and people respond so positively, maybe it wouldn't feel as uncomfortable to promote myself in this way." Like so many others I have coached, Patty was learning to overcome the whispers from her past, those similar to my father's, like "You're going to break an arm, patting yourself on the back too much."
Myth #4: I DON'T HAVE TO BRAG; PEOPLE WILL DO IT FOR ME
It's great if someone says something nice about you, but don't hold your breath. Although letting others do the bragging for you is one tool in your goody bag, it isn't your only tool. And it's no substitute for you. No one is going to have your interests at heart the way you do. No one will ever tell your story and get people excited about you like you can. Plus, nine times out of ten, when those to whom you report talk positively about your work to others, it's usually because there is something in it for them. Unfortunately, the accolade is often framed in such a way as to bolster them, more than you!
Since most people rarely acquire the skills to promote and talk about themselves, many come to rely on others to do the dirty work and boast on their behalf. As children, most of us have at least one adoring fan who pushes us along, builds our ego and self-esteem: a parent, a coach, a favorite aunt or grandparent who takes us under a wing, or a teacher who's convinced we're the next Einstein or Michael Jordan. Where we start to really stumble is when we grow up. When we no longer have our childhood cheerleading squad on hand, many of us wrongly presume that others in the workplace will fill their shoes and continue with unconditional support for our accomplishments and us. And even then, when someone occasionally sings our praises to others, we tend to deflect the compliments with self-deprecating comments: "Oh, no, it wasn't anything," or like Patty, in the preceding example, "It wasn't me. It was really the team."
Looking Out for #1
Bill, age twenty-one, a quiet, understated, no-nonsense type of guy, has yet to grasp the most basic rules when it comes to self-promotion. He's a go-getter salesman who has just placed first in the Southwestern division for selling more of his company's software than anyone. He believes that his numbers speak for themselves and he assumes that his boss, who has praised him often for his sales prowess, will let the higher-ups know.
When his boss presents his division's sales results and estimates to senior management, here is what he says: "We've had an excellent first half; we are up twenty-five percent, a remarkable feat considering the tech downturn." When asked by the CEO what's working, Bill's boss replies, "I've put a top-notch sales force in place and I've trained them well. You know that problem we were having with our fixed-pricing schedule? Well, I sat down with Fred, the marketing director, and we determined that if we allowed our sales guys some greater flexibility and let them customize some of the pricing-within limits, of course-we'd sell substantially more units. And that is exactly what happened."
When someone mentions that she heard about Bill getting the award for the most sales in the Southwest, his boss says, "I knew the day he walked in that I could whip him into shape.
Excerpted from Brag! by Peggy Klaus Copyright © 2003 by Klaus & Associates, Inc.
Excerpted by permission. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.
|Introduction: Lessons from My Father and Hollywood||xiii|
|Chapter 1||Bragging Myths We Live and Die By||1|
|Chapter 2||What's So Good About You?||20|
|Chapter 3||The Business of Bragging In and Out of the Office||48|
|Chapter 4||Techno-Brag: Tooting in the 21st Century||66|
|Chapter 5||Job Interviews: Bragging Your Way In the Door||86|
|Chapter 6||Performance Reviews: The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly||107|
|Chapter 7||When You Don't Have a "Real" Job||124|
|Chapter 8||When You're Out on Your Own||143|
|Chapter 9||Brag Nags||163|
|Chapter 10||A Confession and Twelve Tooting Tips||190|
Posted February 17, 2009
Brag to many of you would be considered a four letter word that is considered not one you want to be associated with. But take a look at the full title before you start to judge. <BR/><BR/>The great thing about this book is that it's all established from a point of authenticity, very much like the personal branding approach. It is not about being BRASH or BOASTFUL , in the current climate you can probably not afford to be those either. <BR/><BR/>If a company has not made any downsizing announcements yet, you can be 99.9% sure that the senior team have had those discussions. The conversation that is included in that is looking at an employees value to the organization. <BR/><BR/>The harsh reality of todays workplace and career management in general is that you cannot rely on others to keep an watchful eye over your career - they are too concerned with their own and after all you know yourself best and what you are good at. <BR/><BR/>Enter some of the great suggestions from the BRAG! book. This book is one of my recommended reads for those looking in to the whole concept of personal branding and if that type of approach sits comfortably with them, it's a start , by no means a definitive piece but a good start. What I really like about this book is that it has some great suggestions for people in just about every eventuality - even if you are not working or looking to return to the workforce. <BR/><BR/>Start off by looking at the "Take 12" Self Evaluation - which can actually be downloaded from the book's related web site. This evaluation gets you to look at what you have done in terms of development, are good at, known for and remembered. <BR/><BR/>This is the basis for formulating your 'brag bites' and 'bragalogues' - sound bites or taglines and mini elevator speeches that can be used at various 'bragging' opportunities with different target audiences. <BR/><BR/>A shortfall of the book (or at least my copy!) is that because it was published in 2003 it is a way behind the times with regards to the advances in social networking etc. The Techno-Brag certainly needs updating - but makes some good solid points about having a clear plan. <BR/><BR/>For those of you in more active job search the book is also relevant and has a chapter devoted to the Job Interview and bragging your way in the door . Also speaks my language in not relying on the resume to do the talking for you - Peggy Klaus talks about once you are in the door - I believe this has equal merit well before that too. <BR/><BR/>And for those happy where they are and looking to get along internally the chapter around Performance Reviews is also another good example of using the brag to great effect. <BR/><BR/>A quick pick up and read book, likely can be finished in a couple of evenings - after all how many more series of Survivor or 24 are going to be that different? <BR/><BR/>At least this book will give you some practical skills and ideas that apply to the real world - not those of fiction or reality TV.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted January 12, 2010
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