Break the Cycle: Healing from an Abusive Relationship


Is the person you love most in the world actually destroying you? Sometimes, it's not so simple for individuals in abusive relationships to just break free.

Author Tracy S. Deitz, a trained advocate for victims of domestic violence, tells the story of Lydia, a survivor of an abusive marriage who offers a lifeline to anyone who feels trapped in a destructive home. Break the Cycle: Healing from an Abusive Relationship is Lydia's profoundly ...
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Is the person you love most in the world actually destroying you? Sometimes, it's not so simple for individuals in abusive relationships to just break free.

Author Tracy S. Deitz, a trained advocate for victims of domestic violence, tells the story of Lydia, a survivor of an abusive marriage who offers a lifeline to anyone who feels trapped in a destructive home. Break the Cycle: Healing from an Abusive Relationship is Lydia's profoundly honest and hopeful guide to gaining the strength, insight, and resources necessary to inspire anyone who wants to forge a new and positive path in life.

Encouraging and easy to read, this invaluable book will help both victims and those who care about them to break through the confusion of this complex emotional struggle. By sharing Lydia's personal account about many years on a relational roller coaster, the author offers a vital perspective to individuals who are torn between keeping their covenant vow and trying to survive in a dysfunctional relationship with an unrepentant spouse. Integrating research, Scriptures, and personal anecdotes, the text illustrates practices for healing and finding clarity.

From discussing isolation to awakening courage, each chapter identifies challenges and solutions, culminating with study questions for individual reflection or small-group discussions. The guide tackles issues surrounding alcoholism, Christianity and what the faith community teaches about honoring a vow, with daily illustrations of the challenges victims face.

While illuminating the dilemmas of loving someone who is an abuser, Break the Cycle: Healing from an Abusive Relationship offers those suffering from this national epidemic a chance to find security, confidence, and peace. Millions of people in this country desperately need to discover the hope that is available to them through a personal relationship with God, rather than religiosity. This poignant, inspiring guide can do just that.
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A volunteer advocate for victims of domestic violence—which can affect up to 25 percent of U.S. families—describes how to safely leave an abusive relationship. Deitz (Employed by God: Benefits Packaged with Faith, 2011) opens with several sobering statistics: In a single day in 2010, upwards of 70,000 victims nationwide reported incidents of domestic violence, and an estimated 70 percent of these involved alcohol. This guide focuses on the combination of abuse and alcoholism and is organized in three parts. "Drowning" shows how victims often lose their identity while trying to cope with their partner's addiction. "Swimming" provides tips on how to withdraw from codependent behaviors and establish a separate identity. "Safe on Shore" advises readers how to stay strong and develop healthy relationships. Deitz uses the story of Lydia as a book-length case study: Lydia's alcoholic husband threatened her physically, nearly killed her and emotionally abused her for 20 years before she left him. Deitz cites biblical scripture, though only sporadically: "I knew the Bible said God hates divorce. But … Scripture [also] says God despises ‘a man's covering himself with violence.'" She provides deft analogies, as when illustrating the difficulty of leaving an abuser: Describing a car that has been violently vandalized, Deitz writes that "you certainly can't jump in that vehicle and go. Before you can drive off, you have to make repairs. People who have suffered abuse also need time to recover and heal from shock." Throughout, Deitz offers practical, specific guidance, such as having cash on hand as well as a list of important phone numbers and addresses. Each chapter ends with "Healing Practices" to encourage readers to apply what they've read to their own situations. Additional "Resources" of other helpful books and organizations, with phone numbers and web addresses, are also appended. Practical, helpful information presented in a positive, reassuring way.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781466375215
  • Publisher: CreateSpace Publishing
  • Publication date: 2/28/2012
  • Pages: 218
  • Sales rank: 278,477
  • Product dimensions: 6.00 (w) x 9.00 (h) x 0.46 (d)

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  • Posted March 21, 2012

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    Reviewed by Sylvia H. for Readers Favorite "Break The Cycl

    Reviewed by Sylvia H. for Readers Favorite

    "Break The Cycle" by Tracy Deitz provides a wealth of knowledge and is a toolbox full of resources for battered women in an abusive relationship, and for women who have had the strength and the courage to leave an abusive relationship. From the first pages of the book to the very last page, "Break The Cycle" shows examples of what an abusive relationship is and offers helpful advice, tips, and words of comfort from related Bible portions. And even if the reader isn’t religious or is of a different faith, "Break The Cycle" offers words of wisdom that anyone can relate to. Tracy Deitz's book provides examples on how victims of abuse can face adversity head on and some useful steps that can help readers ultimately reach success and be free of their abuser and captor.

    I found the book to be profound, very helpful as well as very thought provoking. I really appreciated how the author described in minute details Lydia's abusive ex, the marriage that soon followed, the proceeding downward spiral into the abyss and then Lydia's emergence out of the darkness and finally into the light. I found the study questions and the list of resources at the end of each chapter also to be very helpful and encouraging. I also liked the cycle of abuse wheel diagram and the twenty warning signs of an abusive relationship. Some parts of "Break The Cycle: Healing From An Abusive Relationship" made me cry and brought back feelings of terror of my own twenty-year abusive relationship. I really wished that I could have read this book while going though my own tunnel of darkness and despair. I found that the story she shared could have easily been written by me. I applaud author Tracy Deitz for sharing this story with readers.

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