Breaking Out II: The Complete Guide to Building a Positive LGBTI Identity

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Following on the heels of the first edition, Breaking Out II expands its coverage by including lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and intersex (LGBTI) individuals. While some societies have become more tolerant and accepting of sexual and gender diversity, LGBTI people continue to suffer psychological damage caused by growing up in largely heterosexist, homophobic, biphobic, and transphobic milieus. How can LGBTI individuals learn to love themselves when many or most of the signals society sends out denigrate ...
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Overview

Following on the heels of the first edition, Breaking Out II expands its coverage by including lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and intersex (LGBTI) individuals. While some societies have become more tolerant and accepting of sexual and gender diversity, LGBTI people continue to suffer psychological damage caused by growing up in largely heterosexist, homophobic, biphobic, and transphobic milieus. How can LGBTI individuals learn to love themselves when many or most of the signals society sends out denigrate their very being? Dr. Kevin Alderson has developed a method of building a positive LGBTI identity based on extensive research and the best of what we know about self-help psychology.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781554830626
  • Publisher: Insomniac Press
  • Publication date: 4/15/2012
  • Pages: 264
  • Product dimensions: 5.90 (w) x 8.90 (h) x 1.10 (d)

Meet the Author

Dr. Kevin Alderson is an associate professor of counselling psychology at the University of Calgary. He has practiced psychology for twenty-five years. He is editor of the Canadian Journal of Counselling and Psychotherapy and has recently co-authored the first Canadian edition of Counselling: A Comprehensive Profession. Dr. Alderson belongs to the Canadian Federation of Clinical Hypnosis, the Canadian Psychological Association, and the American Psychological Association.
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Table of Contents

Preface 11

Introduction — How to Use This Book 21

Part 1 Connecting with Self 37

Section I-A Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual Individuals

Internalized Homophobia and Biphobia — Putting the Enemy to Sleep 39

Self-Esteem, Self-Acceptance, and Body Image — Learning to Like Yourself 55

Minimization and Denial — Breaking the "Secret" to Yourself 71

Compartmentalization and Fragmentation — Reclaiming Your Self 87

Stereotyping — Relinquishing the Lies That Haunt You 102

Conformity and Passivity — Releasing Your Personal Power 118

Spirituality and Religion — Understanding Unconditional Love 132

Section I-B Transgender, Transsexual, and Intersex Individuals

Internalized Transphobia — Killing the Demon Inside 149

Transgender and Intersex Self-Esteem, Self-Acceptance, and Body Image — Accepting Reflections From a Warped Mirror 161

Peace of Mind — Learning to Become Mindful and Contented 175

Part II Connecting with LGBTI Culture 189

Section II-A Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual Individuals

LGB Belonging — Finding a Community 191

Developing Friendships — Connections That Count 205

Finding a Partner — The Art of Successful Dating 219

Having Great Sex — Explosions Do Not Need to be Violent! 235

Keeping a Partner — Creating Sustainable Relationships 249

Section II-B Transgender, Transsexual, and Intersex Individuals

Trans and Intersex Belonging — Finding a Supportive TTI Community 269

Trans and Intersex Partnering — From Dating to Maintaining Relationships 282

Part III Reconnecting with the Dominant Culture 297

Section III-A Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual Individuals

Disclosing to Non-Family — Breaking the Silence 299

Disclosing to Family — Breaking Out of the Family Closet 312

Section III-B Transgender, Transsexual, and Intersex Individuals

Learning Gender and Passing — The Art of Acting Male or Female 329

Special Disclosure Issues — I Am Who I Say I Am 342

Fetishistic Crossdressing Individuals — But It's More Than a Fetish 356

Part IV Special Concerns of Adolescents 369

Section IV-A Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual Adolescents

Internal Aspects of Being an LGB Adolescent 371

External Aspects of Being an LGB Adolescent 386

Section IV-B Transgender, Transsexual, and Intersex Adolescents

Internal Aspects of Being a TTI Adolescent 403

External Aspects of Being a TTI Adolescent 414

Conclusion — Final Thoughts and Reflections 428

Appendices

Appendix A How Do I Know If I Have a Homosexual or Bisexual Orientation? 432

Appendix B Should I Identify as Gay, Lesbian, or Bisexual? 443

Appendix C How Do I Know if I Have Gender Dysphoria? 445

Appendix D Should I Identify as a Transsexual Individual? 447

Appendix E LGBTI Safety Concerns 449

Appendix F Disclosing Your LGBTI Identity at Work 451

Appendix G Preventing or Living with HIV and AIDS 453

Appendix H Choosing a Therapist 456

Appendix I Internet Resources, Self-Help Groups, and LGBTI Organizations 459

Appendix J Recommended Readings 465

References 468

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