The Broken American Male: And How to Fix Him

A noted relationship counselor explores the twenty-first–century problems driving men and their families apart, offering guidance to restore their lives and love.

Why do American husbands come home from work too exhausted to interact with their families? When did a healthy quest for prosperity become a twisted game no one can win? How did smartphones and internet porn become more interesting to men than their flesh-and-blood spouses?

Shmuley Boteach has made a great study of how families live today—both in his work as a rabbi privately and as host of TLC's Shalom in the Home. He's discovered a disturbing common thread in the families he meets: men responding to the pressure of competition in their work lives by turning away from their loved ones. In a world that judges men by the size of their paychecks and the wattage of their fame, it's all too easy to lose sight of what is truly valuable in life. Men who consider themselves failures and don't love themselves turn into stressed-out dads, distracted husbands and miserable human beings. For these men, alcohol, the internet and sporting events serve as numbing stand-ins for real life.

In The Broken American Male, Boteach doesn't just outline the problems facing marriages and nuclear families. He also offers practical, inspiring solutions, showing how wives can reach out to their husbands, helping them become heroes again to their own families.

"A vital and fascinating repair manual." —A.J. Jacobs, author of The Year of Living Constitutionally

"A refreshing kick in the teeth." —USA Today

"Boteach's lessons are applicable to anyone hoping to understand and overcome feelings of failure in themselves or their loved ones." —Publishers Weekly

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The Broken American Male: And How to Fix Him

A noted relationship counselor explores the twenty-first–century problems driving men and their families apart, offering guidance to restore their lives and love.

Why do American husbands come home from work too exhausted to interact with their families? When did a healthy quest for prosperity become a twisted game no one can win? How did smartphones and internet porn become more interesting to men than their flesh-and-blood spouses?

Shmuley Boteach has made a great study of how families live today—both in his work as a rabbi privately and as host of TLC's Shalom in the Home. He's discovered a disturbing common thread in the families he meets: men responding to the pressure of competition in their work lives by turning away from their loved ones. In a world that judges men by the size of their paychecks and the wattage of their fame, it's all too easy to lose sight of what is truly valuable in life. Men who consider themselves failures and don't love themselves turn into stressed-out dads, distracted husbands and miserable human beings. For these men, alcohol, the internet and sporting events serve as numbing stand-ins for real life.

In The Broken American Male, Boteach doesn't just outline the problems facing marriages and nuclear families. He also offers practical, inspiring solutions, showing how wives can reach out to their husbands, helping them become heroes again to their own families.

"A vital and fascinating repair manual." —A.J. Jacobs, author of The Year of Living Constitutionally

"A refreshing kick in the teeth." —USA Today

"Boteach's lessons are applicable to anyone hoping to understand and overcome feelings of failure in themselves or their loved ones." —Publishers Weekly

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Overview

A noted relationship counselor explores the twenty-first–century problems driving men and their families apart, offering guidance to restore their lives and love.

Why do American husbands come home from work too exhausted to interact with their families? When did a healthy quest for prosperity become a twisted game no one can win? How did smartphones and internet porn become more interesting to men than their flesh-and-blood spouses?

Shmuley Boteach has made a great study of how families live today—both in his work as a rabbi privately and as host of TLC's Shalom in the Home. He's discovered a disturbing common thread in the families he meets: men responding to the pressure of competition in their work lives by turning away from their loved ones. In a world that judges men by the size of their paychecks and the wattage of their fame, it's all too easy to lose sight of what is truly valuable in life. Men who consider themselves failures and don't love themselves turn into stressed-out dads, distracted husbands and miserable human beings. For these men, alcohol, the internet and sporting events serve as numbing stand-ins for real life.

In The Broken American Male, Boteach doesn't just outline the problems facing marriages and nuclear families. He also offers practical, inspiring solutions, showing how wives can reach out to their husbands, helping them become heroes again to their own families.

"A vital and fascinating repair manual." —A.J. Jacobs, author of The Year of Living Constitutionally

"A refreshing kick in the teeth." —USA Today

"Boteach's lessons are applicable to anyone hoping to understand and overcome feelings of failure in themselves or their loved ones." —Publishers Weekly


Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781429928830
Publisher: St. Martin's Press
Publication date: 04/16/2025
Sold by: Barnes & Noble
Format: eBook
Pages: 305
File size: 670 KB

About the Author

About The Author

Rabbi Shmuley Boteach is the star of TLC's "Shalom in the Home." The Rabbi of Oxford University for eleven years and the London Times Preacher of the Year in 2000, Boteach is also the author of eighteen books and is an award-winning syndicated columnist.

Table of Contents

1 I Am a Broken American Male 1

2 The Shattered Male Ego 15

3 Failure 25

4 The Escapes Broken Men Pursue 31

5 Premarital Sex Reinforces The Brokenness of American Men 47

6 The Death Wish 51

7 Hero Without A Spotlight 63

8 The Curse of Ambition 73

9 The American Dream Becomes A Nightmare 79

10 Soulless Capitalism 83

11 Two Great Lies 93

12 Twin Brokenness 99

13 Donald Trump: The Most Broken Man In America 103

14 Ready to Be Broken: The Inherent Fragility of Men 109

15 How Women Heal Men 115

16 The Inadequate American Female 123

17 The Man Who Shuts His Wife Out Emotionally 133

18 The Uninspired Child 137

19 A New Definition of Success 145

20 Rise, Oh Hero! 159

21 The Five Ingredients of Success 165

22 Fostering Healthy Ambition 173

23 Raising Our Sons Differently 195

24 Purposefulness and Direction 203

25 From Career to Calling 211

26 Making The Broken American Male Feel Wanted At Home 225

27 So You Want to Be Rich? 231

28 Rediscovering The Sabbath 237

29 Learning to Be Happy For Another's Success 243

30 Rise, Oh Circle Man! 247

31 Inspiring Our Children 261

32 Reaching Out To Our Broken Men 271

33 The Wholesome American Male: A Day in the Life 279

Conclusion: My Own Healing 287

Acknowledgments 293

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