Building Moral Intelligence: The Seven Essential Virtues that Teach Kids to Do the Right Thing

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Gain a new understanding of moral intelligence, and a step-by-step program for its achievement from bestselling author, Michele Borba. In this indispensable book for parents, Borba has created a new break-through in conceptualizing and teaching virtue, character and values under the auspices of a measurable capacity -- Moral Intelligence. This book confronts the front-page crisis we now face in our country regarding youth violence, alienation, self-destructive behavior, cold-heartedness, lack of compassion, ...
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Overview

Gain a new understanding of moral intelligence, and a step-by-step program for its achievement from bestselling author, Michele Borba. In this indispensable book for parents, Borba has created a new break-through in conceptualizing and teaching virtue, character and values under the auspices of a measurable capacity -- Moral Intelligence. This book confronts the front-page crisis we now face in our country regarding youth violence, alienation, self-destructive behavior, cold-heartedness, lack of compassion, insensitivity, intolerance and the break down of values. The author provides a new way to understand, evaluate and inspire our kids with the seven essential virtues which comprise moral intelligence.
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"(Written) with confident authority and providing good, current references...The book is...similar to Borba's own Parents Do Make a Difference (Jossey-Bass, 1999)...this is not a quick fix but a way of living...if more people mastered these traits, the world would be a different and better place. Recommended for larger public libraries." (Library Journal, July 2001)

"No parenting book I know of offers so many practical insights, workable strategies, and inspiring stories, books, videos, and other family-friendly resources for intentionally teaching these crucial character strengths." (from the foreword by Thomas Lickona, author, Raising Good Children)

"Provides a much-needed antidote to the waves of incivility, intolerance, and insensitivity sweeping through our nation's youth culture. Dr. Michele Borba offers parents a treasure trove of ideas for building the most neglected intelligence around: our kids' moral intelligence. I'd like to see a copy of this book in every home across America!" (Thomas Armstrong, author, 7 Kinds of Smart, Multiple Intelligences in the Classroom, and Awakening Your Child's Natural Genius)

"If you care about the future of our children and our nation, read this important book! Perfectly balancing cutting-edge research with practical strategies, engaging anecdotes and wise insights, Michele Borba shows us how to do what really matters most-how to help our kids become good and caring human beings." (Jack Canfield, coauthor, Chicken Soup for the Parent's Soul, Chicken Soup for the Mother's Soul, and Chicken Soup for the Father's Soul)

"This brilliant book will help anyone who lives or works with children build the skills and moral values that make cruel, selfish, and destructive behavior unthinkable. This book will save lives." (Jane Bluestein, author, Creating Emotionally Safe Schools and Parents, Teens and Boundaries: How to Draw the Line)

"Michele Borba is an inspiring educator, an experienced parent, and a terrific writer. She has identified the core issues for parenting moral kids and presented them with passion, wit, and enormous practicality. Her new book gives us solid empirical research but also specific day-to-day activities that will really make a difference in our children's lives." (Michael Gurian author, Boys and Girls Learn Differently, The Wonder of Boys, The Good Son and A Fine Young Man)

"While many people in public life decry the lack of character and moral development among our kids, few take this concern further, into the realm of practical steps to address the issue in the lives of real children and youth. Michele Borba has done so in her book Building Moral Intelligence. As one whose work takes him into prisons to interview kids who kill, I can testify to the need for adults to cultivate moral intelligence-and the consequences when we don't. This book is a tool for parents to use in the struggle." (James Garbarino, author, Lost Boys: Why Our Sons Turn Violent and How We Can Save Them)

"This smart and helpful book integrates much of what we know about raising moral children. I especially like the book's constructive way of pulling together a wide range of theoretical approaches and coming up with a wealth of sensible child-rearing tips." (William Damon, professor and director, Stanford University Center on Adolescence)

"An important book, beautifully researched and highly readable-one that will surely help parents raise a generation of more peaceful, ethical children. I give this book my highest recommendation." (Naomi Drew, author, Peaceful Parents, Peaceful Kids)

"This how-to guide to teaching children moral intelligence fills a deep need. It is practical, filled with excellent activities, and based on solid research." (Kevin Ryan, director emeritus, Boston University Center for the Advancement of Ethics and Character)

"This is perhaps the best written guide for parents and educators concerned with the deep character and moral intelligence of their children or students. It is wise, literate, and valuable." (Peter Scharf, director, Center for Society, Law and Justice at the University of New Orleans and author, Growing Up Moral)

"Michele Borba articulates the core traits that build and promote responsible citizenship among the young and old alike. Creating safe schools begins with responsible behavior. Dr. Borba explains in clear, concise, and effective ways how to make that happen. Her book is a 'must read' for parents, educators, and community leaders." (Ronald D. Stephens, executive director, National School Safety Center)

"(Written) with confident authority and providing good, current references...The book is...similar to Borba's own Parents Do Make a Difference (Jossey-Bass, 1999)...this is not a quick fix but a way of living...if more people mastered these traits, the world would be a different and better place. Recommended for larger public libraries." (Library Journal, July 2001)

Television, games, the Internet, peers and other forces shape children's morality, but consultant and educator Borba (Parents Do Make a Difference) argues that it is parents who provide the most enduring modeling and instruction. Kids, she asserts, should be fortified against the onslaught of increasingly negative cultural influences--violent video games, nasty music lyrics--by parental involvement and guidance. Designed as a guide for parents and caregivers of children from three to 15 years old, the book describes the epidemic deficiency in the moral development of American kids and outlines seven virtues (Empathy, Conscience, Self-Control, Respect, Kindness, Tolerance and Fairness) to be engendered in children. Devoting an identically designed chapter for each virtue, she defines the virtue in accessible and secular language. She then provides a test for parents to assess their children and offers practical actions parents can take on a daily basis. Throughout, her tone is pragmatic and optimistic. She advises parents to make sure they are providing a moral example that they would want their children to follow--in other words, watch their own behavior. She advises parents to be direct about their own moral beliefs and encourage specific virtuous behaviors. Borba concludes the book with a helpful resources list. A packed storehouse, this helpful, informative and hopeful book will be dog-eared over years of consultation. (July)
Forecast: Many reader will recognize Borba's name; as an expert on "bullying," she makes frequent TV appearances, and on Oprah's Mom Online she is the "Moral Intelligence Pro." This book is timely; given public debates on media violence, and the prevention of juvenile crime, it's like to be widely read and referenced (Publishers Weekly, July 2, 2001)

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780787962265
  • Publisher: Wiley
  • Publication date: 9/11/2002
  • Edition number: 1
  • Pages: 340
  • Sales rank: 281,097
  • Product dimensions: 6.98 (w) x 9.30 (h) x 0.86 (d)

Meet the Author

Michele Borba, Ed.D., a former classroom teacher, is an internationally renowned consultant and educator who has presented workshops to over half a million participants. She is the recipient of the National Educator Award and the author of eighteen books including Parents Do Make a Difference (Jossey-Bass), which was named by Child Magazine as an "outstanding parenting book of the year." She is a frequent guest expert on television and National Public Radio talk shows including The View, Fox & Friends, and The Parent Table. She is an expert columnist for Oxygen Media, honorary advisory board member for Parents magazine, and is quoted in numerous national publications. She lives in Palm Springs, California with her husband and three teenage sons. On the web at www.MicheleBorba.com or www.moralintelligence.com
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Table of Contents

Foreword by Thomas Lickona.

Introduction.

The 1st Essential Virtue: Empathy.

The 2nd Essential Virtue: Conscience.

The 3rd Essential Virtue: Self-Control.

The 4th Essential Virtue: Respect.

The 5th Essential Virtue: Kindness.

The 6th Essential Virtue: Tolerance.

The 7th Essential Virtue: Fairness.

Epilogue.

Resources for Building Moral Intelligence.

Notes.

Book Discussion Guide.

About the Author.

Index.

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  • Posted March 20, 2010

    This is the good stuff

    Very practical and comprehensive. Easy to work through. I started a conversation about the material about empathy (the first virtue) with my 10 year old daughgter and the conversation is continuing. She is taking this matter seriously because it affects her daily life and offers solutions to her unhappy experiences in social settings. This is a book that can change our schools. I am using it to change hers.

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  • Posted December 6, 2008

    A Must-Read For New Parents

    'Building Moral Intelligence' helped me to gain a new perspective of moral intelligence, and how I can raise my children to understand. This book was very helpful and informing.<BR/>No time to read the whole book? Check out the 8 page summary at ParentsDigest.com

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 4, 2002

    why a new book?

    It's beyond me why Michele is doing a new book on the same subject so soon - this one is barely a year old? Regardless, this 2001 edition is outstanding.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 2, 2001

    Excellent book for parents and educators

    Dr. Michele Borba has a long and successful track record helping build the moral character of our youth. As an educator, I have long been quite familiar with her books and materials on building self esteem. Her concepts are not ¿feel good¿ simplistic ideas, but rather she works with the concept that self esteem comes from the acquisition of skills such as the seven virtues in this book. Building Moral Intelligence is an asset to parents who have a difficult job raising moral children in a society that offers many countering forces. I have used her book Parents DO Make a Difference in working with parent groups. I expect this book will be as valuable for parents and educators alike. Working with children and raising a family are both exciting yet challenging jobs. We are lucky to have Dr. Borba¿s help.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 2, 2001

    Building the future one child at a time...

    I applaud this book! During my 25 years teaching in public schools, I have witnessed a disturbing shift in the way young people view themselves and the world around them. In the midst of troubling news about kids today, <i>Building Moral Intelligence</i> offers a refreshing look at what can be. A healthy mix of background information, authoritative research, and anecdotal content leads the reader to practical tools to evaluate and encourage positive personal growth. Clearly written and well edited, Dr. Borba's book offers a realistic understanding of current trends, then provides concrete solutions that address each critical issue. As one of the world's leading authorities on moral development, Dr. Borba has given us a real book for real people. <i>Building Moral Intelligence</i> holds the key to what is possible for kids everywhere. This should be mandatory reading for every parent, every politician, and every citizen who cares about the health of this nation.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 15, 2001

    If you could only read one book on moral development!

    One of the more encouraging developments in the concern about the character and behavior of our young people has been the publication of books designed to bring the research of social scientists and educators to the public in a format and context that could be easily understood. Thomas Lickona accomplished that in 1981 with his outstanding book, Raising Good Children. William Damon did so with his 1988 book, The Moral Child. Now Michele Borba has continued that fine tradition, calling upon both the latest research findings as well as her extensive experience as an educator and visiting consultant and her knowledge base as the mother of three sons. She has written a remarkably thorough and yet completely accessible book on the whole topic of building moral intelligence, focusing on seven essential virtues she had identified, a book on how to teach children moral behavior by instruction, example, and practice. I wondered how she could possibly succeed at convering such an extensive topic. She does it by presenting interesting scientific data, by skillfully summarizing much of the complex and sophisticated research results in this field, and by innovatively interspersing the science with useful and entertaining experiences ands anecdotes that poignantly illustrate each virtue and each desirable behavior or issue. The helpful general and scientific references are found at the end, as well as contact Internet addresses. Dr. Borba never strays from her theme and purpose, and in doing so has written arguably the most comprehensive and useful book yet available on the important subject of how we, as parents, family members, educators, and members of the health professions, can evaluate and help young people to build their moral intelligence. The famous historian Heraclitus prophetically wrote that 'Character is Destiny.' As a health professional working with children and adolescents in a mental hospital, the words of Heraclitus resound with me. I only wish that the parents and family members of 'my kids' had already, or would read this book. Such a critical difference it would have or could make on the health and future of these precious children! If you could only own one book on moral intelligence, this is the one I would recommend.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 26, 2001

    New book a great resource!

    -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Tools for preparing my kids for life Reviewer: A reader from El Dorado Hills, CA USA Being the mother of two small girls about to enter the public school system, I have spent many nights worrying what kinds of challenges lay ahead. After reading Dr. Borba's book, I sleep much easier. She provides such a clear desciption of the essential skills that will help parents and teachers prepare kids to succeed. By teaching these virtues to my kids, I know that they will flourish in any situation. Dr. Borba gives practical and easy to use methods to enhance virtues that research has proven reduces aggression in kids. Her examples are entertaining and teach the importance of every moment I spend with my child and the influence I have on developing these traits in her. By offering hard research, then clear descriptions of what each of the seven virtues is, I know how to make a difference in my kids' lives and their ability to cope. The book is filled with resources along with proven methods that are fun to implement and even more fun when I see the changes in my kids everyday. I hope all parents and teachers will take advantage of this great resource, for our kid's sake.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 28, 2001

    Every Parents Needs This book

    This is the first book I've seen that gives me PRACTICAL ways to help my sons become decent human beings. The sections on bully proofing, self control and anger management are tops. If parents could only read this book together we really could reduce violence in our kids' lives

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