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Building the Christian Family You Never Had: A Practical Guide for Pioneer Parents

Building the Christian Family You Never Had: A Practical Guide for Pioneer Parents

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by Mary E. DeMuth

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You’re willing to do whatever it takes to ground your children in a faith your parents never embraced. Or maybe you grew up in an outwardly religious home that lacked a foundation of Christian grace and moral values. If you’re the first generation in your family to embrace a relationship with Christ but aren’t sure how to give your children a


You’re willing to do whatever it takes to ground your children in a faith your parents never embraced. Or maybe you grew up in an outwardly religious home that lacked a foundation of Christian grace and moral values. If you’re the first generation in your family to embrace a relationship with Christ but aren’t sure how to give your children a foundation of faith, find guidance in Building the Christian Family You Never Had.

Author Mary E. DeMuth understands firsthand the fears, frustrations, and anxieties of those who lack role models of faith-based parenting. In Building the Christian Family You Never Had she provides needed encouragement, practical tools, and crucial strategies. You’ll learn how you can…
·shield your children from the negative influence of family members who undermine your values
·cope with criticism and objections to your faith-based parenting decisions
·honor (and forgive) your parents without endorsing their behavior
·find positive parenting mentors

This inspiring, down-to-earth guide will enable you to provide a spiritual legacy of security and strength for your children as you lead the way through Building the Christian Family You Never Had.

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Building the Christian Family You Never Had

“Mary DeMuth offers positive encouragement and practical help for parents who want to do things a little differently than what they experienced growing up. Building the Christian Family You Never Had offers a fresh start and bright hope as you seek to raise godly children.”   
–Karol Ladd, author of The Power of a Positive Mom

“You are not alone as a pioneer parent who is blazing a new trail on the parenting journey. If you have longed for someone to show you how to build a family that is different from the family you grew up in, this book is for you!”
–Jill Savage, executive director of Hearts at Home and author of Professionalizing Motherhood

“As Mary shares her haunting story of a broken childhood, she provides a roadmap for breaking the cycle of family dysfunction. Her roadmap provides hope, courage, and grace, allowing any reader to walk with her on the continuing journey to wholeness.”
–Tim Riter, professor at Azusa Pacific University and author of Twelve Lies Husbands Tell Their Wives

“If your parents raised you in the ‘old country,’ you may wonder how to ground your kids in new soil. Mary DeMuth’s insights about parenting–as well as life in general–will help you raise firmly planted, emotionally secure, Christ-following kids.”
–Sandra L. Glahn, adjunct professor at Dallas Theological Seminary, coauthor of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage and When Empty Arms Become a Heavy Burden
“Mary DeMuth creates a compelling picture of what a Christian family should look like for those of us who never had one, or may have never even seen one up close. Reading this book will change the way you think about love, parenting, and healing–and God’s hope and plan for your life and the lives of your children.”
– Michael Warren, executive story consultant on “Happy Days,” co-creator and executive producer of “Step by Step” and “Family Matters”

“This is an honest, thought-provoking, and life-changing book. If you want to parent differently than you were parented, this is a must-read!”
–Mary Byers, author of The Mother Load and How to Say No…And Live to Tell About It

“Mary adeptly encourages pioneer parents to seek healing for the pain and dysfunction they experienced during their formative years, while honoring their parents for the good they provided. Learning parents should study this volume with an open mind and an open heart.”
–Paul Pettit, president of Dynamic Dads and author of Congratulations, You’re Gonna Be a Dad!

Building the Christian Family You Never Had is for parents who have experienced some dysfunction (and which of us hasn’t), but who also want to get past that dysfunction and raise emotionally and spiritually healthy children. Mary points us to principles deeply rooted in God’s Word that apply the salve of truth mixed with grace, mercy, and hope.”
–Linus Morris, president of Christian Associates International

“Mary gives families a biblical blueprint for success without presenting her family as perfect role models. I have many friends who did not grow up in a Christian home, and I would give them Mary’s book in a second!”
–Dena Dyer, author of Grace for the Race: Meditations for Busy Moms

“In a refreshing voice and with wisdom and sensitivity, Mary DeMuth delivers a powerful message of liberty for all who want to break free from generational pain in order to parent in newness of life in Christ.”
–Jan Winebrenner, author of The Grace of Catastrophe and Intimate Faith

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Meet the Author

Mary E. DeMuth is the author of Ordinary Mom, Extraordinary God. Her writing also has appeared in numerous publications, including Marriage Partnership, Discipleship Journal, Dallas Theological Seminary’s Kindred Spirit, and the Dallas-area Star Community Newspapers. A graduate of Pacific Lutheran University, Mary is a workshop speaker for Hearts at Home. She lives with her church-planter husband and their three children in Le Rouret, France.

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MichelleSutton More than 1 year ago
The author has a profound way of expressing what many parents worry about--whether or not the families who raised them were Christian, or not. This book really helped me to assess the things I'm doing right, and what I still struggle with. I had to digest the chapters slowly--no more than one or two at a time, because there was so much depth to each topic. My favorite chapter was on destructive vows we make, and how we still need healing if we say we'll never do this or that, or be like mom or dad, etc. She also brought out important advice about what to do if family members aren't a good influence on your kids. Fortunately that's not an issue for me, but it is for some of my friends. Overall I'd say this book had an impact on me unlike any other non-fiction book I've ever read. Not only is it interesting, but it's also uplifting and encouraging. I highly recommend it!
Guest More than 1 year ago
If you are what Mary calls a 'pioneer parent'--a Christian who grew up in an unbelieving family--you absolutely need this book. But even if you had Christian parents, the topics she covers--with honesty, courage and grit--are important. Topics like forgiveness and gratitude are helpful for any parent. I highly recommend this book! It is immensely practical and very well-written. I predict it will be a tool for healing and growth in any reader's life.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This thought-provoking guide, drawn from Mary DeMuth¿s parenting journey as a first generation Christian, is chockfull of haunting, entertaining, and poignant personal illustrations as well as scriptural examples. From the painful revelations to the giggles, each chapter is woven with God¿s goodness¿gentle conviction delivered with a heaping spoonful of grace. Mary¿s practical advice will help moms and dads turn their childhood dysfunctions into parenting triumphs (discussion questions for group use included). This book is a must-read for GUBA¿s (¿growing up born again¿ parents¿an acronym coined by author, Patricia Klein) as well as the target audience of Pioneer Parents (those who lack role models of faith-based parenting). Inspiring!
Guest More than 1 year ago
Though DeMuth's parenting book is directed toward first generation Christians, I found it helpful as I raise my third generation Christian children. Let's face it, even Christian parents are fallable, still carry emotional baggage and walk in old flesh patterns. While my own parents followed Christ, they did not always follow him well. And I'm no different. The overriding concept of this book is GRACE. Grace for the parents that raised us, grace for ourselves as we navigate the child-rearing maze, and grace for our children who often expose the ugly side of our flesh. Building the Christian Family's cornerstone of hope is that the grace given to us through Christ is the same grace that should color every aspect of our parenting canvas- our past, present and future.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Mary E. Demuth weaves gripping stories with practical advice in this wise, encouraging and heartfelt book. Mary is a tremendous storyteller and boy does she have a story to tell. Instead of sitting high on a podium dispensing advice, Mary comes alongside the reader like a guide in the woods who knows how to hack her way through confusion with a machete. For anyone who has been wounded by imperfect parents, or any young parent who fears she or he may be too wounded to be anything but a bad example as mom or dad a themselves, I can't recommend this book highly enough. Mary is not afraid to be transparent, and it's that willingness to expose her weaknesses and hardwon lessons that she witnesses to the power of God in Jesus Christ. This is a powerful, beautifully-written book. Deborah Gyapong