The Bully at Work: What You Can Do to Stop the Hurt and Reclaim Your Dignity on the Job / Edition 2by Ruth Namie
Pub. Date: 06/01/2009
A landmark book that blazed light on one of the business world's dirtiest secrets, The Bully at Work exposed the destructive, silent epidemic of workplace bullying that devastates the lives, careers, and families of millions. In this completely updated new edition based on an updated survey of workplace issues, the authors explore new grounds of bullying in the 21st century workplace.
Gary and Ruth Namie, pioneers of the Campaign Against Workplace Bullying, teach the reader personal strategies to identify allies, build their confidence, and stand up to the tormentor - or decide when to walk away with their sanity and dignity intact.
The Namies' expertise on workplace bullying has been featured in such media outlets as The Early Show, CBS Radio, The Howard Stern Show, CNN, PBS, NPR, USA Today, and theWashington Post.
"This is the best book on what workplace bullies do and how to stop them in their tracks. The Namie's remarkably useful and concrete advice has helped millions of people, and The Bully at Work will spread their tried-and-true wisdom to millions more."-Robert I. Sutton, Stanford Professor and author of The No Asshole Rule
"Sheds light on one of the business world's dirtiest secrets - corporate bullying." -Dayton Business Journal
"Filled with remedies for an ailment that is ravaging workplaces..."-Harvey A. Hornstein, PhD
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Table of Contents
Section 1 The Workplace Bullying Phenomenon: Silent Epidemic
1 Bullying at Work 3
2 Understanding Bullies 21
3 Targethood: An Undeserved Burden 53
4 The Irreconcilable Difference 75
5 Witness Paralysis 85
6 Help from Family and Professionals 97
7 Getting Ready to Confront 115
Section 2 After the Assault, Restoring the Lost You
8 Work Trauma: Understand the Injuries Done to You 133
9 Assess the Bully's Impact 149
10 Establish and Protect Personal Boundaries 163
11 Avoid Unattainable Standards 179
12 Counter Your Inner Critic 185
13 Control Destructive Mind Games 191
14 Escape the Trap of Self-Blame 197
15 Satisfy Your Needs and Wants 207
16 Anger and Shame: Emotions of Bullying 217
Section 3 What Can One Person Do?
17 Make Yourself Safe 231
18 Facing the Future 245
Section 4 Making Employers Responsible
19 The World Declares War on Bullying 255
20 America Wakes Up 267
Appendix A U.S. Workplace Bullying Survey---September 2007 289
Appendix B Employer and Co-worker Response Survey---Labor Day 2008 315
The Drs. Namie: North American Workplace Bullying Pioneers 335
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I'm currently being bullied at work. I'm an award-winning journalist and photojournalist and was hired to be an asset to the newspaper. My abilities intimidated those around me who retaliated by bullying. Stunned by that, I found that the harder I worked, the more I was bullied! Dr.'s Nami are right. The best and the brightest, the nicest and most ethical employees are the targets for the cowardly, incompetent and lazy. The top ten bullying tactics bullies use are: 1. Blame for 'errors' 2. Unreasonable job demands 3. Criticism of Ability 4. Inconsistent compliance with rules 5. Threatens job loss 6. Insults and put-downs 7. Discounting and/or denial of accomplishments 8. Exclusion or 'icing out' 9. Yelling or screaming 10. Stealing credit I've experienced them all! I bet you have too or you wouldn't be looking at bullying books! Not only do the Nami's describe in detail how bullies operate and why they do what they do, he gives some great solutions and tactics targets 'victims' can use to stop the bullying. I've started a blog which references a lot of the things they say in this book, but I'm not the book. Buy this book if you or a child or friend or loved one of yours is being bullied. Subscribe to the free newsletters, visit his site, get involved. We CAN stop bullying and save lives. My blog is at stopworkplacebullies at blogspot. Start with this book and it will put the whole bullying thing into terms you can easily and quickly understand. I'm a writer by profession and this is well-written, easy to read. You can read one chapter, skip ahead to other parts or just reference it and it's all still good. Stop hurting. Get your dignity and peace of mind back. You are not the problem. BULLIES are!! I have been asked to testify before Congress next year about bullying in the media and I'm going to do it AND I'm going to mention this book as one of the top bullying books. It's THAT GOOD. Get it!
In late 2005 I began to have problems at work when our Management changed due to a retirement. The problems were mostly silly, insignificant little things. As things got progressively worse, I knew something wasn't right. I typed in "bad bosses" on the internet and there it was--workplace bullying. That's how I found "The Workplace Bullying and Trauma Institute." I bought and read Dr Namie's book and I almost fell out of my chair. I began to highlight everything that I saw happening to me or other coworkers. There was no doubt about it. This arrogant, big-headed, egotistical man was a workplace bully who did not know how to draw the line between his job, which was ensuring the safety and security of inmates, employees, and civilians and the control he wanted over his employees' lives--at work and after work. Bottom line is he is an incompetent control freak and life is hell for all of us under his command. Dr Namie hit the nail on the head. Chief ***** has destroyed so many people's health, lives, and families and no one will stop him! My husband wants a divorce because he can't handle the mental trauma that this man has caused me. I can't get out because I've been blackballed by him and his Management Team. Evidently they aren't finished tormenting me. I have 4 years to retirement. I don't think I can make it.
If you even think you are dealing with this situation or are a manager trying to prevent this situation from ever happening, this is a MUST read book.
This book does a great job discussing why bullying takes place at work, but it offers very little strategies for dealing with problems, and they were so traditional and obvious. I want to hear about real working strategies that will save my job, and this book doesn't offer that expertise!
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