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“Called to Serve speaks from experience and offers hope like no other book geared toward military families. Picking it up might be the first step to healing. A must read.”
Part 1 Fear
1 God's Got My Twelve: Learning to Trust God 17
2 Fear Not: Going into Battle 23
3 Bed Rest and Casseroles: Coping with the Unknown 29
4 There I Was: The First Combat Mission 34
5 Guess What, Mom? I'm Signing Up! Surrendering Our Children to the Lord 39
6 The Rabbi's Tattoos: Why We Fight 45
Part 2 Transition
7 Please Hear What I'm Not Saying: Taking Time to Listen 55
8 Old Lady on the Train: God's Predestined Plan 62
9 There's a Toilet in My Hallway: Finding Blessings during Tough Times 68
10 Give Me My Sunglasses: Balancing Family and Career 72
11 Bella Italia! Now Let's Go Home: Adjusting to Foreign Military Relocations 77
12 EOS No More: Preparing for Change 84
13 When the Honeymoon Is Over: Life After Deployments 90
Part 3 Loneliness and Grief
14 A New Day's Dawn: Finding Hope after Loss 99
15 The Road Back Home: Winning Battles in the Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder War 106
16 Will He Ever Really Come Home? Restoring Hope to Families Living with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder 118
17 The Academy Pew: Persevering through Loneliness 132
18 Get This Elephant Off My Head! Lifting the Weight of Depression 137
19 I Choose Us: When Love Disappears 143
Part 4 Avoiding Destructive Behavior
20 Don't Play with Thunderstorms: Avoiding Risky Situations while Deployed 151
21 Your Father-in-Law Called: Safeguarding Your Relationship 157
22 Let's Go Yankees: Combating Pornography 161
23 Dog Puke and Celebrities: Dismantling Emotional Land Mines 169
24 Wake up Call: The Realities of Alcohol Abuse 173
25 I'll Just Buy This One Thing: Combating Destructive Behaviors 176
Part 5 Communication
26 C = D: Seeing Ourselves as We Really Are 185
27 Chicks' TDY: The Essence of Military Life 190
28 How Ya Doin'? The Importance of Listening 196
29 Sex and a Bag of Chips: Fulfilling Our Spouse's Love Language 201
30 I Know a Pilot Who: Encouraging Building Integrity 207
31 It's Not All about You: Why We Serve 212
Posted May 3, 2011
This book is a gem. Written by both the military member and spouse, this book has power to heal, connect, strengthen and encourage military couples. There are 31 chapters in the book, categorized by the top stressors to military marriages (as identified by select professional Christian counselors and Armed Forces chaplains). Those are:Fear, Transition, Loneliness and Grief, Avoiding Destructive Behavior, and Communication.
Tony and Penny take turns sharing stories from their own lives. Each begins with a Scripture verse, ends with questions and a prayer, and many of them also include related resources--several of which are new to me, so I was glad to learn about them! This couple tackles tough subjects, such as pornography, depression, adultery and more. But they also address the common everyday stresses military families deal with.
One chapter I think will be especially helpful is called "The Rabbi's Tatoos"--which refer to the numbers branded on the forearm of a rabbi who had survived a Nazi concentration camp. In this chapter, Tony gives his answer to the question, how can Christians kill in war? I have heard this question many times, and I really appreciated this chapter.
I was also riveted by the chapters chronicling the deterioration of this couple's marriage, and how God helped them bring it back from the brink of divorce. Not every chapter is so intense, but they are all interesting. I was laughing out loud (partly in horror!) at the moving story nightmare Penny shared.
While I would not call this a devotional book, since the chapters are mostly personal stories, they do offer quite a bit of hope and lots of points for discussion with your spouse. And though the book is written by an Air Force couple, I believe the lessons translate to any branch. The resources included in this book are thorough. I would recommend this book for every Christian military couple's bookshelf. It would even be a good idea to have a copy for each spouse if you are separated, so you could read it together while you are apart.
Thank you, Lt. Col. Tony Monetti & Penny Monetti for adding a valuable resource for military families!
Posted January 28, 2012
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