Called to Serve: Encouragement, Support, and Inspiration for Military Families


Over 2.9 million US military personnel—facing serious emotional and spiritual challenges—serve in more than 150 countries. Called to Serve pinpoints the needs of these military families. Real-life stories drawn from twenty-three years of military experience offer encouragement, humor, and tools to combat relational threats from the perspective of the “Warrior” (husband) and his “Spouse.” Thirty compelling, uplifting, and encouraging devotionals address the top identified stressors affecting military personnel ...
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Over 2.9 million US military personnel—facing serious emotional and spiritual challenges—serve in more than 150 countries. Called to Serve pinpoints the needs of these military families. Real-life stories drawn from twenty-three years of military experience offer encouragement, humor, and tools to combat relational threats from the perspective of the “Warrior” (husband) and his “Spouse.” Thirty compelling, uplifting, and encouraging devotionals address the top identified stressors affecting military personnel and their families. Each account, tied to relevant Scripture, whets the spiritual palate, encouraging the reader to seek additional encouragement from the Bible.
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Editorial Reviews

Karen Kingsbury

Called to Serve speaks from experience and offers hope like no other book geared toward military families. Picking it up might be the first step to healing. A must read.”
Brigadier General Jonathan George

Called to Serve is a must read for anyone involved with military life and families. The Monettis discuss the full range of topics and issues that confront today’s active duty, guard, and reserve families, from routine inconveniences to life-impacting tragedies to intimate relationships. Regardless of whether the service member is a veteran of numerous deployments or fresh out of basic training, an officer or enlisted, the Monettis’ book is the go-to reference for successfully journeying through a life of defending America. I heartily encourage the reading of Called to Serve!”
The Honorable Allen Clark

“The Monettis have very beautifully and thoughtfully woven together vignettes and lessons from their lives to help other families navigating the always challenging paths of military life. The spiritual underpinnings of their book are constant, strong, and uplifting throughout.”
Chaplain (Major) Den Slattery

“Tony and Penny Monetti have provided military families with a great resource in Called to Serve. As a former military chaplain, I know the strain military families are under with constant deployments and long separations. This results in affairs, abuse, distrust, alienation, and divorce. (The divorce rate in the military is four times that of the civilian world.) This is not just a devotional book, it’s a book on lessons learned from a couple who have been in the military for over twenty years. I would hope that every couple in the military would get a copy of this book and study it together.”
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781572934580
  • Publisher: Discovery House Publishers
  • Publication date: 4/1/2011
  • Pages: 240
  • Sales rank: 729,459
  • Product dimensions: 5.40 (w) x 6.40 (h) x 0.60 (d)

Meet the Author

With 24 years of accrued experience, the Monettis and their three children know military life. Lieutenant Colonel Tony Monetti (USAF, Ret.) is a Distinguished Flying Cross recipient and a former B-2 stealth bomber, B-1, and B-52 pilot who has written numerous articles for military publications. Penny Monetti is an inspirational author who speaks nationwide and is certified through the American Association of Christian Counselors and the American Counseling Association to help military families with post-traumatic stress. The Monettis have shared the message of this book on television and radio programs, including Focus and the Family.
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Table of Contents

Preface 9

Acknowledgments 13

Part 1 Fear

1 God's Got My Twelve: Learning to Trust God 17

2 Fear Not: Going into Battle 23

3 Bed Rest and Casseroles: Coping with the Unknown 29

4 There I Was: The First Combat Mission 34

5 Guess What, Mom? I'm Signing Up! Surrendering Our Children to the Lord 39

6 The Rabbi's Tattoos: Why We Fight 45

Part 2 Transition

7 Please Hear What I'm Not Saying: Taking Time to Listen 55

8 Old Lady on the Train: God's Predestined Plan 62

9 There's a Toilet in My Hallway: Finding Blessings during Tough Times 68

10 Give Me My Sunglasses: Balancing Family and Career 72

11 Bella Italia! Now Let's Go Home: Adjusting to Foreign Military Relocations 77

12 EOS No More: Preparing for Change 84

13 When the Honeymoon Is Over: Life After Deployments 90

Part 3 Loneliness and Grief

14 A New Day's Dawn: Finding Hope after Loss 99

15 The Road Back Home: Winning Battles in the Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder War 106

16 Will He Ever Really Come Home? Restoring Hope to Families Living with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder 118

17 The Academy Pew: Persevering through Loneliness 132

18 Get This Elephant Off My Head! Lifting the Weight of Depression 137

19 I Choose Us: When Love Disappears 143

Part 4 Avoiding Destructive Behavior

20 Don't Play with Thunderstorms: Avoiding Risky Situations while Deployed 151

21 Your Father-in-Law Called: Safeguarding Your Relationship 157

22 Let's Go Yankees: Combating Pornography 161

23 Dog Puke and Celebrities: Dismantling Emotional Land Mines 169

24 Wake up Call: The Realities of Alcohol Abuse 173

25 I'll Just Buy This One Thing: Combating Destructive Behaviors 176

Part 5 Communication

26 C = D: Seeing Ourselves as We Really Are 185

27 Chicks' TDY: The Essence of Military Life 190

28 How Ya Doin'? The Importance of Listening 196

29 Sex and a Bag of Chips: Fulfilling Our Spouse's Love Language 201

30 I Know a Pilot Who: Encouraging Building Integrity 207

31 It's Not All about You: Why We Serve 212

Resources 217

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  • Posted May 3, 2011


    This book is a gem. Written by both the military member and spouse, this book has power to heal, connect, strengthen and encourage military couples. There are 31 chapters in the book, categorized by the top stressors to military marriages (as identified by select professional Christian counselors and Armed Forces chaplains). Those are:Fear, Transition, Loneliness and Grief, Avoiding Destructive Behavior, and Communication.

    Tony and Penny take turns sharing stories from their own lives. Each begins with a Scripture verse, ends with questions and a prayer, and many of them also include related resources--several of which are new to me, so I was glad to learn about them! This couple tackles tough subjects, such as pornography, depression, adultery and more. But they also address the common everyday stresses military families deal with.

    One chapter I think will be especially helpful is called "The Rabbi's Tatoos"--which refer to the numbers branded on the forearm of a rabbi who had survived a Nazi concentration camp. In this chapter, Tony gives his answer to the question, how can Christians kill in war? I have heard this question many times, and I really appreciated this chapter.

    I was also riveted by the chapters chronicling the deterioration of this couple's marriage, and how God helped them bring it back from the brink of divorce. Not every chapter is so intense, but they are all interesting. I was laughing out loud (partly in horror!) at the moving story nightmare Penny shared.

    While I would not call this a devotional book, since the chapters are mostly personal stories, they do offer quite a bit of hope and lots of points for discussion with your spouse. And though the book is written by an Air Force couple, I believe the lessons translate to any branch. The resources included in this book are thorough. I would recommend this book for every Christian military couple's bookshelf. It would even be a good idea to have a copy for each spouse if you are separated, so you could read it together while you are apart.

    Thank you, Lt. Col. Tony Monetti & Penny Monetti for adding a valuable resource for military families!

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