Cancer in Our Family: Helping Children Cope with a Parent's Illness / Edition 2

Cancer in Our Family: Helping Children Cope with a Parent's Illness / Edition 2

by Sue P. Heiney, Joan F. Hermann, Katherine V. Bruss
     
 

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ISBN-10: 0944235956

ISBN-13: 9780944235959

Pub. Date: 08/23/2013

Publisher: American Cancer Society, Incorporated


Winner:
2014 Benjamin Franklin Award, Silver, Parenting and Family Issues
2013 All-Media Contest, Bronze, Book

Finalist:
2014 National Indie Excellent Award
2013 USA Best Book Award, Health - Cancer

A parent's cancer diagnosis can be extremely stressful for children, whether they're toddlers or teenagers, and this

Overview


Winner:
2014 Benjamin Franklin Award, Silver, Parenting and Family Issues
2013 All-Media Contest, Bronze, Book

Finalist:
2014 National Indie Excellent Award
2013 USA Best Book Award, Health - Cancer

A parent's cancer diagnosis can be extremely stressful for children, whether they're toddlers or teenagers, and this helpful, calming guide teaches parents how to talk to children and help allay their fears. With expert advice on the latest psychosocial approaches to helping children cope, this guide helps parents teach children about the diagosis, treatment, potential recurrences of the illness, and terminal illness. It offers a chapter on understanding psychosocial support services and how to use them. An illustrated activity section is also included and helps even the youngest children record their thoughts and feelings so they can learn how to navigate through this emotional time.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780944235959
Publisher:
American Cancer Society, Incorporated
Publication date:
08/23/2013
Edition description:
Second Edition, Second edition
Pages:
218
Sales rank:
1,131,243
Product dimensions:
7.00(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.70(d)

Table of Contents

Introduction

How This Book Can Help xv

Chapter Overviews xvi

Helping Children Cope xvii

Honesty Is the Best Policy xviii

Children's Reactions to a Crisis in the Family xviii

Shock, Disbelief, and Denial xix

Fear and Anxiety xix

Sadness xix

Anger xx

Guilt xx

Physical Symptoms xx

Regression xxi

Children's Developmental Stages xxi

Newborns and Infants xxi

Toddlers (1-3 years) xxii

Preschoolers (3-5 years) xxii

School-Age Children (6-12 years) xxiii

Teenagers (13-18 years) xxiii

Chapter 1 Helping Children Understand a Cancer Diagnosis

Opening the Door to Communication 1

Talking with Your Children 5

Timing Is Everything 5

Consider Your Child's Developmental Stage 7

Talking with Newborns, Infants, and Toddlers 7

Talking with Preschoolers 8

Talking with School-Age Children 9

Talking with Teenagers 10

Children's Common Questions 12

"Are You Going to Die?" 12

"Can I or Someone Else Catch It?" 14

"Is It Inherited?" 14

"Did I Cause It?" 15

"Is It Going to Hurt?" 17

"Is Cancer a Punishment?" 18

"Does Radiation Treatment Make People Radioactive?" 18

"What Is Going to Happen to Me?" 19

Children's Reactions to Learning a Parent Has Cancer 19

Reactions Based on Developmental Stage 20

Expressing Feelings 22

Temporary Setbacks 23

What You Can Do 24

Provide Comfort and Support 28

Manage Changing Roles and Daily Routines 28

Ask for Help 31

Hands-on Tools 31

Chapter 2 Helping Children Understand Treatment

Understanding Your Responses to Treatment 35

Dealing with Your Own Feelings 36

What Children Need to Know 40

How Much Information Is Necessary? 40

Talking with Your Children 41

Talking with Toddlers 43

Talking with Preschoolers 43

Talking with School-Age Children 45

Talking with Teenagers 46

Taking Children to the Hospital or Clinic 52

Helping Children Cope with Your Hospitalization 53

Talking with People at School 54

Children's Emotional Reactions to Treatment 55

Reactions to Uncertainty 57

Coping with Changes 59

Family Routines 59

A New Normal 60

Time Management 60

Friends and Relatives Can Help 62

Set Limits and Maintain Discipline 63

Recognize Achievements and Special Occasions 64

Stay Connected 65

Hands-on Tools 65

Chapter 3 Understanding and Using Psychosocial Support Services

When to Get Help 68

Coping with Stress 68

Symptoms of Distress 69

Financial Instability 73

Using Psychosocial Support Services 75

How to Know if Your Child Needs Help 77

Behavior 77

Playtime 77

Personality 77

Developmental Stage 78

When Things Are Not Getting Better 85

Asking for Help Can Be Difficult 85

Available Services 87

Individual Counseling 87

Counseling for Children 89

Family Counseling 90

Types of Mental Health Professionals 92

Choosing a Counselor for Yourself 94

Choosing a Counselor for Your Child 96

Support Groups for Parents 97

Support Groups for Children 99

Finding and Paying for Services 101

Insurance 101

Chapter 4 Taking Care of Yourself

Therapies to Soothe Your Mind, Body, and Spirit 104

Expressive Therapies 104

Mind and Body Methods 108

Cognitive Therapies 117

Chapter 5 After Treatment Ends

Coping with Change and Uncertainty After Treatment 121

Coping with Strong Emotions After Treatment Ends 122

Fear of Cancer Coming Back 124

Physical Late Effects of Treatment 124

Understanding Children's Feelings After Treatment Ends 125

Children's Fears of Cancer Coming Back 125

Special Challenges with Teenagers 127

Thriving After Cancer Treatment 127

Meeting Your Needs After Treatment 127

Helping Children Adapt and Thrive 130

Coping with Children's Feelings 132

Hands-on Tools 134

Chapter 6 Helping Children Deal with Cancer Coming Back and Advanced Cancer

What You May Be Feeling 137

Explaining Cancer Coming Back to Children 138

Children's Reactions to Cancer Corning Back 139

Dealing with Uncertainty and Anxiety 141

Advanced Cancer 142

Facing Questions About Death and the Future 143

What to Tell Your Children 144

Testing Faith 147

Children's Reactions to a Parent's Potential Death 148

Helping Your Children Cope 150

Letting Others Help 150

The Impact of Cancer on a Child's Future 152

If a Parent Dies: Guidelines for Caregivers 152

Preparing for the Death of a Parent 152

When a Parent Dies 153

Dealing with Grief 153

Hands-on Tools 154

Chapter 7 Special Issues

Single Parent Families 157

Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Families 159

Other Problems that May Impact a Family Dealing with Cancer 160

Marital Instability 160

Children and Divorce 162

Alcoholism or Drug Abuse 163

When Children Are Facing Other Losses 165

Conclusion

The New Normal 167

Kids' Corner: Removable Workbook for Kids

How to Use This Workbook 169

Resource Guide

American Cancer Society Support Programs and Services 199

General Cancer Resources 201

Caregiver Resources 204

Resources for Children, Adolescents, and Young Adults 207

Resources for Breast Cancer Patients 209

Additional Resources 211

Professional Mental Health Organizations 216

Other Useful Web Sites 218

Additional References 221

Books Published by the American Cancer Society 223

Index 225

About the Authors 231

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