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Today I have a fresh start. I choose to begin letting
go of unhealthy thoughts, feelings and
attitudes that have stifled my growth. Today I
choose to think new thoughts, to look at new values
and to find new ways of expressing my God-given
gifts. I now choose to deepen my understanding of
others and myself. I will look at my relationships
with family and my friends in a new light. I choose
to have vital, healthy interactions
with others. I truly welcome this
new day, this new year and this
new me. I welcome the wonderful
possibilities open to me.
Be like a sponge when
it comes to each new
experience. If you want
to be able to express it
well, you must first be
able to absorb it well.
When I grew up, I learned not to rock the boat; asserting my own opinions and desires could get me in trouble. Sometimes I carry this over in my parenting; I don't take a stand or set limits. When my children push or threaten to get angry, the fear I felt as a child comes up and my reaction is to placate them and keep the peace. This is not healthy. I need to feel those fears I felt as a child along with the sense of helplessness that overwhelmed me. I need to separate myself as a child from myself as an adult. I also need to separate my inner child from the child I am raising.
Loving a child doesn't mean giving in to all his whims; to love him is to bring out the best in him, to teach him to love what is difficult.
©2005. Rokelle Lerner.Tian Dayton. All rights reserved. Reprinted from Chicken Soup for Every Mom's Soul by
Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, Peter Vegso, Gary Seidler, Theresa Peluso, Tian Dayton, Rokelle Lerner and Robert Ackerman. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or transmitted in any form or by any means, without the written permission of the publisher. Publisher: Health Communications, Inc., 3201 SW 15th Street, Deerfield Beach, FL 33442.