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Child Care for Love or Money?: The Paradox of Child Care: A Guide to the Relationship between Parents and in-Home Caregivers

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Focusing on the parent-caregiver relationship as only an employer-employee contract is an attempt to bound something that is, inevitably, a sticky, unbounded situation. Parents struggle with issues that touch on the caregiver's value to the family, such as money, time, control, and autonomy. They struggle with what to call the care-giver and how to describe her role. They struggle with their attachment to her, her attachment to them and to their child, and their child's attachment to her. In addition, parents and...
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Overview

Focusing on the parent-caregiver relationship as only an employer-employee contract is an attempt to bound something that is, inevitably, a sticky, unbounded situation. Parents struggle with issues that touch on the caregiver's value to the family, such as money, time, control, and autonomy. They struggle with what to call the care-giver and how to describe her role. They struggle with their attachment to her, her attachment to them and to their child, and their child's attachment to her. In addition, parents and caregivers alike struggle with separations, transitions, reunions, and finally, how and when to end the relationship. Undoubtedly, cultural and social class differences contribute to these struggles, but it is from more universal human dynamics that these conflicts arise. Child Care for Love or Money? A Guide to Navigating the Parent-Caregiver Relationship provides a framework to understand and manage the multifaceted relationship between them. Why bother? Because the child's emotional development and well-being are inevitably influenced by its quality and tone. Success in this relationship lies in finding a balance that enables parents and caregivers to move between the boundaries where parental functions and attachments are shared and relinquished each day. When parents and caregivers are aware of the central paradox that exists and collaborate to make it work, they make room for a wide range of positive experiences, as well as unsettling ones, between them.

Disc. dynamics of in-home child care; supervision; family boundaries; emotions, attachment; employer/employee issues.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780765701787
  • Publisher: Aronson, Jason Inc.
  • Publication date: 2/1/1999
  • Edition number: 1
  • Pages: 258
  • Product dimensions: 6.40 (w) x 9.26 (h) x 1.05 (d)

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments
Introduction
Pt. I Understanding the Parent-Caregiver Relationship
1 For Love or Money? 3
2 Defining the Boundaries 23
3 How Parents and Caregivers Experience Their Relationship 49
4 From Employee to Member of the Family 81
5 Things Aren't Always What They Seem 111
Pt. II A Guide to the Parent-Caregiver Relationship
6 The Good-Enough Relationship 129
7 Maintaining a Good-Enough Relationship 163
8 Calling It Quits 187
9 Why It Works When It Does 229
Endnotes 241
Index 253
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