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WHAT DO WE TEACH, AND HOW?
BASED ON CHAPTERS SEVEN AND EIGHT
LEADER ADVANCE PREPARATION
Read Chapters 7 and 8 of this book and become familiar with the suggested session outline below. Think of one time in your life when you had to learn something new. Be prepared to tell about it briefly, if it's needed to stimulate class discussion.
SUGGESTED SESSION OUTLINE
Prayer. Ask for new insight on how to teach your children what they need to know.
Welcome. Ask new class members to tell about themselves and their children, and invite others to tell briefly about their experience in teaching new skills or adjusting their parenting styles in the past week. (Don't let this consume the hour!)
2. TOPICS FOR SESSION THREE
AGE APPROPRIATE SKILLS
Look at lists on pages 87 and 91. Note:
a. Each list is for a range of ages. Some skills are too difficult for the youngest members of each age range.
b. "Skills" for two- and three-year-olds don't really help the parent, but merely provide a way for a child to work beside the parent. By the time a child is four, however, the tasks are genuinely needed by a family team and are skills a child needs to know.
HOW TO TEACH A SKILL
a. Exercise: Remember a time when you had to learn a new thing. How did you learn it? (Leader may need to begin, in order to spark others' memories.)
b. For discussion: What helps us, as adults, learn something new?
c. Look at "How to Teach a Child a Skill" and read aloud "What Kids Hate" below. Note that children learn the same way adults do: by being told, shown, allowed to try it, supervised, and allowed to fail and try again.
d. Exercise: Ask for two volunteers to teach the class how to wash dishes. Afterwards, as a group, critique their teaching. What did they do well? Not so well? Did they teach the entire process from start to finish?
e. Recap: When teaching, teach skills, not chores; teach skills appropriate to the age and ability of that particular child; and teach complete skills.
HOW TO MAKE TEACHING EASIER
Exercise: Assign the following to different members of the group to read and briefly share with the entire class:
Tips to Help Preschoolers Learn
Tips to Help Preschoolers Learn, continued
Have materials in an appropriate size
Work alongside a child
Advance from the simple to the difficult
Teach safety as you teach responsibility
Never redo a job a child has done
HOW TO MAKE CLEANING MORE FUN
a. Point out games under "I'd Rather Be Playing".
b. For discussion: What has worked for families in the class to make learning easier and cleaning more fun?
Close with prayer for each family in the class.
1. Read Chapter 5 for next week.
2. Practice: Try one of the cleaning games from Chapter 8 in your family this week.
BASED ON CHAPTER FIVE
LEADER ADVANCE PREPARATION
Read Chapter 5 and become familiar with the suggested session outline below. Ask four or five class members to do the role playing for the group. Assign parts ahead of time so members can study their roles and not start out cold.
SUGGESTED SESSION OUTLINE
Prayer. Thank God together for setting us in families and for giving us the families we have. Pray for wisdom to become a team that supports and nurtures one another.
Welcome. Meet new class members. Ask former class members to share how their cleaning games went this week, or their progress in teaching household skills at home.
Recap. So far the class has learned:
a. Children need to learn skills to care for themselves and the world around them, to learn to serve others, and to learn to be part of a family.
b. Children can often do more than we expect them to do at a given age.
c. Household skills have to be taught; they are not instinctively learned.
2. TOPICS FOR SESSION FOUR
INTRODUCING THE FAMILY MEETING CONCEPT
a. How many families in the group already have family meetings? Ask any who do to describe what happens and how they are structured. Do they deal just with chores or with other family concerns? How often are meetings held?
b. For discussion: The box "Why Have a Family Meeting?" gives some reasons for meeting together. What value can you see in holding meetings in your own families? What resistances would you run into? How could they be overcome?
WHAT DOES A FAMILY MEETING LOOK LIKE?
a. Role-play a family meeting (10-15 minutes).
Mother: Believes that hers is the only correct way to clean. However, she is convinced that her children need to learn household skills (done her way) and she's also overwhelmed by all she has to do. Prepare ahead by making a list of everything that needs to be done and by reading pages 68 - 70 to give you some ideas of what to say.
Father: Believes housework is women's work, except he is also willing to wash dishes, which he does very well. Otherwise, he feels that earning the living is his share in family responsibilities. However, he is willing to support his wife in getting the children to help around the house. His preferred method of doing that is for someone (himself) to tell them what they are to do each week. Prepare ahead by reading "I Have Too Much To Do" and "It's Your Job".
First child: Very involved in music lessons, sports, and school. Doesn't want to do housework at all. Prepare ahead by reading "I Can't".
Second child: Doesn't mind doing housework, but has own ideas about when and how it ought to be done, and resents being told, rather than asked, to do it.
Situation: A very first family meeting. Mother has called the meeting to present her list of everything that needs to be done to keep the house running smoothly, to ask for help with housework, and to convince the others that the children need to learn household skills. Play out the situation based on how you think your own families would act.
b. For discussion: In what ways was this realistic? Unrealistic? What did the family accomplish? How might they have accomplished more? How might we use family meetings in our own homes?
Thank your local actors.
Pray for each family by name as you seek to become family teams and teach children what they need to know to become mature adults.
1. Read Chapter 9 and reread "A Room of One's Own" on page 95 and "Defusing General Resistance".
2. Practice: Hold a family meeting, if you think your family is ready for one.