|Life and Relationships||3|
|What Is Civility?||7|
|Respect in Action||13|
|Happiness and the Mind||15|
|How Do We Learn to Love?||18|
|Civility and Self-Expression||21|
|Nice Guys Finish Last. Or Do They?||25|
|The Science of Love and Social Support||28|
|About the Rules||31|
|Part 2||The Rules|
|3.||Think the Best||44|
|7.||Don't Speak Ill||64|
|8.||Accept and Give Praise||69|
|9.||Respect Even a Subtle "No"||74|
|10.||Respect Others' Opinions||77|
|11.||Mind Your Body||81|
|13.||Keep It Down (and Rediscover Silence)||93|
|14.||Respect Other People's Time||97|
|15.||Respect Other People's Space||100|
|18.||Avoid Personal Questions||116|
|19.||Care for Your Guests||122|
|20.||Be a Considerate Guest||126|
|21.||Think Twice Before Asking for Favors||131|
|22.||Refrain from Idle Complaints||136|
|23.||Accept and Give Constructive Criticism||141|
|24.||Respect the Environment and Be Gentle to Animals||146|
|25.||Don't Shift Responsibility and Blame||152|
|Striking Through the Form to the Substance||163|
|I Did It My Way||165|
|Authority on the Wane||167|
|The Age of the Self||169|
|Living Among Strangers||171|
|The Drive to Achieve||173|
|How We Play the Game||176|
|Two Sides of the Coin||179|
|What to Do||182|
|Suggestions for Further Reading||195|
Choosing Civility: The Twenty-Five Rules of Considerate Conductby P. M. Forni
Pub. Date: 02/28/2002
Publisher: St. Martin's Press
In Choosing Civility, P. M. Forni offers twenty-five rules for connecting effectively with others -- at home, at work, in our daily encounters. In clear, witty, and thoughtful sections, Forni covers topics that include: Think Twice Before Asking Favors; Refrain from Idle Complaints; Don't Shift Responsibility and Blame; Accept and Give Praise; Give Constructive Criticism; Respect Others' Opinions; Care for Your Guests Finally, Forni provides examples of how to put each rule into practice and so make life -- and the lives of others -- more enjoyable, companionable, and rewarding.
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Choosing Civility is a must-read, must-have for life. I adopted this book as a text in a series of University courses I teach that focus on the understanding and development of the self in the fall semester and the understanding of others in the spring semester. It is one of the most valuable tools to help examine how we should treat one another and why we do what we choose to do in life. It addresses the simple daily interactions that are a part of one's world, but seem to be missing today. This book helps us to consider how we should attend to our interpersonal and intrapersonal lives by helping us to visualize and identify the traits we want to strive to incorporate into our lives right now. It can be seen as a rule book for living in a world of people. I highly recommend it to help bring self-awareness and to help us make better CHOICES about just who we want to be and to live more conscious lives.
Choosing Civility: The Twenty Five Rules for Considerate Conduct by P.M. Forni, was in my opinion, a well written and informative public press novel suited for any personalities liking. Forni, the creator of the civility project at John Hopkins University, has divulged tremendous research and effort into the learning and processing of incivility throughout society. He had originally obtained his undergraduate degree from a University in his native Italy. He finished up his education by earning his doctorate from UCLA in Roman Literature. Do not let that fool you into thinking he may not have been credible to instruct others on how to act civilly. The book is aimed at the general public and I believe it does an incredible job at achieving that goal. It is not written to an academic only type standard; rather it is tailored to anyone capable of understanding around a high school level writing style. By first glancing at the title, one may be lead to believe this book is centered on a generic list of rules instructing you how to act. This is not at all the case. This book was written with humorous real life scenarios that you can or have seen yourself in. He used vivid imagery to gain your recognition of incivility, and then pointed out to you how you should be acting instead. There was multiple times where I had laughed out loud while reading. The comedic tone to his writing, along with his real life situations had not only made the read enjoyable and beneficial, but fast as well. I would highly recommend this book to anyone one looking for a few great lessons on incivility, a quick and insightful read, or just a plain old enjoyable form of literature.
With the book "Choosing Civility" by P.M. Forni you're going to need a highlighter for this one. I marked up my whole book. It's filled with good advice. Yes it's a small little book but there is so much to learn from. Some examples of nice simple rules for being civil," Pay Attention," "Speak kindly," "Be a Considerate Guest," and so on. Forni gives good meaning to his twenty-five rules in short descriptions. It's an easy book to read.
So necessary in the mean world we live in! It helps us choose civility!
This is a wonderful book. A good gift for graduates, someone starting a new job, or for any occasion. Self improvement enthusiasts should have this book in their collection. Some of the things the author talks about are both simple and profound. For example, one of the rules is Be Inclusive. The author encourages you to reevaluate your dislikes, try speaking and listening to somebody you do not like, and to show an interest in cultures besides your own. You will find out that being an outstanding human being is complex. The publisher describes this book as magical. I agree.
Various levels of inconsiderate behavior seem to have become daily habits in our goal-oriented society. Whether it's malicious office gossip or road rage, such incivility essentially contributes to decreased personal and professional satisfaction. But in today's fast-paced world, it seems a constant challenge to maintain poise and cordiality in the face of everyday difficulties. With the author's preceding claim that he is a 'flawed messenger bearing a good message', P.M. Forni offers a combination of common sense and ethics which culminate in a rediscovery of strategies to become more sensitive and considerate towards eachother. His thoughtful handbook Choosing Civility is more than a simple manners guide or book of etiquette rules, but an unearthing of the inherent values that somehow got trampled upon in our modern day race towards success. This enjoyable and insightful book is worth anyone's time who values their physiological health, interpersonal relationships, job satisfaction, or company's bottom line.