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From the Trade Paperback edition.
|1.||God's Antidote for Dating Disease||17|
|2.||A Prescription for Failure||33|
|4.||Making a "Good" Choice or a "God" Choice||75|
|5.||Preparing to Be God's Choice||91|
|6.||Crumble Proofing Your Foundation||107|
|7.||Relating without Dating||129|
|8.||Recognizing God's Voice||155|
|10.||Two Becoming One for a Lifetime||187|
|Afterword: True Testimonies of Choosing God's Best||207|
A friend gave me this book three years ago and I never read it. Around October last year, the Holy Spirit directed me to the book on my shelf and I have not stopped talking about this book ever since. This book is a must read for ALL Christian singles, who are like me and desire to do things God's way. After falling flat on my face over and over again in the "dating" scene, in and out of relationships the same way I breath air in and out of my body, and breaking off an engagement, I had no other alternative but to do things God's way. I have never been as happy as I am now. This book provides Biblical-based truths about relationships and how we as Christians are to govern ourselves in relationships with the opposite sex. Since reading the book, I have committed myself to waiting for God to send my husband and no longer "dating". I believe that God knows what is best for all of us, and if we just wait on His perfect mate for our lives, in His own perfect timing, only then will we have good success!! (and end the ugly, devistating, heart-breaking, profane cycle of dating)
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Posted March 14, 2008
'Choosing God's Best' is the worst book ever for Christian singles. Case in point...This is an entirely unbiblical teaching: 'The chief enemy you fight in choosing God¿s best will be your own strong inclination to make a good choice instead of a God choice'. This is also an entirely unbiblical teaching: 'Before you can determine whom to marry, you must first answer an preliminary question: Does God want you to marry anyone, ever? Or is His plan for you to remain single?' The Bible NEVER says anywhere that we must find out from God whether or not He wants us to stay single or get married, and if so, to whom. And there are no examples anywhere in the New Testament where someone sought God's personal opinion on these questions and got answers. No generation of Christians EVER considered singleness to be a gift, or marriage for that matter. ¿I wish that all men were as I am. but each man has his own gift from God, does NOT mean 'God will either give to a person the gift of being married or the gift of being single'. This was a mistake made by the editors of the Living Bible in the 70's. The latter part of 1 Cor 7:7 'which is conspiciously absent here' reads, some of one kind, some of another. Paul was NOT referring to two specific gifts 'like this, singleness and that, marriage' but rather the variety of gifts that we each may be given, and in his case, it was most likely the gift to contain himself sexually, although he doesn't state this specifically. So in light of the gifts 'ie. abilities' that we each have, we are free to CHOOSE marriage or remain unmarried, as Paul goes on to say in verses 8 & 9. Some may be gifted with enablements that might incline one to choose singleness, but that does NOT mean that that Paul considered unwanted circumstantial singleness a gift 'btw- suffering is NEVER considered biblically to be a gift, only when it occurs in the context of persecution for the sake of the church'. Unfortunately, this mistranslation has resulted in a generation of Christians who have been taught to believe that since God gives you either marriage or singleness as a equal gifts, you should be equallly happy to get either. And that since it's up to God, you don't have to take much initiative, and to do so might be sinful. As Raunikar writes: 'If and when God decides you can best serve Him as a team member with a life partner, you won't need to change Sunday school classes, search the singles ads, or join a dating service. He will work out the circumstances. 'He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD' 'Proverbs 18:22'. This favor of the Lord is what God extends to His children in arranging the circumstances for them to meet their life partners.' Raunikar has it completely backwards in claiming that God grants you favor in arranging circumstances and then you meet your life partner, when it's clear that the actual verse reads that you get out there and find a wife 'finds what is GOOD' AND THEN the Lord grants you favor! It is astounding that he would encourage this kind of magical thinking, which inevitably discourages Christians from becoming active agents in their search for a mate. Especially amid our current epidemic of protracted singleness and declining birthrates! Young Christian women, who currently outnumber their single male counterparts two to one, cannot afford to waste their most fertile years on this kind of hyper-spiritualized nonsense. It's one thing to believe in the sovereignty of God and to take everything to the Lord in prayer as the old hymn goes. But it's quite another when you presume to get an unmistakable answer or clear path in response to every question you ask him, particularly when it comes to mate-finding, which is the most human decision you will ever make. Truth be told, Christians get married the same way as everyone else: a mix of 'man 'or woman' with a mission' and 'how'd that happen?!'. Dr. Raunikar di
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Posted February 29, 2008
I didn't find this book helpful at all, this book is by far the most legalistic book ever written for Christian singles. However we must not sit on the side lines & have a pity party, We must do our part to meet people & develop Friendships with other believers that's really how the Lord leads us to the right mate.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.