Coaching Yourself to Leadership


What would happen if a respected business coach gave you a new model for leadership that could help you achieve the happiness, productivity and fulfillment at work you so desire? It would change your life. That's exactly what author Ginny O'Brien has done. She's a certified business coach who draws on an approach she's used successfully for years in her practice to develop effective leaders. It integrates competencies from three domains of leadership-self, work and others-and emphasizes both masculine and ...
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What would happen if a respected business coach gave you a new model for leadership that could help you achieve the happiness, productivity and fulfillment at work you so desire? It would change your life. That's exactly what author Ginny O'Brien has done. She's a certified business coach who draws on an approach she's used successfully for years in her practice to develop effective leaders. It integrates competencies from three domains of leadership-self, work and others-and emphasizes both masculine and feminine elements of strength.O'Brien's themes-be authentic, visionary, emotionally intelligent, an assertive communicator and connected to others through relationships and alliances-are covered in-depth in separate chapters. Exercises, tools and specific guidance are also provided to help you turn the information presented into everyday practices.The purpose of the book is not to help you become the next Jack Welch-being a great leader doesn't mean you have to get to the top. Rather, it is to provide you with practices and techniques that will transform you into a more positive, authentic leader who can make work better for yourself and those you currently lead.Sample topics:
* Identifying values: Getting to the core of you
* The dilemma of defensive behaviors
* Leadership and parenting: The same skill set
* Dealing with people you don't respect
* Assertive vs aggressive
* Passive-aggressive communicators: The Alienators
* The art of asking powerful questions
* Managing your fear
* The problem with delegating perfection
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Editorial Reviews

Gail McMeekan
Ginny has created an excellent self-study guidebook illustrating the essential ingredients of leadership savvy and advancement. Her 5-part skill model outlines the necessary change process to achieve improvement and mastery. Spiced with practical case examples and provocative coaching exercises, this book is a valuable tool for today's leaders who must take responsibility for their own professional development.
Lynn Robinson
In Coaching Yourself to Leadership, Ginny O'Brien takes a fresh look at what it takes to be a truly effective leader. She believes that "leadership develops internally with a deep understanding of self, but blossoms externally from knowing how to empathize, engage and communicate with others." If you aspire to leadership, or simply want to understand it better, you owe it to yourself to read this important book on a critical subject.
Sydney Rice
Ginny has done it again! Coaching Yourself to Leadership: Five Key Strategies for Becoming an Integrated Leader is a highly readable, well organized window into what it really takes to become a leader in today's economy. No pat formulas here. Just wise suggestions, great exercises and lots of practical knowledge gleaned from a rich background of excellent research and many years of successfully coaching her clients. This book goes straight into my library - our coaching clients are going to love
Tami Brady
This book looks at leadership from a "feminine" perspective... is unique ... definitely worth a read.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780874258691
  • Publisher: Human Resource Development Press
  • Publication date: 9/1/2005
  • Edition description: New Edition
  • Pages: 200
  • Product dimensions: 5.50 (w) x 8.50 (h) x 0.40 (d)

Meet the Author

Ginny O'Brien is an executive and corporate coach, specializing in leadership development and women’s advancement. In 1998, she founded The Columbia Consultancy, a leadership development coaching firm. Ginny’s coaching model encompasses five core areas of development: authenticity, vision and strategic thinking, emotional intelligence, assertive communication, and the ability to build and nurture strategic relationships. She has worked with managers, directors and executives — both men and women — from small, medium and large companies. Her corporate clients include Thomson Financial, Avery Dennison, Omgeo, Texas Instruments, VHB, Inc., and Bingham McCutchen, LLP.

A skilled facilitator and workshop leader, Ginny has led leadership and career development workshops for over 100 organizations, including Salomon Smith Barney, Shell Oil, Xerox, Eastman Kodak, Fidelity Investments, Pricewaterhouse Coopers, Texas Instruments, Verizon, Chubb, Viacom, and McKinsey & Company. She also conducts leadership and career development teleclasses.

In addition to Coaching Yourself to Leadership: Five Key Strategies for Becoming an Integrated Leader, she is also the author of Success on Our Own Terms: Tales of Extraordinary, Ordinary Business Women (John Wiley, 1998) and The Fast Forward MBA in Business (John Wiley, 1996). She was a contributing author to Winning in the New Europe: Taking Advantage of the Single Market (Prentice Hall, 1992) and her articles on business intelligence and career strategies have been published in major magazines, including Working Woman, Self, Women in Business, Business Woman, Business Woman Canada, Planning Review, London Commerce and The Journal of European Business.

Ginny was a member of MIT’s organizational learning pioneer group that developed learning histories and she edited two of the first corporate learning histories written. She also publishes a monthly e-mail newsletter on leadership and career development that has approximately 1,500 subscribers. She has been featured in major newspapers and magazines, including O, The Oprah Magazine, and is listed in the International Who’s Who of Professional and Business Women.

During her career she has held management positions in communications and public relations, and has worked for small businesses, nonprofit organizations and major corporations. Ginny has also taught organizational communication, writing, and lead
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Table of Contents

Acknowledgments xi

Introduction xiii

Chapter 1 Be Authentic: Work According to Your Values 1

Who Are You? 1

Reflecting Your Way to Authenticity 3

My Values 4

Values: The Case of Ruth 6

Identifying Values: Getting to the Core You 8

A List of Values 8

Core Values Exercise 10

Beliefs Can Make or Break You 12

Affirmations Create Possibilities 14

Negative Beliefs Rob You of Power 16

Unraveling Your Behavior Patterns: The Story of Brian 17

The Dilemma of Defensive Behaviors 19

Feeling Small 20

Positive Imaging Exercise 21

Authenticity Summary Steps 21

Coaching Questions on Authenticity and Values 23

Chapter 2 Be Visionary: Know Where You Want to Go and How to Get There 25

Dream Big Passionate Dreams 25

Understand Your Vision and Life Purpose 27

Vision and Life Purpose Exercise 28

Vision and Gender 29

Turning My Vision into Reality 31

Assessing Your Skills: How Integrated Are You? 34

Easy Assessments You Can Do Yourself 35

Integrated Leadership: Three Domains 36

Getting Feedback from Others 37

Integrated Leadership Competencies: Self-Assessment 37

Gap Analysis: Creating Yearly Strategies for Success 39

Mini-Feedback 40

Charting Your Goals 42

Goals and Actions Sample 44

Being Comfortable Outside Your Comfort Zone 45

The Risk Bull's Eye 47

Managing Your Fear 47

My Mistakes 48

Learning to Trust Your Intuition 50

Transferring Skills: From the Personal to the Professional 51

Risk and Intuition Exercise 52

Vision and Smarts Summary Steps 53

Coaching Questions on Vision 54

Chapter 3 Be Emotionally Intelligent: Build Your EQ Muscles 57

EQ at Work: Maintaining EmotionalControl 58

Vacillating Between Extremes 59

Understanding Your Emotions: The Story of Rose 61

What's Your EQ? 64

Emotional Intelligence Self-Assessment 65

Develop Trust Through Good Judgment 68

Confidence in Confidentiality 69

Leadership Links with Learning 69

EQ Bridges Differences 70

EQ and Relational Competence 71

Diversity: The Case of Lyn and Tony 72

Leadership and Parenting: The Same Skill Set 74

Integrated Leadership: Accessing Masculine and Feminine Energy 75

Leadership Styles Determine Organizational Culture 76

Leadership Styles 77

Integrating Styles: The Story of Mike 78

Dealing with People You Don't Respect 79

The Problem with Delegating Perfection 80

Emotional Intelligence Summary Steps 82

Coaching Questions on Emotional Intelligence 83

Chapter 4 Be Assertive: Know How to Communicate Effectively 85

Assertive versus Aggressive 86

Passive Coirmwiicators: The Retreaters 86

Passive-Aggressive Communicators: The Alienators 87

Communication Styles 89

Staying Grounded and Assertive 89

Presence: An Essential Intangible of Leadership 90

Non-Assertive Communication: The Case of Sonia and Diana 91

Your Communication Style 93

Listening Skills for Leaders 95

My Listening Barriers 96

Listening Barriers Exercise 97

Listening: A Key to Influencing 99

Building Trust Requires Listening 101

The Art of Asking Powerful Questions 101

Skillful Conversations: An Optimum Tool for Communicating 103

A Framework for a Skillful Conversation 107

Negotiation: Taking Skillful Conversations to the Next Level 107

Advocating for Yourself 109

Managing Evaluations 110

Gender Differences in Communicating 112

Leadership Requires Setting Expectations and Giving Feedback 114

Managing "No" 116

Assertiveness Summary Steps 118

Coaching Questions on Assertive Communication 119

Chapter 5 Be Connected: Build Strategic Relationships 121

Alliance Building: Is There Something to Learn from Reality Shows? 121

Lessons in Alliance Building 124

Building Alliances Exercise 125

Mentors: A Critical Alliance 126

Mentors Make Things Happen 127

How I Met My Mentor 128

Finding and Nurturing Mentoring Relationships 129

Managing Up: Building a Good Relationship with Your Boss 131

Dealing with a Difficult Boss 132

Building Your Team: The Ultimate Test of Leadership 133

Motivating Your Team 135

The Story of Cheryl: A Partnership Approach to Team Building 137

Motivation Exercise 138

Networking: The Basics 139

Network with Conscious Intent 140

Presenting with Presence 141

The Elevator Speech 142

Your Elevator Speech 143

Building Relationships: Focus on the Other Person 144

Networking Do's and Don'ts 145

Strategic Relationships Summary Steps 146

Coaching Questions on Strategic Relationships 148

Conclusion 149

About the Author 153

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